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Wordy Girl Wednesday (3) –Quick Encouragement is all I have today

This has been a crazy couple of weeks with getting back into the grove of school and sports for all our children.  Truth; I am exhausted most days.  The weather is changing and I am ready to curl up and head to bed much earlier these days.

In light of that; I thought I would post some encouraging words for those that may be in the same boat.   I hope this is how your day has been today and is everyday.  Even in the midst of chaos, exhaustion, kids fighting or ANY thing that may come your way, I hope you find pockets of joy.

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And this too as I think this is an important reminder; make these days count.  They pass too quickly.

“Don’t count the days. Make the days count” –Muhammed Ali

 

 

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Are you ready? How do you transition?

Waking up and heading back to work after vacation; which in my case means at least ten days off from work and most responsibilities is feeling a bit brutal this morning.  Getting back into routine is often tough for many of us.  Vacations are necessary and I advise to take them as often as you can which I try to do numerous times throughout the year but coming back to reality is rough and I might already be tired at 8am!

So in trying to prepare for getting back to work and into the swing of things, I was thinking about how I can help myself transition from sleeping in, no tasks required, lounging when I want, reading when I wish, eating and drinking too much to an on task, lots to do, more responsibility than I often want at a place where they pay me mode.

This got me thinking; are we ready to get started each day?  Are we ready to hit the ground running when we hear our alarms?  Are we ready to be on for our families and employers? Or if you run your own company, are you ready for the long to do list you may have?

I am not all that ready to head back to work, but I am looking forward to a routine.  I like to plan and work towards goals so I thought that would be the best way to get myself ready for this morning.   I made a list of goals I want to achieve here in the near future.  These were simple and probably too easy to accomplish but is a start when what I am really wanting to do is to sleep in and still be lounging in the water up at the lake house.

Here are some of the things I have been doing to “get ready”:
I mapped out on Sunday what I may need to do when I get to work this morning.
I recommitted to my morning tasks (think I have mentioned SAVERS before (thank you Hal Elrod)).  This by far has been the best method I have ever followed; check out his book: The Miracle Morning
I started a new workout program. 
I prepared what I need for the first day back to work and made a plan for dinner with the kids ahead of time.
By doing these things I am feeling a bit more prepared for a new work week and tackling getting back into work mode.

What do you to do get ready for things you may have to do?  Do you have tips and tricks to help you when you are tired or not really excited for whatever you may be facing?  How do to get back into the groove of work and routine; especially after a long vacation? Do you fight to find motivation to keep at it?  Or are you recharged and ready to go already?  If so, how do you keep that motivation?  I would love to hear your ideas too. Emails are always welcome.

I hope you have a great Monday!  If you are on vacation; enjoy every moment!

 

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My takeaways from a weekend of technical difficulties

Sometimes I just can’t leave well enough alone and go and mess up a completely working and well run machine.  For those that may have noticed, my blog has been down; offline for the past 3 days!  I got a wild idea to change server hosts.  Well that was not my best plan.

In dealing with Many (sigh) phone calls, online chats and emails, I am Finally back online!  Woohoo!   And to top it off, I got a summer cold that is kicking my butt!  But in this process I learned a few things I thought I would share.

  1. You should ALWAYS do your research.  The server I was trying to move to is reputable and reliable, but I should have known a bit more about the changes that it would cause if I moved.   Like reading the fine print.  We often skip that part, but it is important.  Research doesn’t have to take all our time or attention but we should give it due diligence.
  2. Know your own limitations.   This is not to say one should never step out of their comfort zone, we should; this is where growth occurs.  But I do not know how to code and I am happy in this wordpress space and creating the blog I have.  There are things I want to learn and then there are those I am comfortable letting someone else deal with.  I know what areas I am willing to give extra time and energy to and those I am not; it seems I forgot those this weekend.
  3.  You do not have to listen to the “experts.”  Refer back to tip #1.  I listened to those I believe to have more knowledge than me.  And while the tips and ideas are great and beneficial, they are not applicable for me at this time.  Sometimes we are just not ready for a change or to try a new path even if it could be better.
  4. Prepare ahead of time for issues.  In the case of having a blog or website, you may want to let your readers or followers know that your site is going to be going through some changes.  And there may be some down time.  I am thankful it was only 3 days, imagine if your site was down even longer!
  5. That leads me to the last tip I gleaned from this:  Do not try to make a bunch of changes to your blog right before date night!  Think this one is self explanatory! Lol!

It has been a tough few days navigating the mistake I made and getting back online.

Please do let me know that you can see this new post.  And I would love to hear any of your technical difficulty stories.

 

 

 

 

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Sunday Reflections (22): 5 tips to shake off a “no reason” for a bad mood.

Do you ever wake up and feel overwhelmed by all the things left to do before going back to work for the week?  Or just feeling a bit cranky but you don’t know why?  That is how I am feeling today.  Most of the time I wake up refreshed and ready to tackle the day.  I am more inclined to be an optimist and focus on the good, or at least try, but today I am a finding that to be more of a challenge.

Somedays are just like that right?! There may be now reason for the off mood.  There may be nothing wrong in your home or relationships or job.  But for whatever reason you have a more negative attitude.  Do you work on changing those feelings when you have them or do you wallow in them?

Truth be told, sometimes I wallow.  Not for long, but sometimes I just mire in the bad mood.  This happens more when I am not sure why I am even feeling off.  But I do not like to stay cranky.  I have a partner, children and a life I love that I do not like to waste much of my time feeling negative.  When days like today creep in, I have a few tricks I use to work myself out of a mood.  Perhaps some of these will help you as well.

5 tips to shake off a “no reason” for a bad mood: 

  1. Write a list.  Write down all the tasks you feel like you have to get done today or this week.  I find that writing down the tasks that I feel are overwhelming me helps me get clear and focused.  Often times the list is much smaller than I think it is.  Like today; I am feeling that my house needs to be cleaned and picked up more.  But when I made my list; I really only have a couple things to complete.  My house is not near as messy as I was thinking in my head.
  2. Breathe.  Meditate.  I learned the a few years ago the value of meditation.  It is not an easy task for me at all!  It seems as if my thoughts are never quiet and I have a tough time calming my mind.  When I practice this it is best for me to just stand tall in my living room, taking a few deep breaths with my eyes closed.  I start with the yoga tree pose most often.  Then I may move into child’s pose and cat and cow poses.  I usually try to end with the warrior pose, making me end on a strong note.  Practicing some yoga and meditation in the morning has helped me stay centered and calm throughout the day.
  3. Take a walk.  This tip is one that I see so very often, but it is one of the best ones.  There is something refreshing about getting outside and breathing in the fresh air.  Getting our bodies moving is also a way to release feel good hormones.  Any exercise will help but I think there is something special in taking a walk.  It is usually not too difficult nor strenuous and can just be a quiet moment in the chaos of our days.
  4. Listen to music.  As I was starting my chores (from that list I made) I put on music.  Find musicians that speak to your for different reasons.  Today I needed calm, relaxing music.  Even though I was working and that would usually be a time for upbeat, fast, maybe loud styles, today I needed something different.  Music can be a great distraction and sometimes you just need to sing it out.
  5. Watch a funny video.  I am not a watcher of youtube much.  I do not have funny memes on my phone.  But I have teenagers.  They are always a great resource for funny videos and finding things that will make me laugh.  Often times these are so random, it’s impossible not to laugh.  Sometimes to redirect your thoughts, you need something random to distract you.  I find that laughter has always worked for me when I can’t seem to shake a bad mood.

No matter what mood you might be in, these tricks can help keep you calm and centered.  These are not just for a bad mood.  Often times these work best when practiced often.  I hope if you are starting your day slightly off, you try a few of these and see if they work for you.

Think I will head out for a walk now.

And just needed another pretty picture to remind myself of the beauty in this world.

 

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Sunday reflections (21)

In thinking about what to write this Sunday, I want to be transparent as always.  As I discuss this journey to live your best self and life, I often shy away from discussing my children.  It is a piece of life I tend keep more private.  But in order to be my best self I have to (at times) share this part of me as well.  I have been in a new season in this motherhood journey I have enjoyed for the last 18years.  Having a young adult home from college for the first time, is a bringing new unexpected challenges.

Learning how to mother a young adult is new and hard!  It brings lots of joys and proud moments as I watch her reach goals and try new things.  To see her successful fills my heart.  But there are also lots of trying, difficult moments as we try to navigate this new environment.  Knowing how to parent a young adult child is just like the rest of parenthood; it comes without any guide book.

For some reason when these moments of struggle hit, I hear the words of this song below.  I thought I would share it with you today.  As I have shared before, modern Christian music will always be a genre that calms me, centers me and helps soothe some rough or thorny parts of my heart.  I can be demanding not only of myself but also of my children and partner.  It can be challenging for me to know what is the right advice to give or how to listen instead of speak.

I’m thankful for the scars.”   

In struggling how to move through these new changes I keep hearing that line.  I know my connection with these words may not be the meaning behind the song, but this is how these words speak to me.  For some reason this line in this song eases my pain and sadness that come when my daughter and I struggle.  When we have difficult conversations or can’t seem to understand each other.

I can physically see the scars on my body that bringing children into this world have left.  I can see the scar on my back where the weight of life struggles broke me down.  I can feel the scars on my heart from where I have loved, hurt and healed.  All these scars remind me that I am human.  That I am always learning.  Hopefully growing.  And we have these scars to share with others; they are our offerings to our children.  When I look at my scars as a way to help my children through life’s tough moments, they bring a sense of worthiness to all the pains of this life.  Through my scars I can show them; we may get down, we may feel broken, we may cry and writhe in pain, but we do not remain there.  Scars are pain healed over.  I get to share mine with my lover, children and friends.  Don’t hide your scars, they are part of your story.

I AM THEY -Scars
Waking up to a new sunrise
Looking back from the other side
I can see now with open eyes

Darkest water and deepest pain
I wouldn’t trade it for anything
‘Cause my brokenness brought me to you
And these wounds are a story you’ll use

So I’m thankful for the scars
‘Cause without them I wouldn’t know your heart
And I know they’ll always tell of who you are
So forever I am thankful for the scars

Now I’m sending in confidence
With the strength of your faithfulness
And I’m not who I was before
No, I don’t have to fear anymore

So I’m thankful for the scars
‘Cause without them I wouldn’t know your heart
And I know they’ll always tell of who you are
So forever I am thankful for the scars

I can see, I can see
How you delivered me
In your hands, in your feet
I found my victory

I can see, I can see
How you delivered me
In your hands, in your feet
I found my victory

I’m thankful for your scars
‘Cause without them I wouldn’t know your heart
And with my life, I’ll tell of who you are
So forever I am thankful

I’m thankful for the scars
‘Cause without them I wouldn’t know your heart
And I know they’ll always tell of who you are
So forever I am thankful for the scars
So forever I am thankful for the scars

I recommend listening to this song and finding your own interpretation.  I encourage you to find songs that you relate to, music is a great balm.  I hope you see the scars in your life as your gifts to others.  You do not have to show someone physical scars but you can use them to tell your story.  Each of us have a great story.  Each one of us are worthy to be loved.  Sharing yourself, your true authentic self, is our greatest way to give to our loved ones and others.

I hope you are able to be thankful for the road you have traveled.  For the scars you have acquired; you are living!

Do you have a song or lyrics that speak to you in difficult moments?  Do you have tips for parenting in the young adult stage of motherhood?  I would love to hear your thoughts; drop a comment or send me a message.  I love to hear your feedback.

 

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Wordy girl Wednesday

Good morning world. It’s Wednesday here in the Northwest part of the US.  I am headed out to work,  it’s been over a month now in this new position and I am enjoying the challenges and new schedule.  I have found when you love the schedule that you create you can enjoy your life on a whole new level.  A balanced life allows me to serve my family, partner, children and all those around me so much better.

Summer is so great having all the kids home.  The first summer of 4 kids in the house (at times; with the one home from college bouncing around).  Having multiple days off now allows for so much more rest and family fun.

Life can be exciting ride; if you focus on the joy and love rather than the struggles. My thoughts today as I tackle my last work day for the week are all about how to enjoy all the chaos life can bring.  I am someone who prefers quiet to noise; with 4 kids that can be a challenge.  I prefer neat and order; again that can be a hard to come by with numerous feet about; you should see the shoe pile!  I like my alone time; you can imagine how much of that I am getting with summer vacation in full swing.  But what I am choosing to focus on instead of the things I might “prefer” are the things I love.

I love having a partner who understands me and my idiosyncrasies.  Who is home every night, there every morning; who shares all the joys and hardships with me.  Having the right partner in life makes a world of difference in how you tackle family life. Being part of a fabulous team is one of my greatest joys these days.  I am reminded of a bible phrase I learned as a kid;
“Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up!”  Ecclesiastes 4:9-10   

I love hearing the kids laugh and play and work together.  The noise can get to me as I must have some of the most sensitive ears around which can be a source of frustration.  But when I focus on how they all get along (sometimes a challenge with blended families) how they all work together and how much we laugh, the noise doesn’t seem as overwhelming.

I love having fun as a couple and a family.  There is a shift inside when you sit back and examine the good.  I have been known to say; quite often “like a magnifying glass, what you choose to focus on will become larger and more magnified.  The more I hold that looking glass over the joys of this life, the more they show up.

This wordy girl loves her life everyday.  No matter the struggles, tears, or frustrations.  The love, laughter and joys are in more abundance than ever before.  Life is good.

I know that I talk about joy often these days.  This blog began as an outlet for a very sad and difficult season of my life. As a way to help others that may also be recovering from an abusive relationship.  To help those who struggle with finding the good amidst the hard and to help us all feel less alone.  As my life has shifted to a new season, my focus has also changed.  I want to share more of the joys of life. To focus on encouragement and hope. To continue to offer ways of finding contentment and peace throughout this busy life of family, career and relationships.

I hope to bring you more updates.  To write more often.  To encourage you in this journey of life.  NEVER GIVE UP!  The road always bends and twists and can take you some amazing places if you stay the course.  Keep working towards the best you.  When you lift your head each day, choose to focus on just one thing that can bring you joy today.

I hope that you find something beautiful to focus on today.
Till next time.

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New again?!

The end of the second week in a new role is leaving me exhausted.  Adjustments always take a moment and getting back to the type of shift I enjoy; a bit older than the last time is knocking me off my feet a bit.

But as I was scrolling around looking at quotes, I thought this was a good one for today.    Sometimes finding a great fit for your strengths and skills can take time.  I can say that I think I have found a great fit for me in this position.

If you are working to create your best life, keep looking at the ways in which you earn an income.  Make what you do; your job, be something you enjoy (at least most of the time).  Even if you have to learn something new, use that as a challenge for yourself.  Don’t be afraid of the new or unknown.  Sometimes taking a calculated risk truly does pay off.

I am someone who likes to be challenged.  To learn something new.  I am often easily distracted and enjoy change.  So once again, I am not living to work, but am enjoying the work I do.

And by the way; blogging is one of the things that makes me happy so I will continue to post.  To encourage you to live each day to the fullest.  To cheer you on in pursuing your goals, dreams and best life.  Today!  Everyday!