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Time flies when you are having fun; right?!

Good morning fellow readers and bloggers.  It is a rainy, chilly day here in the Northwest.  Still dark as I headed out this morning.  Here in Oregon we change our clocks back and forth in the Spring and Fall so we have more dark hours each day during this season.

I hope your morning is starting out well.  I am sitting at my desk thinking about how fast time goes.  Perhaps this is because I have just had another birthday, the kids keep having them too or could be the end of another decade is near.  Remember how as a kid, getting through the school days, weeks and year seemed to take Forever!  Time moved at such a slower pace it seemed. Now in the adult years time seems to be speeding up and it feels like there are not enough hours to accomplish everything each day or even each week.  We hit another new year and we make the same resolutions as the year before because we didn’t come close to where we wanted to be.

In thinking about time moving quickly, I keep coming back to how I choose to live my life.  Am I having the most fun I can?  Am I enjoying more of this life than not?  Do I find myself living in peace, harmony and joy?  Am I accomplishing the goals or moving in the direction of my dreams?

I read every morning.  I love to read.  To write.  To expand my mind with new ideas I may not have heard before or to get lost in a creative story.  During the quiet morning reading, I often choose books or articles that will stretch my mind.  That will help me focus and motivate me to live my best life.  I enjoy reading stories about over-comers, the underdog who has risked everything or helped others and created the life of their dreams.  These are inspiring to me.

As I was reading this morning, this idea about time moving fast and where am I at; hit me anew.  I love my life in so many ways.  In the past 2 years life has changed immensely with adding a partner and two kids to my life.  A new dog! Sending my oldest to college.  And I would not change any of it.   There are things though I personally want to work on.  I want to be more fit.  To write more.  To build a business and create time freedom.  I have been so busy loving and building one area of my life that I have become complacent in other areas.

When we are busy enjoying one area of life, we can often drop the ball in other parts of life that still need our attention.  This has definitely been my experience.  So how do we stay focused on building our best self, in the midst of time flying right by?  How do we stay focused on fun and joy and creating the life of our dreams while juggling all the commitments that come with adulthood?

This is just a small list of a few items we can do to keep on track and continue to create the life you love no matter what age or stage of life you are at.

  1. Decide!  Make a decision about what you want your life to look like.  Be ok that this will change.  What you want in your 20’s may not be the same as what you want in your 40’s or beyond.  But indecision is the killer of dreams, so choose to be a decision maker for your own self!  Maybe create a plan for the month or a year or 5 years.  Just choosing a direction can be difficult so try to find an area that you can more easily make decisions in and decide.
  2. Write!  Set time, even just 10 minutes to write goals and dreams.  To write lists.  I have committed to the practice of writing three things I am thankful for each day.  Along with writing my intentions for myself.  Once I write it down, I have a reference I can look back to track progress as well as clarity.  And writing items that I am grateful for keeps me grounded and in a state of awareness beyond just myself.
  3. Read! I believe reading others thoughts, stories, ideas all help us.  Read anything.  I read a stat somewhere once that something like 80% of the world never reads again after going through school!  It may have been 65%!  But still, either number is staggering to me.  I can not imagine not reading.  There is so much to learn and this is one of the best ways to do so. I suggest finding books that help you with the path you are on.  If you are trying to get healthy, read cookbooks and stories of weight loss or physical breakthroughs.  If you are building a business, read books from other entrepreneurs for ideas and inspiration.  Struggling with any mental health issues, self esteem issues, family issues, you can find stories you will relate to as well as assistance in how to get through those.  Or read for the pure enjoyment of the story.  I try to split it up, about 60% is for my betterment, stories of triumph, biographies, business books, etc.  The other 40% is what I call mind candy; these are just for fun.  Could be historical fiction, romance, mystery, fantasy.  Anything that gets me engaged and lost in the story.  Reading is a sure fire way to enjoy time while it flies by.

I encourage you to try these.  To make even just one small decision toward your dream life.  Each time I write a blog post, I am doing one thing that keeps me moving toward living my best life.  I have wanted to be “published” for so many years and this avenue allows me to feel like I am.  Whether or not you see the results, each step you take will bring you closer to the life you desire.  Each time you Decide to take action, you are one step closer to your dreams and accomplishing those goals.  Each time you Write them down, you have the opportunity to re-read them, carry them with you and track progress.  Each time you Read something outside of your own thoughts and ideas you have the opportunity to learn; which always makes us better.

I hope you are living your best life.  If not in all ways, then do something about it.  Start where you are and get moving.  This life is going to keep on moving forward; how do you choose to enjoy the journey? Are you having fun? If not, you have the power to choose differently.

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Friday’s word (28)

Good morning from the Pacific Northwest, USA. It’s early and still dark out, but I’ve a puppy so I’m up daily in the early hours. She’s so sweet it’s not too hard to tend to her. Plus gives me this morning time to ease into the day. I love the quiet and calm of being the only one awake.

Today’s word so fits me, I’m definitely wistful when I enter a bookstore, of any kind really. I think I could live in a bookstore. The smell of books. The excitement when you find just the story you were wanting to read. Curling up in a chair, the coziness and warmth all the books bring. I don’t care what kind, used or new, I just love books.

For those who enjoy reading and books… This word is for you today.

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Friday’s Word (7)

I love vocabulary days, searching for new words or just finding words I enjoy the sound of.  This week has been all about making a reading list to work through during 2018.  This made me start to think of libraries and how much I love books.  And how often we seek truth in books, so this seemed a fitting picture.  Enjoy today’s word.

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Smoke is in the air

Driving my kiddos to school for their first day this morning, smoke and ash fill the air. This is a new experience for us as this is an uncommon occurrence in this part of Oregon.  Some of the beautiful trails, wilderness, and waterfall areas that we, along with many others, love to explore, are under fire this morning.  It’s sad to witness the devastation.  It will not look the same in my lifetime.   (The picture above is from the local area news stations of the fire in the Gorge).

I had a plan to start a new category of posts today, but think this will wait til next week as this morning is full of mixed emotions and I seem to have other things on my mind.  It is the beginning of a new school year for my never ending growing children.  There are so many fires across Oregon, Washington, California, Idaho, and Montana, impacting thousands of lives.  There is massive devesation as hurricanes hit.  And I have some friends who have recently lost members of their families.

There seems to be a never ending supply of surprises, changes, and loss in store for us in this life.  We can plan and prepare, but we are still often hit with the unexpected.  This can leave us sad, confused, angry, lonely and desperate to understand the why’s of life.

How do we handle these moments?  How do we tackle grief, loss or devastation and still function? How do we face unexpected or unwanted changes?

For those facing loss, know that you are loved and supported.  You are not alone in the journey of this life.  We all face changes, loss and the unexpected.  DISCLAIMER: I do not begin to try to tell anyone how to feel or behave.  I have not had your experiences and am not making light of anything you may be going through.  I write for myself, for me to process, grow and learn and perhaps in the process maybe have something of value to offer others.

I have found a few ways that have helped me this past year as I faced loss and change that I was unprepared for.  These are just some ways I have started to handle things in my life that I feel help me take better care of myself and be a better version of me for those around me.

  •  First,  and I know it may seem a strange statement to make, but I found a lot of peace in the statement, “no one gets out of this life alive.”  I heard this in a song a little while back and even though I have always known this, the truth of it just kind of hit me.  We will ALL eventually face death.  This brought me peace to realize that we are all in the same boat. Having this connection with every single living thing, just brought a calmness to my heart.  NO ONE gets to live forever. For those that are believers, you may have a faith that believes something else and that is ok, but this current life, on Earth, will one day end.  Somehow knowing that I am not alone in facing death, makes it easier for me to accept the reality of it.
  • Second, I bought books on loss and grief.  I read them, made notes in them and tried to practice some of the ideas they offered.  I kept them by my bed at night for when moments of pain and sorrow would wake me up.  Hearing other peoples stories and learning new ways of coping, helped with healing.  Through out life, I have always turned to books, they offer a great resource of information.
  • Third, I try to walk or do yoga every day.  Some form of exercise.  Moving your body, getting that heart rate up and the endorphins flowing, helps more than just our muscles.  It can change our entire outlook for that moment at least.  Even just a short walk can calm your nerves.  There are many resources where you can find the benefits of walking, too many to list here.  But finding a way to incorporate a daily or weekly exercise routine is one of the best self-care methods I have found.

These are just the basic things that helped me in the recent past and things I still turn to. What do you do when facing change, loss or pain and suffering?  I would love to hear your ideas and things that have worked for you.

We continue to hope for rain across the West.  And for the Hurricanes in the South East to dissipate.  We send support to Houston and hope the waters recede.  In this journey of life, may we all find healthy ways to grieve and mourn our losses and help others along as well.

Continued wishes for a better day, each day.