Treasure: Noun: “anything or person greatly valued or highly prized”
Verb: “to regard or treat as precious; cherish.”
Cherish: Verb: “to hold or treat as dear; feel love for, to care for tenderly; nurture
When I think about the things I treasure, I rarely think about material items. I mainly think about my children, my family, the friendships new and old that I value so much. I focus on the memories we make together. The way we laugh, cry and grow together. Most definitely the people in my life are my greatest treasure.
But as much value as I place on relationships, I also have to admit I have material items I treasure. The wedding ring quilt that my ex-mother in law made as a wedding gift, that even though I am no longer married, I still value the time, energy and love it was created with. My grandmother’s wedding ring, that when I wear it brings me a strength I have always been able to count on. Pictures of my children when they were babies and these new tiny beings, from before I knew who they would turn out to be. My journals of words written to them throughout their lives.
I was prompted to think on the idea of what would I save in this house, what items of sentimental value, would I attempt to keep and be sad to miss if I couldn’t get them in the event of a fire or disaster. What items do I cherish that much? And when I thought about this, I realized my list is pretty small. That is not to say that I do not like nice things, or that my house has a little amount of “stuff”, but it’s to say that most of the things I own are replaceable. Many of the items I have are not things I treasure.
So I have tried to adopt the idea and practice to only purchase items that I really like. When going shopping (beyond grocery food items), I will place everything I desire into my cart or basket. Then before actually making a purchase, I will go through the items and evaluate if I really like something, will it be pretty or helpful in my home? Will it be something I treasure, am I happy to have spent money on? Or is it another item that will collect dust or hardly be worn or take up space that could be used for something more useful?
Many times I will remove about 50% of the items I truly thought I wanted. By taking the time to go through them and with the idea that I only want to purchase items that will bring value, joy or beauty into my home, I have been able to save money and to create a home that is filled with more items that I genuinely treasure and less of just stuff.
Having this practice or philosophy I have found brings me more contentment in my home. Brings less stress as I do not spend money on items I end up not wanting later. Brings less mess and clutter as I find that items I didn’t end up enjoying are not taken care of as well as those items I do. And brings more beauty into my home.
I challenge you to look at your home, your stuff that fills up the rooms and evaluate what would you keep. What items do you cherish enough to never want to lose? What material things bring you joy when you look at them or use them? Is the list so long that there is no possible way that you could actually keep them all? Is it so short that you feel you have nothing of value that you have kept in your life?
I think part of self-care and learning to better ourselves, is learning that when we surround ourselves with more of what we treasure, more items that bring us joy and beauty, the more positive energy we create and then the more we can in return share with others.
I hope along with having relationships you treasure, you have at least a few items that you cherish. That when you hold them in your hand, you feel happiness, strength or a memory that brings you joy. And if you don’t, if you are surrounded by items that weigh you down, that don’t bring you peace or a smile to have in your home or your life, that you remove them and replace them with the things that do. Creating the life we want, a life we can enjoy may mean a de-cluttering, a re-evaluation of what should or should not remain.
Find what you treasure and hold onto those things, let the rest go. Keep creating the life you desire, the life that makes you the best you.