Hello there! How are you all doing? I know it has been a few months since I last posted btu after seeing that I hit 200 posts, I was not sure I had more to say. But really we all have something to say and more to share so here I am again. Thank you to all that have remained reading.
How are you all doing these days? Hoe are your fairing during this pandemic? We are still in “phase 1” here where we live. We are venturing out more and seeing more friends and family but things are definitely not “normal.” We all spent months wondering when we could return to the way of life that we knew, but it seems that will not occur. So we have to pivot and learn a new way to live, function and interact within this world.
What are you doing to deal with the changes in your world? Is your city still in lockdown or were you barely affected? Are you working from home now or have children at home instead of school or daycare? Are you facing job loss or a new position?
So many of us have had our worlds and homes rocked by the pandemic that we have had no choice but to change how we operate. We have had to make daily modifications and learn how to handle changes that we neither wanted nor were prepared for. Cause who can really prepare for a worldwide pandemic?!
Change is something so constant that I feel I have learned to embrace it. I love variety and trying new things. I am committed to not letting fear in any way dictate my life, so change is often exciting to me. BUT I have found that I embrace the changes I am in control of. Like most, I am still not a fan of the things out of my control. Does it cause you stress to think you will have to permanently change your way of life? Or is that somewhat exciting and full of possibility?
I have learned these past few months how important mindset truly is. Not only for our own mental state but for how we handle change. Especially unwelcome or unwanted change. Our human nature resists change that we do not control, face it we barely handle the changes we do want. Like when we think we want a new job but then are stressed that we have to learn something new. Or we are excited to move to a new town but find it painful and lonely when we get there.
So how do we handle the changes we do not desire to deal with? Here are some ways we have handled the pandemic and all the changes that has meant for our household.
We extend grace more easily.I think this may be the number one key to dealing with others in the midst of unexpected challenges; extend grace. Let your people feel what they feel without trying to stop it and just let the moment be.
Allow alone time when needed. With everyone at home much more than we used to be; we have had to find ways to get time alone and away from each other sometimes. This may be taking a walk or being in our rooms with the door shut for a bit. Even just taking a drive to get out of the house has helped.
Finding new activities for us all to participate in.We put together puzzles. We watch a show or a movie together. We have played games. Taking the time to better enjoy each other has helped us have a more positive experience.
Looking at this moment in time as an opportunity rather than a disappointment. The first couple of months were tough. It was tough to adjust to not really seeing anyone other than the folks you live with. But we have tried to embrace the time this has brought with our children. As we have had another one leave the nest (there are 4 total and time is moving too fast) in many ways this has been an added bonus.
Trying to keep life as normal as possible. Keeping a routine. Having dinner together. Chores. All the things we usually do each day or week we have continued. We still get dressed and showered before working from home. We still make the beds and cook meals.
Life may not look the same anymore but we have a choice in how we view that. To live our best life we sometimes have to face moments where we need to pivot. To learn new ways and do things differently. If your mindset is to see moments of stress and change as an opportunity then you can’t help but be successful. In the past few months of this pandemic we are more successful as a couple and family than before. Life is still full of abundance.
How do you see your life today? What are you doing to create an abundance mindset in the midst of the chaos? I hope you find joy in the midst.
It’s a strange time we’re living in right now. Most everyone I know would agree we’ve not lived through moments like this before. We don’t have experience in lock downs and stay at home orders. We aren’t used to seeing folks in masks at the grocery store. Or viewing empty shelves and lines just to buy the essentials. This moment in time is new and unprecedented for most of us.
While my morning looks the same today; quiet, sun shining, coffee in hand and my family still sleeping; the world we live in isn’t the same. We sat glued to the television last night watching the expected”stay at home” order announcement. As we went about our evening after I couldn’t help but think what that means for tomorrow when I’m to go to work. It’s hard to know how this order effects my day to day life. I’m not in an essential job (in my opinion) but I’m sure my employer sees this differently. So I’m waking up in a new reality trying to make some decisions.
One thing I’m thinking on though is how to get some self care in when everyone is home and there’s very little chance to get alone time. As a mother how do I still take care of myself while all the children are around every moment? I’m sure many of you parents are stressed and worried and are busy caring for so many others that your own needs are lost in the fray. Besides the new worries about health we still have the same stressors as before with jobs, bills and now how to make sure these kids’ education stays on track. It is a different world already and here in the US; only under 2 weeks into this crisis.
So how do we cope? How do we function in a world gone mad in some ways? What do you do to stay focused on goals? To stay healthy mentally and physically? We all know to keep distances from others outside our homes. We know not to shake hands or hug on others. But what do we do for our own individual sanity each day?
Here are a few things I am doing to keep myself from becoming too overwhelmed by this moment in time:
Believe this too shall pass! Having Faith in times of trials has always helped me. No matter what that faith is in, call it God, Universe, etc…believing there is a purpose to life and our own individual place in it, helps me get through moments that do not make much sense. Faith is like a house foundation for me. It holds everything else up.
Continue to keep similar routines, even with everyone home. I have been the first one up (most days) for the last few years. I am still continuing that. Still starting my day with quiet meditation, reading and journaling. Still setting my alarm to get up and start the day; not hiding under the covers.
Keep active! Exercise is always important for physical and mental health. Keep going for a walk; even if in your house. Do sit ups. Squats. Push ups. Do things that will get your heart rate up (if you are healthy to do so) and help those positive endorphins release.
Set a time for how much you read or watch the news. Just like crisis’s in the past, the news coverage is on 24/7. We have access to news from all over the globe. We have to learn to turn it off now and again. Creating a boundary for the amount of time we devote to being hammered with information is important. Boundaries are for our protection, set limits.
Learn a new skill. Now is the time to try something new at home that you may have always been interested in. There have been numerous websites that are listing classes, videos, webcasts or podcasts for free. You can probably at least get an introduction to something you have been waiting to learn.
Get enough rest. Do not stay up late watching another news cast. You will be able to see it all the next day. Do not stay up late eating cause you are stressed about how to pay everything and what will you do next. Sleep is vital to your brain function. You need your mind and body to function at optimal health and sleep is necessary to achieve this. If you suffer insomnia (especially in times of stress) try to take rests often; at least close your eyes and try to turn the mind noise down.
In times of stress it is very hard to make time for yourself and your needs. I know we are all experiencing different reactions to this crisis, but remember each life is valuable. YOU MATTER! Your family needs you to be at your best. No matter what crisis comes our way we will get to the other side. Taking care of yourself makes you better prepared to care for others. Keep fighting to stay healthy and sane.
“Each sunrise brings a new day with new hopes for a new beginning” — Anonymous
I am an early riser as you can probably tell by most of my posts. I enjoy the quiet each day before the world I orbit in with my partner, kids and dog are all awake. I love to start each day with reading, meditating and my cup of coffee. Starting the day from a place of calmness almost always sets me up to stay calmer and more centered through out the day.
When I started into work this morning, even though it was still dark out, I could not help but think about the sunrise. There is something about experiencing the wonderful, beautiful masterpiece that the sky awakening brings that brightens my morning and reminds that each day is new and to be grateful. Each day we have the opportunity to be better than the one before.
As this is the first week of the new year at my job, I am overjoyed to start anew and see what this coming year brings. I love beginnings; there is an excitement that comes with starting fresh! Thinking and dreaming about all the possibilities of the next 365 days makes me almost giddy with anticipation for Wednesday!
I am hopeful as I launch into this year with many new ideas and plans. I am anticipating seeing more sunrises. Of being more present to appreciate each one as a reminder of the beauty in this world and that no matter how dark the night, the sun will rise.
What does the sunrise bring to mind for you? I hope it will help you focus and remember we have another new day to be thankful for. That we are ALL connected through this one action in the sky each morning and evening; as there is always a sunrise and sunset somewhere. I can’t help but think how wonderful that is to know; that we each get a new beginning every single day and with glorious colors!
Even this holiday season, with more stress than I am used to, serves a purpose. Perhaps I am supposed to learn how to slow down and rest more. Or perhaps it is that family togetherness is much more important than any material gifts. Or that giving to others is a great way to share joy this year. Whatever I am supposed to learn in this season must still be on the way, so I am learning to wait and be patient.
If you are in a more stressful season than you would prefer, try to focus on this quote. Try to glean what you can from these moments; knowing you are being prepared for something else. I am holding on to there is a purpose to all this stress and I will be better for it; in time.