It’s a strange time we’re living in right now. Most everyone I know would agree we’ve not lived through moments like this before. We don’t have experience in lock downs and stay at home orders. We aren’t used to seeing folks in masks at the grocery store. Or viewing empty shelves and lines just to buy the essentials. This moment in time is new and unprecedented for most of us.
While my morning looks the same today; quiet, sun shining, coffee in hand and my family still sleeping; the world we live in isn’t the same. We sat glued to the television last night watching the expected”stay at home” order announcement. As we went about our evening after I couldn’t help but think what that means for tomorrow when I’m to go to work. It’s hard to know how this order effects my day to day life. I’m not in an essential job (in my opinion) but I’m sure my employer sees this differently. So I’m waking up in a new reality trying to make some decisions.
One thing I’m thinking on though is how to get some self care in when everyone is home and there’s very little chance to get alone time. As a mother how do I still take care of myself while all the children are around every moment? I’m sure many of you parents are stressed and worried and are busy caring for so many others that your own needs are lost in the fray. Besides the new worries about health we still have the same stressors as before with jobs, bills and now how to make sure these kids’ education stays on track. It is a different world already and here in the US; only under 2 weeks into this crisis.
So how do we cope? How do we function in a world gone mad in some ways? What do you do to stay focused on goals? To stay healthy mentally and physically? We all know to keep distances from others outside our homes. We know not to shake hands or hug on others. But what do we do for our own individual sanity each day?
Here are a few things I am doing to keep myself from becoming too overwhelmed by this moment in time:
- Believe this too shall pass! Having Faith in times of trials has always helped me. No matter what that faith is in, call it God, Universe, etc…believing there is a purpose to life and our own individual place in it, helps me get through moments that do not make much sense. Faith is like a house foundation for me. It holds everything else up.
- Continue to keep similar routines, even with everyone home. I have been the first one up (most days) for the last few years. I am still continuing that. Still starting my day with quiet meditation, reading and journaling. Still setting my alarm to get up and start the day; not hiding under the covers.
- Keep active! Exercise is always important for physical and mental health. Keep going for a walk; even if in your house. Do sit ups. Squats. Push ups. Do things that will get your heart rate up (if you are healthy to do so) and help those positive endorphins release.
- Set a time for how much you read or watch the news. Just like crisis’s in the past, the news coverage is on 24/7. We have access to news from all over the globe. We have to learn to turn it off now and again. Creating a boundary for the amount of time we devote to being hammered with information is important. Boundaries are for our protection, set limits.
- Learn a new skill. Now is the time to try something new at home that you may have always been interested in. There have been numerous websites that are listing classes, videos, webcasts or podcasts for free. You can probably at least get an introduction to something you have been waiting to learn.
- Get enough rest. Do not stay up late watching another news cast. You will be able to see it all the next day. Do not stay up late eating cause you are stressed about how to pay everything and what will you do next. Sleep is vital to your brain function. You need your mind and body to function at optimal health and sleep is necessary to achieve this. If you suffer insomnia (especially in times of stress) try to take rests often; at least close your eyes and try to turn the mind noise down.
In times of stress it is very hard to make time for yourself and your needs. I know we are all experiencing different reactions to this crisis, but remember each life is valuable. YOU MATTER! Your family needs you to be at your best. No matter what crisis comes our way we will get to the other side. Taking care of yourself makes you better prepared to care for others. Keep fighting to stay healthy and sane.
Wishing each of you good health.