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Sunday reflections; thinking about love in the time of Covid.

I am having a hard day.  I miss my kids.  I miss going to meet friends.  I miss just being able to walk around a book store (one of my favorite things).  And I am finding the longer this quarantine and stay home order lasts, the toll it can take on our relationships.

As we are home, all together, all hours of all the days, some of us may find this harder than others.  For those that are like me, who need alone time, this time could feel claustrophobic, caged in, overwhelming and these feelings are not very conducive to creating a loving atmosphere.

So this has me thinking about the ease of love.  How easy it is to love one another when we have some space, other activities and things to take up our time.  When we have escapes if you will with our friends or colleagues.  When we see new and different things out in the world that we can bring home and share.  When we seem or our partners seem more interesting. And while there are tough times in all relationships, I think this moment in time has magnified ALL things.  And some of these are tough, not so great.

We are not getting breaks.  We are not seeing other faces.  We do not have a random story to share when we come from work as we work from home all week.  We are stuck together with those we may choose or not choose to be with.  How do you keep loving in the midst of this time?  How do you let this moment bind you together and strengthen you rather than weaken?

As I struggle today, have a headache from too many tears, I am reminded of the love we have in our faith.  I have been listening on repeat to songs that bring me hope, encouragement and strength.  I am reminded that Love casts out Fear.  We have this time to build rather than tear down.  We are getting a gift; although it does not feel like it every day.

Love as an emotion is easy.  It says all the “right’ things, makes you smile and feel good.  It doesn’t take any real strength or action to tell someone you love them.  But I have always viewed love as a verb.  It is more than an emotion.  It has to be tough.  It has to weather storms, battles and disease.  It has to speak truth when your feelings are hurt.  It has to share more than a kiss and hug.  It has to accept sad and happy moments.  It pushes through pain and sorrow and fear.  It has to act in a way of honesty and integrity. If it has the power to cast out fear; then it has the power to bring us strength; to build, to render hope. And in this current season, it has an opportunity to shine through some hard moments.

Loving your family in an all day, everyday, feeling way is easy.  But in this unexpected time we are living in across the world right now, it has required us to get very real with our actions.  It has shown me how much harder this is to do when we are all together all the time.  When each one is processing loss and sadness.  When at times there are just too many people and meals and needs.

Each one of us is handling this time differently and we all have different ways we need to receive love.  Today for me that meant pouring my grief, frustrations, pain all out on this man I share my life with.  And him trying very hard to show me love back when I can imagine I was not that lovable.  But that is what love does; it accepts all.  All the ugly moments.  All the good.  And in this time of uncertainty and loss; we can choose to see the moments “stuck at home” as an opportunity to grow in our love.  Love can handle the honesty, it can handle the sorrow and the pain.  It can handle being quarantined if we let it.

I hope that wherever you are you are loved.  I hope you have someone who holds you even when your eyes hurt to stay open because they have cried too many tears.  I hope this time strengthens your relationships.   And if alone, know that none of us are ever truly alone.  We are all going through this human experience; we are in this together.

Keep holding onto love.

 

 

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New again?!

The end of the second week in a new role is leaving me exhausted.  Adjustments always take a moment and getting back to the type of shift I enjoy; a bit older than the last time is knocking me off my feet a bit.

But as I was scrolling around looking at quotes, I thought this was a good one for today.    Sometimes finding a great fit for your strengths and skills can take time.  I can say that I think I have found a great fit for me in this position.

If you are working to create your best life, keep looking at the ways in which you earn an income.  Make what you do; your job, be something you enjoy (at least most of the time).  Even if you have to learn something new, use that as a challenge for yourself.  Don’t be afraid of the new or unknown.  Sometimes taking a calculated risk truly does pay off.

I am someone who likes to be challenged.  To learn something new.  I am often easily distracted and enjoy change.  So once again, I am not living to work, but am enjoying the work I do.

And by the way; blogging is one of the things that makes me happy so I will continue to post.  To encourage you to live each day to the fullest.  To cheer you on in pursuing your goals, dreams and best life.  Today!  Everyday!

 

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Happy Wednesday

Today is another day to begin in contentment and joy.  It’s a beautiful sunshine filled morning.  I love starting my day focused on all the positive in life.   The other day I realized that while I liked my life before, after healing from all the abuse and chaos, I didn’t really love love it.  I enjoyed my children, family and friends. I laughed often and had fun with my kids.  But there was a piece missing.  Not a piece of me, I am whole and healthy all by myself.  But that piece that a partner brings.  That part of having a best friend you can count on every single day, the one who keeps you warm when you are cold, who helps you with all the daily tasks, makes you laugh and who answers the same question about the locks a million times.

When you wake up each day loving your life, it’s easy to stay positive and wear a smile.  I am a big believer that the way to change your life is all about mindset.  What you choose to focus on.  I once read a quote that talked about seeing life through a magnifying glass. That when you hold it up to the negative things, they will appear even larger and become a greater obstacle.  But when you hold it over and highlight the positive, you become more positive, things seem brighter and you feel like you can do anything.  That what you choose to magnify will become your life.  I committed a while ago to magnifying the good, the positive, the beautiful.

As you go about your day today, think about what you hold the magnifying glass over?  Do you hold it over the things you dislike?  Over the coworkers that are negative and annoying?  The issues or bad attitude your kids or partner bring home some days?  All the ways you think you can’t do something?  Or do you magnify the good?  The beautiful sunrise you see on the way to work?  The way your kids want to share their stories?  The wonderful laugh your partner has?

I am sending you all positive thoughts today. Hoping you focus on the good.  Hoping you can find just one wonderful thing in your day; your relationship, work or home that brings you joy.  Search for it, even if you are living or working in not so great conditions.  Magnify the One thing that may be good.  Watch it become larger as you focus in. When you search for beauty, you will most assuredly find it.

Have a great Wednesday.

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Valentines Day

It’s about to be Valentines Day here.  I’ve never been a big of a fan of this tradition of chocolate, hearts, candy, flowers, etc.  This day was once ruined for me when I was shown what ownership, lust and narcissism were instead of love.  It’s often a sad or lonely time for many who are single or feeling less than loved.  There are often so many expectations we put on days like this that it can make one become a bit cynical.

But as I celebrate this year in love with a healthy partner, I can see the fun and joy of this day.  I personally think your love for each other should be celebrated and shared often, not just on some certain day, but it can be nice to make this day extra special.  It can be a day of “extra” celebration as it is in our house this year.

So the more I have planned and gotten little gifts ready for my teams, my children and my partner, the more I wondered where did this day even come from.  I thought I would briefly share what I found out.

From The American Library website:
The origins of Valentine’s Day are murky. We do know that the ancient Romans celebrated the feast of Lupercalia, a spring festival, on the 15th of February. With the introduction of Christianity, the holiday moved to the 14th of February–the saint day that celebrated several early Christian martyrs named Valentine.
But somewhere along the way, Valentine’s Day came to represent romance. The romance we associate with Valentine’s Day may spring from the medieval belief that birds select their mates on February 14th. During the Middle Ages, human lovebirds recited verse or prose to one another in honor of the day.

I hope that if you are in love, this day can be made extra special for you.  If you are not partnered up, then I hope you make this day nice for yourself.  Buy your own flowers, they brighten any room!  Get some chocolate.  Send flowers to friends or your children.  Last year when I was starting to feel lonely and still sorting through all the pain and healing process, I celebrated this day for all my girl friends!  Hosting a party!  Decorating my house.  Making little gifts specially crafted with each friend in mind.  You can make Valentine’s Day about the love you have to give to yourself and to others.

I hope you are in love with your own self!  Take time to celebrate this Valentine’s Day!  Make it special!

Sending you flowers to round out the moment:
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