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View from the other side

Sitting up at our family lake house. All but one of my children huddled around. Sunshine reflecting off the water. The puppy laying in the sun. A quiet day. A beautiful place.

Sometimes these moments are enough. Sometimes these moments are longed for but not what is given. Sometimes one has to move away from the noise to find a quiet moment inside themself. And sometimes we’re given a blessing of a person to help us through.

As we are celebrating our engagement this weekend, I’m reflecting on the blessing of having that one. That one who understands when to hold your hand and listen. That one who knows when you need an extra push. That one who says “I’ve got this” and you can relax because you know all is handled. The one who makes you laugh instead of cry. The one who will cry with you too.

I’ve had quite the journey to find that one. The battle wounds are healed. Seeing life from the other side these days. This big, beautiful, chaotic, messy life is beyond anything I could imagine before.

Living in the grateful space with a partner who sees me. Who gets me. Who shares the fabulous along with the frustrating.

This other side where love truly does cover all. Words aren’t enough. Time is all we have to enjoy. Each day, it’s enough.

I wish this happiness for each of you. Be patient. Grow and learn. Love eventually finds you. And this view is pretty spectacular!

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Ferris Wheel Life

Personally, I love roller coasters. All kinds; fast ones, upside down ones, all sorts of loop-de-loops. I used to ride every one I could when I attended the fair as a kid. I have taken my kids on many throughout raising them.  As I have aged I find that I get slightly more and more nauseous being spun around in circles or going upside down so my days of twisting, roller coasters are more limited than I would prefer.

But I found the last few years I have really started to like the Ferris Wheel. It moves at a moderate speed, allowing you to see everything around you down below.  It stops often giving you a chance to chat with your partner in the small car. It is open rather than enclosed allowing you to feel the air on your face. And thinking about this particular ride made me think of what a great metaphor for life this ride is.

This wheel of life we spin on is often huge and complicated.  We’ve many spokes jutting out of ourselves. Our relationships, children, families, jobs, friends, responsibilities, etc. These “cars” of our life, if you will, are at times at the top, other moments at the bottom. We have seasons of going faster and feeling life is whirling by.  And seasons when everything seems to slow down.  Time seems to come to a stop and gives us rest.  And we can take a moment to look around.  To breathe and re-group.  Or see these as moments to re-connect with our car mate.

Riding a roller coaster is exciting and fun.  I love the speed and exhilaration of that stomach drop as you go flying up and down and around.  But as I get older and too much of life has already flown by, I find I am learning to enjoy the slower pace of a ride that allows me to stop and see the scenery.

I find most of our life is probably somewhere in the middle.  Riding along and looking about, moving either up or back down. Having those moments at the top, especially when you are stopped there for a moment and look out enjoying the view, those are the highlights of life.  Those are the times you have accomplished something great.  You have helped your children, partner, coworkers, etc reach their highlight moments.  This is where you can see and feel the joys of life.   And as you come back around, heading down, or as you head up, may those moments build you and grow you, preparing you to round the circle again and again.

I find I am enjoying being in the middle of this ride, my car heading back up.  Soon to be at the top.  I will stop and enjoy the view.  Look around, take it in, allow the wind on my face and revel in that space.  And be thankful I get to keep on this ride each day.  I hope whatever part of the ride you are on right now, you can see the positives of it.  I hope you look about and see the work that got you to the top.  See the pains and joys and beauty that is this life.

And if you find a Ferris Wheel, I hope you hop on, take a moment, slow down and look around.  Enjoy the ride!

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Wordy girl Wednesday (5) – Quotes to remind you to pursue your dreams.

Thinking about these quotes this morning.  I have been letting myself get derailed from my dreams and goals and today as I was doing my daily reading I was reminded that the life I get, the life I live, is a direct result of my choices.  I may not be responsible for every single thing in my life, but I am the one in charge of who I spend time with, what I spend my time doing and how I behave, feel, react, etc.

And I was reminded that I am not making the choices that are taking me in the direction I desire to go.  Oh, I have the right partner to take this life journey with and I love many parts of my life but I also have some major personal goals that I have not been staying committed to very well.

So these quotes are here to remind myself and to offer thought and encouragement to anyone that may read them as well.  If you find yourself in a great place but wanting more and better, than I hope you find a way to get back on track.  That you feel that you can keep moving forward toward those goals and dreams of what you want this life to be.  Only you can make your best life!

LOVE Love love this!  Have I been doing this?!   If so I must stop!  Keep that dream elevated!

This! This is what I am lacking.  Discipline!

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This too!  Time to get out of my own way and work at it!

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Do not limit your dreams!  Set them high and then work hard to reach them.  Will you join me in a reset?  Let’s help encourage one another.  Lift each other up.  May you feel energized today to restart if you have stalled.  I am.

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Wordy Girl Wednesday (2); Sometimes you just got to be spontaneous!

How many times do you think about what you would do “if only”?   Fill in that blank.  If only I had enough money.  Enough time.  If only I had someone to do that with.  To travel with.  To go see that movie with.  Or if you didn’t have to work or have kids.   I could go on and on with lists of what if’s and if only’s.

There are so many moments in life when we think things hold us back rather than give us life and opportunities.  I am not afraid to do things alone and have many times. I am independent and love that I am capable of tackling this life alone if need be.  But today I am doing one of those “if onlys” in my life.

I have always wanted to randomly hop a flight and take off without any prior planning! This has been an if I only had the money.  If I only had the time.  Without planning the how, where, what, details that I become consumed with.  As a single mom for many years this has been my standard operating procedure.  I have had to plan and plan and save and save.  And it’s not that I don’t have to do those things anymore now that my life is very different, but it’s that I see my priorities differently.  I do not have to tackle this tough life alone anymore; my opportunities are more abundant.

So today I am hoping that flight to meet up with my partner in life to go to one of my favorite places.   I am choosing to not say what if or maybe I shouldn’t or we can’t afford it and just go.  To head out to a place that brings joy to my soul the moment my feet land and share that with him and some of our kids.  The idea that we were not going to be there together is more painful than the costs of just taking the leap.

So I ask you, what moments of spontaneity do you wish for?  What would you do if you could just push aside all the doubts, all the if onlys and just went for it?  Would you start a business? Would you reach out to that long lost friend?  Would you move?  Try a new job?   This applies to so many areas of life. We are so often bogged down by the thoughts that stop us rather than push us.

Sometimes to live your best life, you have to go for it.  You have to be spontaneous and try something new.  Or do the things that test you, that encourage you, that lift you up.

Living my best life sometimes means just doing it. It may be something simple to one but makes a huge impact to another. So go live your best life. Take risks. Be spontaneous! I can’t wait to see what this trip brings, my soul is about to be light up. And when we fill ourselves with joy, it can’t help but spill out to others. When we live our best life, we help others do the same.

I hope you have a place that is this for you; I’m off to one of mine. Happy Wednesday.

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Sunday reflections (24): lake time

Since I’m on vacation today’s post is quite late.

With family birthdays, strange puppy behavior, sunburns and lake time, it’s been a busy Sunday. I’m tired but feel rested too. Isn’t that how vacations go? Exhausted but just feel good to have different experiences and be away from the daily grind.

So here’s to rest and relaxation. Tomorrow I see more of the same.

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Escape…

Sometimes you just need a little break from the day to day. For the next week we are doing just that; escaping. Finding ways to relax. Spending time with family. Playing in the water. Exploring. Vacation time!

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Sunday reflections (23): Finding Rest

It’s another Sunday here. I’m back online this weekend; woohoo. I’ve been battling a bad cold all week, still not fully myself. Being overly tired and drained keeps me from being my best self. I’m easily annoyed and short tempered. And not very productive which frustrates me. I’m not very good at resting. My mind nor my body.

Thinking about what to write today, I decided that perhaps I need to focus on Rest. How an important part of living your best life is learning how to relax, rest and recharge. How vital learning to quiet your mind is to your overall health. It’s all right to take a nap occasionally. It’s ok to read for pleasure. Yoga and meditation are great practices to implement in your daily life.

I have not been doing the activities that I know keep me feeling my best. That help me feel mentally recharged. Whenever I get sick I’m reminded how much I needed that downtime. Think it’s nature’s way of forcing us to rest.

So today I’m taking that time. I’m going to read a bit. Maybe take a nap. Definitely take a walk in the sunshine. Sit outside and breathe the fresh air.

It’s ok to take moments; daily I recommend, for just yourself to learn to rest. It’s important to claim alone time for rejuvenating. When we get these moments, when we lean into rest, we learn how to work through our emotions quicker I believe. We have more patience, become less annoyed when things go sideways. Because we know how to practice quieting our minds. Learning how to rest isn’t only for moments of exhaustion, rest is important for becoming our best selves.

Have a great restful day!