Posted in Monday Musings

Monday Musings – dreaming

Happy Monday everyone! I am one of those folks that do not mind Mondays so much. I’m sure I would enjoy them more if I was working for myself and didn’t have to be out the door by 630am. But still, it’s the beginning of a new week! Anything is possible.

I have old songs running through my head today.  One line; “I’ve always been a dreamer” by the Eagles is playing in my mind today. I am busy dreaming today. Dreaming of all the plans I have for this year and decade ahead.  Now I am a realist as much as a dreamer so I know that many things may not come true, but I am a believer in the saying “shoot for the moon and even if you miss you will land among the stars.”  So one of my motto’s is “why not try?!”

Whether you are starting a new year, new business, new relationship, new job, etc; there are always things you can do to set yourself up for the most success in these ventures.  And that is what we all want right, to be successful in whatever we are attempting to build, grow or change in our lives?

So what do you to to ensure that success?  As this new week starts, I have set my plan for how to tackle at least a few or my goals.  One week at a time is my focus this year.  As I talked about in last weeks post, rather than set a whole bunch of abstract goals that are not very clearly defined, I want to try something new this year.

I thought I would share how I am working on goals and dreams this year.

  • Asking myself new questions.  Such as where do I want to be at the end of this year?  What do I want my body to look like?  My bank account?  My relationships?  Career? Business?   You can apply these questions to your own world and what your priorities currently are.
  • Focusing on one major goal at a time.  For me one dream that I have had for years is to finish writing a book.  So each week I plan to write a chapter or two.  By giving myself one task to do for this goal,  I am breaking it down so it does not seem so overwhelming.  I am not trying to eat the whole elephant in one sitting.
  • Another goal is to be more active.  I could have set the goal to lose a specific amount of weight and although that may be in my mind, I am not focusing on that.  Instead I am just staying committed to moving more.  To being active every single day.  By setting that as my daily plan and not stressing about the scale or what I am eating, I have freed myself to perhaps actually lose some weight.
  • Listening and reading about others dreams and goals. Hearing stories of achievement and success is inspiring and keeps dreaming alive. I love to hear what other people have achieved and how they did so.  It motivates me to keep trying, especially on the days when I do not feel like putting in the effort.
  • Rest!  Take time to rest your mind and body.  Try to go to bed at a time that is conducive to the time you want to wake up.  Knowing how much sleep you need to feel rested and re-energized is important.  If we are too tired, we are less inclined to get any tasks completed let alone the ones that encourage our dreams.

These are just a few things I am working on this year.  A few ways I am changing how I plan and work towards my dreams.  I have many more that I am often thinking about and imagine I will share about as they begin to emerge through my daily and weekly commitments to bringing them into reality.

What are you doing differently this year to achieve your dreams?  Three weeks into this new year are you seeing any changes in how you think about goals?  In how you plan?  As always I love to hear from you, drop me a line sharing what you do to see your dreams come true!

 

Posted in Sunday quotes

Sunday reflections (31) – final review

On this last Sunday of the year I’m thinking about all the things this year brought. Looking back through my posts and seeing where I grew and where I have more work to do. Sharing my thoughts, ideas and details of my life is a rewarding, cathartic and interesting activity for me to partake in. Writing a blog gives me an outlet to feel “published” and share thoughts with even just one who may feel empowered and encouraged. Seeing readers throughout the world is always amazing to me. I love seeing a new reader in a new country.

As I’m reviewing this blog today, I can see that I was not as consistent with writing every single Sunday as I was hoping I would be. I may have been somewhat repetitive in my posts. And I need to become more focused on what I want this blog to be.

With one year ending and a new one beginning I’m excited to set new intentions for Wordy Chick. To create a better viewing experience and better content. My original intent with this blog was to share my experiences moving through a relationship with a narcissist. It helped me to share what I was learning and hoping that maybe my experiences could help someone else as I was recovering and rebuilding my life. As my life has moved forward and far away from that moment, I’ve tried to move this blog away from that topic to more of a best self/life blog.

In evaluating today I think I’ve done that. Although the posts about recovering and moving on from a narcissist are still the most read posts, my hope for this new year is to continue to contribute new ideas about how to live your best life. This new year I plan to focus more on lists and ways to practically implement ideas to help cultivate the life you desire.

My hope is to encourage you more often. To share more of myself and learn to write better. Only by continually growing do we evolve into better. I have enjoyed watching the blogs I read and follow grow and become better. Perhaps this year you might even start a blog; knowing we each have something amazing to offer this world I encourage you to do so. You might have something important to share!

I hope you enjoy this last week of 2019. I hope you set new intentions for the new year not just a resolution that might easily be tossed aside. I look forward to sharing more of this amazing life with you.

Happy New Year!

Posted in Wordy Wednesday

Wordy Girl Wednesday– mood changers

It’s a cold dreary day here in the Northwest.  I am definitely thankful I work inside. Days like today are tough to be working all day outside; I commend those that can.  Just like the grey sky; my mood has been a bit grey the past few days.  Some of my mood is due to life stresses that we all experience from time to time.  But some of it is that I am just cranky.  Sometimes we are all that way; when we wished we had just stayed in bed and not had to do anything.  But like many of you, I have a family and a job so I have to pull myself out of bed and get on with it.  This week has been a challenge in wanting to do that.

In recognizing that I need to change my attitude I thought I would share with you what I have been doing this week to work on that.

Here are a few tips I try:

  1. I tend to chat by text with my partner.  He is a great listener and just lets me be.  If I am spun up over something kind of silly and inconsequential, he just reads it and says he is there for me.   This kind of support is often enough to make me feel heard and calmer.
  2. I take a walk. Sometimes this can be hard to do during a busy day but I think it is vital especially when trying to not vent all your frustrations to your coworkers.  Just take 10 min and walk around the building.  Go get some water. Sometimes the quick walk just clears my head enough for me to feel I can go back to my desk more focused.
  3. Listen to music.  Or a podcast.  Or an audio book.  Sometimes when I am having a not so good day, I will just put on my headset, find some music I like and allow the music to soothe me some.  Or I will listen to podcasts from different blogs I follow.  Having to concentrate a bit on what they are speaking about can be enough to change my thoughts. Gives me something else to focus on.

These are things I’ve been trying this week as my attitude has been a bit gloomy and grumpy like our weather. Changing your thoughts is work. Staying positive sometimes requires some extra effort. But it’s always worth it. No one really wants to be around someone who is crabbing at them, especially when our bad mood isn’t anyone else’s fault. We are responsible for our own thoughts and actions.

It is not always easy to pull yourself out of a bad mood.  What do you try?

 

Posted in Wordy Wednesday

Wordy girl Wednesday

Do you practice gratitude moments? Not for the month of November. But in general, do you think about anything or everything you are thankful for?

I’m learning to get back into this practice with my morning routine. Writing down at least three things I’m grateful for each day. Sometimes these are simple things I easily take for granted. Other things are bigger than myself and my little world.

I’m finding this practice keeps me calmer and staying in a positive place. Recognizing all the parts of life that I’m blessed by.

As we head into a holiday weekend here in the US I encourage you to take the time to try this practice out. Stay in a state of thanksgiving and see what changes occur in your own personal world. See how your view becomes more positive, even if in the midst of any challenges.

I’m off to enjoy this holiday. Happy Thanksgiving all.

Posted in Sunday quotes

Sunday reflections (30)– intention

Waking up to another chilly, foggy morning. Looking out at the old fashioned style street lamp outside my front window that’s turned off since I’ve woken has me thinking about timing. Routine. Do you think much about your daily activities? Or are they so ingrained that you’re kind of on auto pilot each day, just going through the motions?

I’m a believer in intention. That if we want to live our best life, we must set an intention to do so and follow specific tasks to accomplish. These need to be items we can measure, account for progress.

Just like that street lamp has a timer of when it comes on and goes off, we too can set and follow a routine for completing daily tasks that will help us move towards our goals. We can even use a timer if that helps!

I’ve been practicing following an early rise, before my household is awake, getting my coffee, meditating, reading and journaling for awhile now. It’s become vital to my mental health and attitude to have the solitude and get ready to be an active member of my family, work and life.

Not everyone wakes up early. I used to work the graveyard shift and it was harder to find the quiet moments. But anything is possible when you set an intention and them follow through to make it happen.

How do you set an intention? Start with one thing you want to focus on. Make a list of how you can accomplish that. Then do the work. We tend to fall apart at the idea of actually putting in the work but that’s the only way we change our lives. Through hard, committed effort.

My intention to wake up early each day means I go to bed early. I try very hard to go to bed near the same time every night. I set my alarm for about 10 min earlier than I truly want to be awake just in case I want to hit the snooze button or snuggle up to my guy. This allows me to slightly wake up but not have to leave my warm bed quite yet. Once those minutes are up, I head downstairs to make some coffee, drink a glass of water and meditate for a few. Then I tackle readingand journaling. And I use my phone timer throughout my morning quiet time so that I stay on task.

Finding a routine to help you each day moves you closer to your expectations of the life you want. Set an intention. Then make a plan. And get to work. Enjoy those moments of progress and push through the fails. Your best life is on its way. It’s only up to you. What do you intend it to be?