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How do you pass the time?

Sitting in the Orlando, Florida airport watching this long long line of folks waiting to check-in has me thinking how we pass waiting time.

I’m not that great at waiting. Patience for lines is not high for me. My preference in life is to be productive. I’m rarely only doing one thing. I will hand quilt or play a crosstitch game while watching a movie or a show. I’ll listen to a podcast while I shower. I’ll write while sitting in the airport.

How do you tackle the times we must wait? In the era of cell phones and the web at our fingertips all hours of the day we have much more to keep our selves busy. But here’s a few things we can do without electronics.

1. Reading. Always having a book to read helps no matter the line.

2. Draw. If you enjoy this, keeping a sketch book and pencil well help you pass the time.

3. Write. Can make up stories about all the folks you watch while waiting in line. Can work on ideas.

4. Meditate. Take deep quiet breaths. Close your eyes for a few seconds. Send positive thoughts out into the universe.

5. Visualization. Can think of dreams. Can picture plans. Can create whole scenes in mind.

Sometimes we have no choice about the lines we need to wait in. Today that’s this line to get home. But having things to keep me busy help me deal with the inconvenience. I hope you have ways too.

Just a quick video.
I sound so thrilled. Lol.
Posted in Sunday quotes

Reposting; a year later! Sunday reflections; thinking about love in the time of Covid.

I am having a hard day.  I miss my kids.  I miss going to meet friends.  I miss just being able to walk around a book store (one of my favorite things).  And I am finding the longer this quarantine and stay home order lasts, the toll it can take on our relationships.

As we are home, all together, all hours of all the days, some of us may find this harder than others.  For those that are like me, who need alone time, this time could feel claustrophobic, caged in, overwhelming and these feelings are not very conducive to creating a loving atmosphere.

So this has me thinking about the ease of love.  How easy it is to love one another when we have some space, other activities and things to take up our time.  When we have escapes if you will with our friends or colleagues.  When we see new and different things out in the world that we can bring home and share.  When we seem or our partners seem more interesting. And while there are tough times in all relationships, I think this moment in time has magnified ALL things.  And some of these are tough, not so great.

We are not getting breaks.  We are not seeing other faces.  We do not have a random story to share when we come from work as we work from home all week.  We are stuck together with those we may choose or not choose to be with.  How do you keep loving in the midst of this time?  How do you let this moment bind you together and strengthen you rather than weaken?

As I struggle today, have a headache from too many tears, I am reminded of the love we have in our faith.  I have been listening on repeat to songs that bring me hope, encouragement and strength.  I am reminded that Love casts out Fear.  We have this time to build rather than tear down.  We are getting a gift; although it does not feel like it every day.

Love as an emotion is easy.  It says all the “right’ things, makes you smile and feel good.  It doesn’t take any real strength or action to tell someone you love them.  But I have always viewed love as a verb.  It is more than an emotion.  It has to be tough.  It has to weather storms, battles and disease.  It has to speak truth when your feelings are hurt.  It has to share more than a kiss and hug.  It has to accept sad and happy moments.  It pushes through pain and sorrow and fear.  It has to act in a way of honesty and integrity. If it has the power to cast out fear; then it has the power to bring us strength; to build, to render hope. And in this current season, it has an opportunity to shine through some hard moments.

Loving your family in an all day, everyday, feeling way is easy.  But in this unexpected time we are living in across the world right now, it has required us to get very real with our actions.  It has shown me how much harder this is to do when we are all together all the time.  When each one is processing loss and sadness.  When at times there are just too many people and meals and needs.

Each one of us is handling this time differently and we all have different ways we need to receive love.  Today for me that meant pouring my grief, frustrations, pain all out on this man I share my life with.  And him trying very hard to show me love back when I can imagine I was not that lovable.  But that is what love does; it accepts all.  All the ugly moments.  All the good.  And in this time of uncertainty and loss; we can choose to see the moments “stuck at home” as an opportunity to grow in our love.  Love can handle the honesty, it can handle the sorrow and the pain.  It can handle being quarantined if we let it.

I hope that wherever you are you are loved.  I hope you have someone who holds you even when your eyes hurt to stay open because they have cried too many tears.  I hope this time strengthens your relationships.   And if alone, know that none of us are ever truly alone.  We are all going through this human experience; we are in this together.

Keep holding onto love.

Same date 2021– Life looks very much the same only now it’s been over a year. Much less tough days and leaning into the gift of time. Loving on those I love. I think this last year has brought us closer. When you lean into love; the gifts are beyond rewarding.

I hope the world since covid has brought more blessings to your world as it has ours. ❤️

 

 

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Rainy days

As the New Year has started, our typical Northwest winter weather has hit! Rain. Rain and more rain. I’m already over it and we’re barely into January.

I saw a little boy running and jumping in the rain today. For some reason it stopped me. I thought, how often do we run in the rain? How often do we abandon ourselves to childlike play?

So much of this adult life is about responsibilities. About serious things. Growing up so often means leaving childish play behind.

How do you approach a new year? Do you set goals? Create schedules and plans? Map out a plan to achieve new heights?

While setting goals and having dreams are all good there’s something to be said for easing into even more or greater responsibilities. Perhaps as we start a fresh year; with renewed hope for all the new brings; perhaps we may learn to dance or sing or play; maybe even in the rain.

Posted in Monday Musings

What would you do if your life depended on it?

I heard someone say the other day; what if you behaved like your life depended on it?” Would you show up? Take action?” This has me thinking deeply. What would be different? What would I change if my life depended on my every action?

We don’t like to think about our mortality, but it’s there every single day. Paying attention to it or not doesn’t change the fact that we have an expiration date. That this life experience will end.

So why aren’t we living like our life depends on us showing up and having the best life we can? Because really every day depends on us showing up and doing all the things we have to so we can pay our bills, feed and cloth ourselves and take care of those that depend on us.

And we might as well be enjoying this life as much as possible! This life is supposed to be Full of Abundance! What are you doing each day to create more of what you enjoy?

Join me as I dive deeper into what I’m doing to live more abundantly. 😊

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Excuses

How often do you find yourself making excuses for why you are not where you want to be? Are you trying to lose weight but you just can’t? Are you tired of feeling broke but you just can’t get ahead for whatever reason? Are you not happy with your relationships and they always seem to be the same but you don’t know why?

There are so many ways in which we make excuses for the things that are not going “right” in our lives. Often we find other people are the target for these reasons; “My spouse doesn’t support me.” “I have kids” “My boss is too demanding.” We have all heard or even used these at one time or another. Or we blame that we are too busy. We do not have enough money. Or the classic; I am just too tired!

Thinking about the last quarter of this year and wanting to meet my personal goals that I set out for myself back in January has me taking a look at the excuses I allow myself. I have used the I am too tired more times than I can count. That I have too many other things on my agenda to make room for a workout. I am learning new things at work I do not have time to take that class I have been interested in.

Excuses do not make us feel better when we do not accomplish a goal. Excuses do not excuse bad behavior. Bottom line for me they are not a good enough reason to not accomplish my goals.

We ALL have the same amount of hours in each day. We are ALL busy in some fashion. We ALL have things that distract us. But what sets those who finish and meet their goals apart from those who don’t? I am convinced that one of the key differences between goal setters and goal achievers is excuses.

Those who complete their goals know that they can come up with (at times legitimate) excuses BUT they DO NOT sit down in their excuse! Goal achievers press on DESPITE them. They want the accomplishment MORE. They are willing to move their mind and body to take the actions needed to work around the excuses and get it done!

They are up early. They are up late. They work on their lunch break. Eat off the lighter menu. Plan meals ahead of time. Set up automatic reminders. Have accountability partners. Goal achievers have found ways to work around and with their excuses rather than allow them to derail their progress.

As I am planning these last few months of 2020 and wanting to see some specific goals achieved I am planning for how to work with my excuses and not let them stop me anymore! I have set up walking time everyday to meet my goal of a healthier lifestyle. I have an automatic payment set up so I can meet my goal of saving more. I wake and read a few minutes everyday so I can meet my goal of reading a set amount of books this year. And this list still needs more updating and planning.

What are you doing to combat your excuses? Have you checked in on your goals and dreams in awhile? There is still time in this crazy year to get things completed! You can do this!