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Wordy Girl Wednesday–The house that builds us

I’ve been thinking about houses the past few days. Why we choose the ones we do. How we decide the”right”one for our family or possible future family.  How we determine what spaces are the most important and what we must have; like the best kitchen or bathroom, etc.

Having owned a few homes, lived in apartments and now rent a house, I have a lot of experience in this area. Since I’ve been divorced I’ve lived in at least 9 different places. All in the same area. Almost all different sizes.

I have often voiced the thought of how having a smaller home helps love grow. In a home that’s large with lots of options to escape each other perhaps you don’t work things out as readily as a small home requires. So I find I like living in a space that is smaller but open, that requires us to work through issues quickly. It’s challenging to hide your feelings when you have no where to escape to. Even when the space becomes crowded I would still choose our smaller home to the big homes I’ve had in the past.

It’s cozy and warm. It’s open and bright. And our family and friends feel welcome. The size of the home isn’t what matters but what you fill it up with. Who more importantly. I’m hopeful the houses I’ve resided in raise up children who feel loved and ready to explore the world. That my partner feels encouraged and supported in his endeavors and that we thrive as a team.

The house you prefer will look different than mine. And my needs for what my home provides will change. For now these rooms are filled with what we need in this season. I believe love and harmony grow best when relationships are watered and fed. When we communicate and listen with each other.  And I find that no matter what your house looks like, it is the folks that you live with that create the home.

May you feel blessed today.  May you love the home you are building.

I would love to hear from you; what is your favorite space in your house? Do you prefer tiny or large?

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We are glass

“We are fragile.  We are human.  We are shaped by the light we let through us…”  Lyrics from Glass by Thompson Square

This song keeps going through my head for some reason this morning.  The particular line above especially.  I was listening to old songs yesterday from years ago that have always been favorites of mine.  Blasting them through the house, singing along.  Songs that remind me of special people in my life.  Of how we let people into our lives and some leave a mark on who we become.  They are not just part of our memories, they become part of the fabric of who we are.  Even if they are no longer a part of the day-to-day of my life, these people are always a part of me.

Some of these folks have shaped me into a better person. Some have shown me how to love, how to forgive, how to dream and push forward toward my goals, how to reason and think more rationally.  And some have shown me the opposite.  Have taught me what I do not want to be.  Have shown me the ugly sides of humanity, meanness, and abuse.

Being shaped by the light…to me seems to mean, being shaped by those we allow in to see the parts of us that are scary, afraid, broken and fragile.  Those that hold those fragile pieces like they are glass (accurately named song) and help us through rough moments and grow us.  They bring light into our lives.  These people are the ones that shape us to be better people.  From these, we learn how to love each other and ourselves.

But we also have those that hold those pieces of ourselves that we seem willing to share and they crush them.  Showing them the scary, dark, messed up places inside us does not let light in, in fact, does the opposite, it brings more darkness.  When someone we love hurts us with the very wounds that we have exposed to them, it can sometimes hurt even worse than the original harm did.

I have listened to this song, Glass, many times.  It has always been an uplifting song to me, for its beautiful but also an accurate depiction of how we love.  I love that this is performed by a married couple.  The lyrics seem very directed toward marriage, or a lasting relationship and if you watch the video you see this.   But I think some of these lyrics we can take and apply to all relationships.

We are each made of glass.  We are fragile.  We are human.  We will hurt and heal those we care about.  I want to live a life that weaves happy, colorful threads.  To be remembered for bringing light rather than darkness.  But I know that I will weave dark threads in there as well.  I will not always remember to hold those I love as if they are glass.  I will forget that they come with their own demons and I will be selfish.  I am human after all.

But I hope to keep growing.  To spend more time with those that bring me joy and stay away from those that bring more pain.  To continue to choose to surround my life, fill my home, share my time with those that fill me up to be a better me and avoid those that steal my joy.

I choose to keep letting the light into my life.  To be the light in someone else’s life.  I am so very shaped by those that I have been fortunate to know.  I have loved and been loved. I think all we can do is to continue to learn and grow and keep moving towards being the best version of ourselves.

Go listen to this song.  See if you relate.  If you are holding those you love as if they are glass and letting light or darkness in.  Remember, humans, are fragile.  We can break but we can also mend.

What songs speak to you?  I would love to hear if you have special lyrics or songs that every time you hear them, you are moved to grow or change or are just filled with joy.

Wishing you a fabulous Thursday.  Go be a light.