The new season of juggling work, school, and sports is upon me! I imagine it is for you too! I find at times trying to keep all the balls in the air is more of a struggle than I care to admit. Lately that has been the case. I long for time to relax and rest more, but I also want to accomplish my goals and create memories with my partner and all our kids. So in this season, one thing that helps is to find ways to stay positive when often I am exhausted.
Here are the ways I try to practice positivity in this season:
- I stay focused on the end goal. This season of raising children will end and I want them to have some good memories of their childhood as well as become healthy, successful adults. When I am overwhelmed with all the running around we must do and the endless tasks, I try to keep that in mind. We are raising adults, not children. We are teaching the habits they will carry into adulthood. It is important to teach all these kids how to juggle life with a good attitude as much as possible.
- We take a date night; every single week. Even if it is just a couple hours together. My partner and I made a commitment to each other from the start that we would prioritize our partnership. We would make sure the children understood we are committed to each other and creating a solid foundation. It can tough between work, school functions and soccer games for us to find the time and energy but we are always better for it and it keeps us connected. And it shows our children how to have a healthy relationship.
- I make time for exercise. Sometimes that 30 minutes alone going for a walk or riding my bike or doing an exercise video is the only alone time I can get. Take advantage of doing something for your physical health as well as your mental health. Working out is vital to staying healthy and calm throughout the chaos of life in my opinion. And it releases all the feel good, happy endorphins so it’s a win in trying to staying positive.
- I use the calendar. We have a large calendar on the wall in the kitchen near the garage door. It is seen daily by every one of us. With all the activities we could have going on at one time, keeping track with colors and names is important for helping us to not forget things. And it allows me to know what we can say yes to based on prior commitments.
- We communicate. With a family of 6, you have lots of opportunities for misses. And many more opportunities for connections. When I get home from work (as I work the latest) everyone is usually coming around to share their day with me. Asking about school, homework, activities, life in general, is my way of staying in touch with what is going on with each of them. They all have lots to say and keeping that end goal in mind; I want to hear from them. I want them to share with me. Because we have built an environment where the kids feel they can share, we have a home with lots of conversation.
Staying connected and positive can be tough when you are juggling all the demands of partnership, parenthood and employment. Finding ways to keep your sanity is vital. Learning to communicate what you feel and think is necessary in all relationships but especially in the seasons of change where there can be so much noise from the chaos you forget to keep focused on what truly matters.
I am not always positive and happy. I struggle with overwhelm and unhappy days just like anyone else. But I desire to have a healthy life and home more than almost anything. Giving my partner and our children the best me is often at the forefront of my mind. I fail I am sure as much as I succeed, but each day I tackle anew.
I hope you find encouragement in these posts. These are just my thoughts; please share ways that you stay calm and focused during seasons of change and chaos. As always I hope you are living your best life as much as possible.
This has been a crazy couple of weeks with getting back into the grove of school and sports for all our children. Truth; I am exhausted most days. The weather is changing and I am ready to curl up and head to bed much earlier these days.
In light of that; I thought I would post some encouraging words for those that may be in the same boat. I hope this is how your day has been today and is everyday. Even in the midst of chaos, exhaustion, kids fighting or ANY thing that may come your way, I hope you find pockets of joy.
And this too as I think this is an important reminder; make these days count. They pass too quickly.
“Don’t count the days. Make the days count” –Muhammed Ali
How many times do you think about what you would do “if only”? Fill in that blank. If only I had enough money. Enough time. If only I had someone to do that with. To travel with. To go see that movie with. Or if you didn’t have to work or have kids. I could go on and on with lists of what if’s and if only’s.
There are so many moments in life when we think things hold us back rather than give us life and opportunities. I am not afraid to do things alone and have many times. I am independent and love that I am capable of tackling this life alone if need be. But today I am doing one of those “if onlys” in my life.
I have always wanted to randomly hop a flight and take off without any prior planning! This has been an if I only had the money. If I only had the time. Without planning the how, where, what, details that I become consumed with. As a single mom for many years this has been my standard operating procedure. I have had to plan and plan and save and save. And it’s not that I don’t have to do those things anymore now that my life is very different, but it’s that I see my priorities differently. I do not have to tackle this tough life alone anymore; my opportunities are more abundant.
So today I am hoping that flight to meet up with my partner in life to go to one of my favorite places. I am choosing to not say what if or maybe I shouldn’t or we can’t afford it and just go. To head out to a place that brings joy to my soul the moment my feet land and share that with him and some of our kids. The idea that we were not going to be there together is more painful than the costs of just taking the leap.
So I ask you, what moments of spontaneity do you wish for? What would you do if you could just push aside all the doubts, all the if onlys and just went for it? Would you start a business? Would you reach out to that long lost friend? Would you move? Try a new job? This applies to so many areas of life. We are so often bogged down by the thoughts that stop us rather than push us.
Sometimes to live your best life, you have to go for it. You have to be spontaneous and try something new. Or do the things that test you, that encourage you, that lift you up.
Living my best life sometimes means just doing it. It may be something simple to one but makes a huge impact to another. So go live your best life. Take risks. Be spontaneous! I can’t wait to see what this trip brings, my soul is about to be light up. And when we fill ourselves with joy, it can’t help but spill out to others. When we live our best life, we help others do the same.
I hope you have a place that is this for you; I’m off to one of mine. Happy Wednesday.
Good morning all. It feels like summer is coming to an end with grey cloudy skies upon on us here today in the Northwest. It’s kind of nice to have a break for a moment from hot days but I’m not quite ready for the sun to disappear. I am however looking forward to school coming back into session. Routine is nice. With 4 kids, a dog and jobs, routine is necessary. But summer often seems like such a short burst of time and before we know it we are facing the routines of life again. I find that by this time every summer, I am ready for the next season but also a tiny bit nostalgic for this one not to end. That is the way life goes right?.
With the season close to changing, I have been making changes as well. Today begins week 2 of a new routine I am creating. It feels great to be working towards goals. I think setting goals, writing them down and keeping track of each time you take action towards them you feel accomplished. It’s important to note the small steps as it can take awhile to see results; no matter what the goal is. Sometimes the tougher goals take so much longer that you can lose momentum if you don’t note the tiny incremental victories.
So I am logging the small victory of pursuing those goals into week 2. I had set an intention and goal to wake up early each day except one (check). I made a goal to work out numerous days; check this off too. I renewed my commitment to read daily. And I just saw that I have written (with this one) 165 posts! Wow I didn’t even realize. Perhaps I will add in goals for this blog soon.
Are you a goal setter or do you wake up each day and see what it brings? I have a drive to pursue excellence and am almost always striving to better myself and my life. This can get tiresome and lonely and be tough for those around me who may not view life the same way, but in order to be my best self this is what I need to do. Each of us has a way of how we do things; finding the best way for yourself will evolve throughout life. I have always been a goal setter but not always as committed to the work required to pursue them; this area I have definitely matured in as time has gone by.
Being in a season of growth and change is exciting for me. When I am consciously choosing to work hard on my goals, when I set the time to create and plan, and then do the work, I am working on my best self in my best life. I love seeing and feeling the growth personally which spills over into other areas of life as well.
As the season starts to change moving into school for many of us, getting closer to Fall, I hope you find what will create the best life for you. I hope you have goals you work towards. I will share with you how I determine goals and how to tackle them in the coming weeks as I continue to pursue them.
Have a fabulous start to your week.
This morning my thoughts are consumed with future plans and prospects. Up late dreaming, creating, planning. When you get inspired, you’ve got to grab a hold of it and run fast.
Here’s a few quotes I’m thinking on this morning; so excited for what’s to come.
Waking up and heading back to work after vacation; which in my case means at least ten days off from work and most responsibilities is feeling a bit brutal this morning. Getting back into routine is often tough for many of us. Vacations are necessary and I advise to take them as often as you can which I try to do numerous times throughout the year but coming back to reality is rough and I might already be tired at 8am!
So in trying to prepare for getting back to work and into the swing of things, I was thinking about how I can help myself transition from sleeping in, no tasks required, lounging when I want, reading when I wish, eating and drinking too much to an on task, lots to do, more responsibility than I often want at a place where they pay me mode.
This got me thinking; are we ready to get started each day? Are we ready to hit the ground running when we hear our alarms? Are we ready to be on for our families and employers? Or if you run your own company, are you ready for the long to do list you may have?
I am not all that ready to head back to work, but I am looking forward to a routine. I like to plan and work towards goals so I thought that would be the best way to get myself ready for this morning. I made a list of goals I want to achieve here in the near future. These were simple and probably too easy to accomplish but is a start when what I am really wanting to do is to sleep in and still be lounging in the water up at the lake house.
Here are some of the things I have been doing to “get ready”:
I mapped out on Sunday what I may need to do when I get to work this morning.
I recommitted to my morning tasks (think I have mentioned SAVERS before (thank you Hal Elrod)). This by far has been the best method I have ever followed; check out his book: The Miracle Morning
I started a new workout program.
I prepared what I need for the first day back to work and made a plan for dinner with the kids ahead of time.
By doing these things I am feeling a bit more prepared for a new work week and tackling getting back into work mode.
What do you to do get ready for things you may have to do? Do you have tips and tricks to help you when you are tired or not really excited for whatever you may be facing? How do to get back into the groove of work and routine; especially after a long vacation? Do you fight to find motivation to keep at it? Or are you recharged and ready to go already? If so, how do you keep that motivation? I would love to hear your ideas too. Emails are always welcome.
I hope you have a great Monday! If you are on vacation; enjoy every moment!
Love the long summer days. With the sun hiding here in the northwest the past couple days, today was a great day for being creative. Pulled out the sewing machine to teach a new quilter. Had a busy day of cutting and piecing together the top of a quilt. Fun times. Will post pics when they are complete.
Sometimes “lazy” Sundays are not so lazy after all. Finding ways to learn or create is so relaxing for me. Think I’ll finish my day with reading as well.
What do you do to enjoy your days off? Do you have hobbies or crafts that can keep you occupied for hours? Do you play sports or games that just melt time away? I hope you find time to do those things. These are good for the soul.
Hope you’ve enjoyed your Sunday. Till next time…