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Graduation

T-minus 36hours!  That is all that is left till my first baby, my oldest, my only daughter graduates high school.  An entire year early!  The tears fill my eyes so easily these days as I watch her work hard to complete this goal she has set.  Seeing all that she has accomplished the past 9months to graduate and head off to college, makes me so proud.  Sometimes the emotions are overwhelming.  Pride and excitement along with some sadness as we enter into a new phase of this parenting journey.

As others are entering this stage, know that you are not alone on the path of letting go while still desiring to hold on.  That we enter this new arena of almost-adulthood and yet can still recall all those moments of childhood that have passed by so incredibly fast.

To those with little ones, hold on extra tight.  And breathe through the moments that seem endless and exhausting.  Soon enough they will be letting go of your hand to run out into this great big world!  And to those in the middle when these beautiful beings that we love beyond rational reason, are driving us into possible madness with their anger and frustration as they navigate the middle teen years. Know that this will pass and they have actually listened to the wisdom you have been trying as patiently as possible to instill.

For those of you that are about to celebrate graduation along with me–Great Job!  You Did It!  We made it!  We raised up the next generation!  Pat yourself on the back!  Be proud that you have helped guide and mold another human that is going to impact the world!

Time has flown, faster than I could possibly imagine!  I wouldn’t trade any of these moments, for they have helped us arrive here, to this beautiful place!

So proud of you baby girl!   Congratulations!  Can’t wait to watch what goals you will crush next!  Thank you for the amazing ride called motherhood that you have brought me on, love you beyond the moon and back!  🙂

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Sideways…

I was going to start a new series today…but you know how sometimes the day can go sideways on you…that is my day today.   Not in a negative way, just in a distracted, busy kind of way.   There are family members I rarely see in town, school and sports commitments I had not planned on and attempts to get back into a workout routine after back surgery that is taking more out of me than I want to admit.

So as I sit down to write, I am feeling somewhat overwhelmed with all I have not accomplished today.  When feeling this way, how do you approach these thoughts?  Do you evaluate if the mental or actual lists are realistic?  Rational?  Do you check to see if all of these items are necessary to get done today?

Here were the goals for today:

  • On my writing days, my plan is to upload a post by 8am.  OK.  Great plan.  Reality; I am driving kids to school at 8am.  Before that, I am waking kids up, helping with breakfast, drinking some coffee and getting lunches made.  Perhaps this is an unrealistic goal for myself unless I want to write the night before.
  • I want to workout every day.  I prefer to workout when I wake up, but seeing as I want to write a post and need to get kiddos off to school first thing in the morning and I do not work a “normal” Mon-Fri 9-5shift…I need to ask myself is this truly possible?  Today the workout meant a walk around 930am.  Recovering from back surgery has been going slower than I thought it would.  I can not expect to be hitting the gym like before, not yet.  Just doing the Physical Therapy exercises can leave me tired.
  • Work on house chores and laundry.  Ok, this is getting done. Laundry is started. Some yard work was done.  The list has items crossed off, just slowly.  After the walk, I visited with family.   My chores will be here, but out of town family won’t be here every day.

We tend to want it ALL done NOW.  We want to meet our daily goals.  We want to feel we have accomplished something each day.  Part of learning to take care of ourselves is learning how to set realistic, attainable goals. As we reach them, we adjust them.  We can move the finish lines.  But we also have to learn how to roll with the unexpected.  To stop and visit with that friend we ran into at the store that seems to need to talk.  Take the time for that cup of coffee and visit with the family you rarely get to see that is in town.  Run the errand the kiddo unexpectedly asked you to do.

So, I am not starting the new series today.  Instead, I am learning to not freak out when the day does not go as planned; when it goes sideways as I call it…that is part of the growth of self-care.  I still struggle with learning to breathe, to smile, to see the unexpected as opportunities rather than annoyances. But I desire to be better at letting the lists go.  To enjoy the surprises.  That it is ok to “stop and smell the roses” along the way.  Or in my case…the tulips as these are my favorites!

What goals did you have for today?  Were they attainable?  Realistic?  Did you accomplish them?  If your day went sideways, did you see this as a good or bad thing? Are you learning to let go and roll with the unexpected?

Till next time.  I have to go run that errand now.  And more family time ahead.  I am going to enjoy these moments…they don’t come around too often.  🙂