I was going to start a new series today…but you know how sometimes the day can go sideways on you…that is my day today. Not in a negative way, just in a distracted, busy kind of way. There are family members I rarely see in town, school and sports commitments I had not planned on and attempts to get back into a workout routine after back surgery that is taking more out of me than I want to admit.
So as I sit down to write, I am feeling somewhat overwhelmed with all I have not accomplished today. When feeling this way, how do you approach these thoughts? Do you evaluate if the mental or actual lists are realistic? Rational? Do you check to see if all of these items are necessary to get done today?
Here were the goals for today:
- On my writing days, my plan is to upload a post by 8am. OK. Great plan. Reality; I am driving kids to school at 8am. Before that, I am waking kids up, helping with breakfast, drinking some coffee and getting lunches made. Perhaps this is an unrealistic goal for myself unless I want to write the night before.
- I want to workout every day. I prefer to workout when I wake up, but seeing as I want to write a post and need to get kiddos off to school first thing in the morning and I do not work a “normal” Mon-Fri 9-5shift…I need to ask myself is this truly possible? Today the workout meant a walk around 930am. Recovering from back surgery has been going slower than I thought it would. I can not expect to be hitting the gym like before, not yet. Just doing the Physical Therapy exercises can leave me tired.
- Work on house chores and laundry. Ok, this is getting done. Laundry is started. Some yard work was done. The list has items crossed off, just slowly. After the walk, I visited with family. My chores will be here, but out of town family won’t be here every day.
We tend to want it ALL done NOW. We want to meet our daily goals. We want to feel we have accomplished something each day. Part of learning to take care of ourselves is learning how to set realistic, attainable goals. As we reach them, we adjust them. We can move the finish lines. But we also have to learn how to roll with the unexpected. To stop and visit with that friend we ran into at the store that seems to need to talk. Take the time for that cup of coffee and visit with the family you rarely get to see that is in town. Run the errand the kiddo unexpectedly asked you to do.
So, I am not starting the new series today. Instead, I am learning to not freak out when the day does not go as planned; when it goes sideways as I call it…that is part of the growth of self-care. I still struggle with learning to breathe, to smile, to see the unexpected as opportunities rather than annoyances. But I desire to be better at letting the lists go. To enjoy the surprises. That it is ok to “stop and smell the roses” along the way. Or in my case…the tulips as these are my favorites!
What goals did you have for today? Were they attainable? Realistic? Did you accomplish them? If your day went sideways, did you see this as a good or bad thing? Are you learning to let go and roll with the unexpected?
Till next time. I have to go run that errand now. And more family time ahead. I am going to enjoy these moments…they don’t come around too often. 🙂