Posted in Monday Musings

Monday musings–Welcome to 2020

It is the first Monday of a new year! Seems this first week has just brought so much joy already.  We enjoyed a kid free week; a rare event in our home with four kids between us.  Spending a week relaxing, rejuvenating and envisioning our plans for the future has been a rewarding experience.  It is always nice when you are given things and moments you didn’t even know you needed.

Having a mellow start to the new year has set us up well I think.  Sometimes one needs to take some down time to regroup and reset.  The planning and thinking about the year ahead has always been my favorite part of the new years holiday.  In years past I have created a big list of lots of goals to accomplish through out the year.  And it has been hit and miss as to what I accomplish each year.  So with this new year and new decade I thought I would try a new approach.  I want to focus more on intention versus resolution.

In making the switch from one way of thinking, let me first define these words.

Resolution: (n): a firm decision to do or not to do something.

Intention: (n): a thing intended; an aim or plan.

In the past few years I have been learning about mindset and how the words we speak out loud and in our minds affect our outcomes.  Anyone of us can find statistics on how many people fail at their new years resolutions.  I think I read this morning something like 46% of folks succeed.  Not too promising or inspiring to think about the other 54% failing or falling short.

Having just completed a rather difficult (for me) ending to this past decade and looking back over this past year, I decided I did not want to repeat the same mistakes and fall short of my goals.  So I have decided to be part of some different workshops, groups and forums that will help me succeed in changing how I set goals.  Moving from a resolution mindset to an intentional way of thinking and behaving.

Resolutions are not bad and can be very motivating.  I have had success with setting them before and may again someday.  But this year, I want to focus more on how I think and how that impacts the decisions I make and the actions I follow through with.  Setting my intention each day to take an action toward some goal is more my style this year.

For example; one of my goals this year is to be more active.  Instead of saying or writing on the never ending list on my fridge that I want to run everyday, (which I know I ahead of time I most likely will not do as I have not ran much in the last year) I have set the goal that every week I will add in a new physical activity that will help me become more fit.

My plan for this looks like this so far: 
Work week 1–do 50 squats everyday (completed!) I started last week since this lined up with my current work schedule.
Work week 2 (this started today) – 60 squats everyday and walk 10,000 steps each day.

Each week I plan to add another activity to the mix till I am seeing the results I desire to see.   I am already finding this fun and creative and a way to keep me from feeling overwhelmed with changing too many things all at once.  So far this is easy to do and I am excited to add a new activity each week.  And to see how this shift in my thinking will affect my results.  I can tell you so far, I am having no stress about being more active because I know I can add one thing each week.

How do you approach the new year?  Do you set goals each January?  And do you successfully meet them? Or are you like me this year and try to set more intentions; believing this kindness to oneself may serve you better?  I am hopeful that trying a new style of goal setting and planning will be successful, it’s worth a shot right?!

Let me know what you intend to do this year; I would love to hear from you.

 

 

 

 

Posted in Sunday quotes

Sunday reflections (30)– intention

Waking up to another chilly, foggy morning. Looking out at the old fashioned style street lamp outside my front window that’s turned off since I’ve woken has me thinking about timing. Routine. Do you think much about your daily activities? Or are they so ingrained that you’re kind of on auto pilot each day, just going through the motions?

I’m a believer in intention. That if we want to live our best life, we must set an intention to do so and follow specific tasks to accomplish. These need to be items we can measure, account for progress.

Just like that street lamp has a timer of when it comes on and goes off, we too can set and follow a routine for completing daily tasks that will help us move towards our goals. We can even use a timer if that helps!

I’ve been practicing following an early rise, before my household is awake, getting my coffee, meditating, reading and journaling for awhile now. It’s become vital to my mental health and attitude to have the solitude and get ready to be an active member of my family, work and life.

Not everyone wakes up early. I used to work the graveyard shift and it was harder to find the quiet moments. But anything is possible when you set an intention and them follow through to make it happen.

How do you set an intention? Start with one thing you want to focus on. Make a list of how you can accomplish that. Then do the work. We tend to fall apart at the idea of actually putting in the work but that’s the only way we change our lives. Through hard, committed effort.

My intention to wake up early each day means I go to bed early. I try very hard to go to bed near the same time every night. I set my alarm for about 10 min earlier than I truly want to be awake just in case I want to hit the snooze button or snuggle up to my guy. This allows me to slightly wake up but not have to leave my warm bed quite yet. Once those minutes are up, I head downstairs to make some coffee, drink a glass of water and meditate for a few. Then I tackle readingand journaling. And I use my phone timer throughout my morning quiet time so that I stay on task.

Finding a routine to help you each day moves you closer to your expectations of the life you want. Set an intention. Then make a plan. And get to work. Enjoy those moments of progress and push through the fails. Your best life is on its way. It’s only up to you. What do you intend it to be?