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I am still here! 200 posts later, what’s new to say?

Hello there!  How are you all doing?  I know it has been a few months since I last posted btu after seeing that I hit 200 posts, I was not sure I had more to say.   But really we all have something to say and more to share so here I am again.  Thank you to all that have remained reading.

How are you all doing these days?  Hoe are your fairing during this pandemic?  We are still in “phase 1” here where we live.  We are venturing out more and seeing more friends and family but things are definitely not “normal.”   We all spent months wondering when we could return to the way of life that we knew, but it seems that will not occur.  So we have to pivot and learn a new way to live, function and interact within this world.

What are you doing to deal with the changes in your world? Is your city still in lockdown or were you barely affected?   Are you working from home now or have children at home instead of school or daycare?  Are you facing job loss or a new position?

So many of us have had our worlds and homes rocked by the pandemic that we have had no choice but to change how we operate.  We have had to make daily modifications and learn how to handle changes that we neither wanted nor were prepared for.  Cause who can really prepare for a worldwide pandemic?!

Change is something so constant that I feel I have learned to embrace it.  I love variety and trying new things.  I am committed to not letting fear in any way dictate my life, so change is often exciting to me.  BUT I have found that I embrace the changes I am in control of.  Like most, I am still not a fan of the things out of my control.  Does it cause you stress to think you will have to permanently change your way of life? Or is that somewhat exciting and full of possibility?

I have learned these past few months how important mindset truly is.  Not only for our own mental state but for how we handle change. Especially unwelcome or unwanted change. Our human nature resists change that we do not control, face it we barely handle the changes we do want.  Like when we think we want a new job but then are stressed that we have to learn something new.  Or we are excited to move to a new town but find it painful and lonely when we get there.

So how do we handle the changes we do not desire to deal with?  Here are some ways we have handled the pandemic and all the changes that has meant for our household.

  1. We extend grace more easily.  I think this may be the number one key to dealing with others in the midst of unexpected challenges; extend grace. Let your people feel what they feel without trying to stop it and just let the moment be. 
  2. Allow alone time when needed.   With everyone at home much more than we used to be; we have had to find ways to get time alone and away from each other sometimes.  This may be taking a walk or being in our rooms with the door shut for a bit.   Even just taking a drive to get out of the house has helped.
  3.  Finding new activities for us all to participate in.  We put together puzzles.  We watch a show or a movie together.  We have played games.  Taking the time to better enjoy each other has helped us have a more positive experience. 
  4. Looking at this moment in time as an opportunity rather than a disappointment.  The first couple of months were tough.  It was tough to adjust to not really seeing anyone other than the folks you live with.  But we have tried to embrace the time this has brought with our children.  As we have had another one leave the nest (there are 4 total and time is moving too fast) in many ways this has been an added bonus. 
  5.  Trying to keep life as normal as possible.  Keeping a routine.  Having dinner together.  Chores. All the things we usually do each day or week we have continued.  We still get dressed and showered before working from home.  We still make the beds and cook meals.  

Life may not look the same anymore but we have a choice in how we view that.  To live our best life we sometimes have to face moments where we need to pivot.  To learn new ways and do things differently.  If your mindset is to see moments of stress and change as an opportunity then you can’t help but be successful.  In the past few months of this pandemic we are more successful as a couple and family than before.    Life is still full of abundance.  

How do you see your life today?  What are you doing to create an abundance mindset in the midst of the chaos?   I hope you find joy in the midst.   

Till next time. 

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Wordy Girl Wednesday– mood changers

It’s a cold dreary day here in the Northwest.  I am definitely thankful I work inside. Days like today are tough to be working all day outside; I commend those that can.  Just like the grey sky; my mood has been a bit grey the past few days.  Some of my mood is due to life stresses that we all experience from time to time.  But some of it is that I am just cranky.  Sometimes we are all that way; when we wished we had just stayed in bed and not had to do anything.  But like many of you, I have a family and a job so I have to pull myself out of bed and get on with it.  This week has been a challenge in wanting to do that.

In recognizing that I need to change my attitude I thought I would share with you what I have been doing this week to work on that.

Here are a few tips I try:

  1. I tend to chat by text with my partner.  He is a great listener and just lets me be.  If I am spun up over something kind of silly and inconsequential, he just reads it and says he is there for me.   This kind of support is often enough to make me feel heard and calmer.
  2. I take a walk. Sometimes this can be hard to do during a busy day but I think it is vital especially when trying to not vent all your frustrations to your coworkers.  Just take 10 min and walk around the building.  Go get some water. Sometimes the quick walk just clears my head enough for me to feel I can go back to my desk more focused.
  3. Listen to music.  Or a podcast.  Or an audio book.  Sometimes when I am having a not so good day, I will just put on my headset, find some music I like and allow the music to soothe me some.  Or I will listen to podcasts from different blogs I follow.  Having to concentrate a bit on what they are speaking about can be enough to change my thoughts. Gives me something else to focus on.

These are things I’ve been trying this week as my attitude has been a bit gloomy and grumpy like our weather. Changing your thoughts is work. Staying positive sometimes requires some extra effort. But it’s always worth it. No one really wants to be around someone who is crabbing at them, especially when our bad mood isn’t anyone else’s fault. We are responsible for our own thoughts and actions.

It is not always easy to pull yourself out of a bad mood.  What do you try?

 

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Sunday reflections (27)

Waking up to a foggy fall morning with my house all decorated and smelling like fall. I love this time of year. This is when I want to be home more, bake, create and just enjoy the coziness and warmth of family time.

In the quiet this morning I’m thinking about how beautiful fall is and what it represents. These quotes below sum it up well.

There is a purpose, I believe to everything we experience in this life. Sometimes we have to look harder to find the reasons but each season of our life brings new or different things to teach us, cleanse us, create a new path for us.

I love the thought above about fall, learning to let things go seems to be a struggle for many, definitely for me. My mind wants to hold on to things that I’m sometimes not even aware of, but they come out in my dreams at night.

So I’m taking this morning to look at the areas in my life that still need cleansing, still need me to let go more and creating a plan to be like the trees in autumn. Letting my old ways fall away to create room for new. Just like the trees changing colors, watching people grow and create new, better habits for themselves, is beautiful to watch.

I hope you are embracing this change of season. I encourage you to see what things you may need to let fall away and allow new to come in.

Happy Sunday everyone.

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Wordy Girl Wednesday (4) — Tips for staying positive during this time

The new season of juggling work, school, and sports is upon me!  I imagine it is for you too!  I find at times trying to keep all the balls in the air is more of a struggle than I care to admit.  Lately that has been the case.  I long for time to relax and rest more, but I also want to accomplish my goals and create memories with my partner and all our kids.  So in this season, one thing that helps is to find ways to stay positive when often I am exhausted.

Here are the ways I try to practice positivity in this season:

  1. I stay focused on the end goal.  This season of raising children will end and I want them to have some good memories of their childhood as well as become healthy, successful adults.  When I am overwhelmed with all the running around we must do and the endless tasks, I try to keep that in mind.  We are raising adults, not children. We are teaching the habits they will carry into adulthood.  It is important to teach all these kids how to juggle life with a good attitude as much as possible.
  2. We take a date night; every single week. Even if it is just a couple hours together.  My partner and I made a commitment to each other from the start that we would prioritize our partnership.  We would make sure the children understood we are committed to each other and creating a solid foundation.  It can tough between work, school functions and soccer games for us to find the time and energy but we are always better for it and it keeps us connected. And it shows our children how to have a healthy relationship.
  3. I make time for exercise.  Sometimes that 30 minutes alone going for a walk or riding my bike or doing an exercise video is the only alone time I can get.  Take advantage of doing something for your physical health as well as your mental health.  Working out is vital to staying healthy and calm throughout the chaos of life in my opinion.  And it releases all the feel good, happy endorphins so it’s a win in trying to staying positive.
  4. I use the calendar.  We have a large calendar on the wall in the kitchen near the garage door.  It is seen daily by every one of us.  With all the activities we could have going on at one time, keeping track with colors and names is important for helping us to not forget things.  And it allows me to know what we can say yes to based on prior commitments.
  5. We communicate. With a family of 6, you have lots of opportunities for misses.  And many more opportunities for connections.  When I get home from work (as I work the latest) everyone is usually coming around to share their day with me.  Asking about school, homework, activities, life in general, is my way of staying in touch with what is going on with each of them.  They all have lots to say and keeping that end goal in mind; I want to hear from them.  I want them to share with me.  Because we have built an environment where the kids feel they can share, we have a home with lots of conversation.

Staying connected and positive can be tough when you are juggling all the demands of partnership, parenthood and employment.  Finding ways to keep your sanity is vital. Learning to communicate what you feel and think is necessary in all relationships but especially in the seasons of change where there can be so much noise from the chaos you forget to keep focused on what truly matters.

I am not always positive and happy.  I struggle with overwhelm and unhappy days just like anyone else.  But I desire to have a healthy life and home more than almost anything.  Giving my partner and our children the best me is often at the forefront of my mind.  I fail I am sure as much as I succeed, but each day I tackle anew.

I hope you find encouragement in these posts. These are just my thoughts; please share ways that you stay calm and focused during seasons of change and chaos.  As always I hope you are living your best life as much as possible.

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Sunday self care (3)

I love this quote. It is simple and direct and speaks to how I hope to live my life. Not sure I’ll ever fully get there, but I can say everyday lately, I am joyful. Not every moment, for tough things hit, but my spirit is filled with joy more and more. As I work on choosing it, as I seek it and as I focus on creating more joy, more joy finds me.

May joy be as yours as well.