Posted in Monday Musings

Monday musings–Welcome to 2020

It is the first Monday of a new year! Seems this first week has just brought so much joy already.  We enjoyed a kid free week; a rare event in our home with four kids between us.  Spending a week relaxing, rejuvenating and envisioning our plans for the future has been a rewarding experience.  It is always nice when you are given things and moments you didn’t even know you needed.

Having a mellow start to the new year has set us up well I think.  Sometimes one needs to take some down time to regroup and reset.  The planning and thinking about the year ahead has always been my favorite part of the new years holiday.  In years past I have created a big list of lots of goals to accomplish through out the year.  And it has been hit and miss as to what I accomplish each year.  So with this new year and new decade I thought I would try a new approach.  I want to focus more on intention versus resolution.

In making the switch from one way of thinking, let me first define these words.

Resolution: (n): a firm decision to do or not to do something.

Intention: (n): a thing intended; an aim or plan.

In the past few years I have been learning about mindset and how the words we speak out loud and in our minds affect our outcomes.  Anyone of us can find statistics on how many people fail at their new years resolutions.  I think I read this morning something like 46% of folks succeed.  Not too promising or inspiring to think about the other 54% failing or falling short.

Having just completed a rather difficult (for me) ending to this past decade and looking back over this past year, I decided I did not want to repeat the same mistakes and fall short of my goals.  So I have decided to be part of some different workshops, groups and forums that will help me succeed in changing how I set goals.  Moving from a resolution mindset to an intentional way of thinking and behaving.

Resolutions are not bad and can be very motivating.  I have had success with setting them before and may again someday.  But this year, I want to focus more on how I think and how that impacts the decisions I make and the actions I follow through with.  Setting my intention each day to take an action toward some goal is more my style this year.

For example; one of my goals this year is to be more active.  Instead of saying or writing on the never ending list on my fridge that I want to run everyday, (which I know I ahead of time I most likely will not do as I have not ran much in the last year) I have set the goal that every week I will add in a new physical activity that will help me become more fit.

My plan for this looks like this so far: 
Work week 1–do 50 squats everyday (completed!) I started last week since this lined up with my current work schedule.
Work week 2 (this started today) – 60 squats everyday and walk 10,000 steps each day.

Each week I plan to add another activity to the mix till I am seeing the results I desire to see.   I am already finding this fun and creative and a way to keep me from feeling overwhelmed with changing too many things all at once.  So far this is easy to do and I am excited to add a new activity each week.  And to see how this shift in my thinking will affect my results.  I can tell you so far, I am having no stress about being more active because I know I can add one thing each week.

How do you approach the new year?  Do you set goals each January?  And do you successfully meet them? Or are you like me this year and try to set more intentions; believing this kindness to oneself may serve you better?  I am hopeful that trying a new style of goal setting and planning will be successful, it’s worth a shot right?!

Let me know what you intend to do this year; I would love to hear from you.

 

 

 

 

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Monday Musings–let the sun rise

Each sunrise brings a new day with new hopes for a new beginning”  — Anonymous

I am an early riser as you can probably tell by most of my posts.  I enjoy the quiet each day before the world I orbit in with my partner, kids and dog are all awake.  I love to start each day with reading, meditating and my cup of coffee.  Starting the day from a place of calmness almost always sets me up to stay calmer and more centered through out the day.

When I started into work this morning, even though it was still dark out, I could not help but think about the sunrise.  There is something about experiencing the wonderful, beautiful masterpiece that the sky awakening brings that brightens my morning and reminds that each day is new and to be grateful.  Each day we have the opportunity to be better than the one before.

As this is the first week of the new year at my job, I am overjoyed to start anew and see what this coming year brings.  I love beginnings; there is an excitement that comes with starting fresh!  Thinking and dreaming about all the possibilities of the next 365 days makes me almost giddy with anticipation for Wednesday!

I am hopeful as I launch into this year with many new ideas and plans. I am anticipating seeing more sunrises.  Of being more present to appreciate each one as a reminder of the beauty in this world and that no matter how dark the night, the sun will rise.

What does the sunrise bring to mind for you? I hope it will help you focus and remember we have another new day to be thankful for.  That we are ALL connected through this one action in the sky each morning and evening; as there is always a sunrise and sunset somewhere.  I can’t help but think how wonderful that is to know; that we each get a new beginning every single day and with glorious colors!

Happy New Year!

Posted in Sunday quotes

Sunday reflections (31) – final review

On this last Sunday of the year I’m thinking about all the things this year brought. Looking back through my posts and seeing where I grew and where I have more work to do. Sharing my thoughts, ideas and details of my life is a rewarding, cathartic and interesting activity for me to partake in. Writing a blog gives me an outlet to feel “published” and share thoughts with even just one who may feel empowered and encouraged. Seeing readers throughout the world is always amazing to me. I love seeing a new reader in a new country.

As I’m reviewing this blog today, I can see that I was not as consistent with writing every single Sunday as I was hoping I would be. I may have been somewhat repetitive in my posts. And I need to become more focused on what I want this blog to be.

With one year ending and a new one beginning I’m excited to set new intentions for Wordy Chick. To create a better viewing experience and better content. My original intent with this blog was to share my experiences moving through a relationship with a narcissist. It helped me to share what I was learning and hoping that maybe my experiences could help someone else as I was recovering and rebuilding my life. As my life has moved forward and far away from that moment, I’ve tried to move this blog away from that topic to more of a best self/life blog.

In evaluating today I think I’ve done that. Although the posts about recovering and moving on from a narcissist are still the most read posts, my hope for this new year is to continue to contribute new ideas about how to live your best life. This new year I plan to focus more on lists and ways to practically implement ideas to help cultivate the life you desire.

My hope is to encourage you more often. To share more of myself and learn to write better. Only by continually growing do we evolve into better. I have enjoyed watching the blogs I read and follow grow and become better. Perhaps this year you might even start a blog; knowing we each have something amazing to offer this world I encourage you to do so. You might have something important to share!

I hope you enjoy this last week of 2019. I hope you set new intentions for the new year not just a resolution that might easily be tossed aside. I look forward to sharing more of this amazing life with you.

Happy New Year!

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Wordy girl Wednesday–Merry Christmas

It’s quiet and all through my house those who are here are sleeping quiet as a mouse. I have coffee in hand, tree lights on and Christmas music playing. It’s a beautiful calm this morning.

This year we chose to stay home with whichever children could be here and enjoy a quiet day. It’s been an overwhelming stressful few months and having a calmer holiday seemed just the right thing. Sitting here this morning, enjoying my home in peaceful stillness I know we made the right decision.

Holidays can bring many expectations. And often we can be disappointed when these may not be met. They can be loud, chaotic and lots of fun. But also stressful and frantic. This morning as I start this day I am reminded what this is all about. Family. Love. Togetherness.

I am choosing to be joyful rather than stressed. I chose to enjoy the moments rather than expect them to be something in particular. We get to choose our mindset and I hope you chose love and joy today as you celebrate this holiday. I hope you focus on why we celebrate and what that means to you and yours.

As other family members are off to gather together I am grateful for those asleep in their beds above me right now. Grateful I get another day to enjoy this beautiful crazy life. Thankful for quiet moments to reflect and set my intentions for the day.

Even though this year is different than ever before, it’s still a great day. It’s still a day to celebrate. It’s still a beautiful day even as it changes and brings new moments.

I hope you hold onto every moment this day brings to you. We wish you a very Merry Christmas!

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Thursday’s Thoughts–Journey Quote

Focusing on this thought and idea this morning:

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Even this holiday season, with more stress than I am used to, serves a purpose.  Perhaps I am supposed to learn how to slow down and rest more.  Or perhaps it is that family togetherness is much more important than any material gifts.  Or that giving to others is a great way to share joy this year.   Whatever I am supposed to learn in this season must still be on the way, so I am learning to wait and be patient.

If you are in a more stressful season than you would prefer, try to focus on this quote.  Try to glean what you can from these moments; knowing you are being prepared for something else.  I am holding on to there is a purpose to all this stress and I will be better for it; in time.

Have a great Thursday.