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Monday Musings–Do you struggle with staying committed to goals?

I didn’t want to get out of bed this morning.  I was not feeling that 430 am wake up alarm!  My first thought was “not already!”  There just did not seem to be enough down time this weekend.  Too many activities, hours in the car and late nights, I was not feeling as rested heading into a Monday morning as I prefer.  And to top if off, the team I wanted to win the Super Bowl lost (this is an American football tradition for those not familiar).  To say the least I was less than excited to the day.

But I got up anyway! See I committed to making my health a priority this year.  I decided to be active Every Single Day.  Not when it was convenient.  Not only when I want to or feel like it.  I made a deliberate commitment to myself.  So even on mornings I do not want to workout.  Or the mornings I do not want to get out of bed.  I do not always want to read or journal.  BUT, I always feel better once I follow through on that commitment. I always feel accomplished when I see those minutes rack up on my Fit Bit.  Or when I see the string of entries without any missed days.

Commitment is tough at times. It requires sacrifice often.  Today it was a struggle to not just be lazy and fall back to sleep on the sofa.  And once I completed that workout and the rest of my morning rituals, the better I felt about facing the day.  I had more energy. I was in a more positive frame of mind.

What commitments have you made to yourself this year?  How are you working on them after the first month of the new year?  Did you set a resolution without a plan for follow through?  I think many of us know that if we “fail to plan our plans will fail“~Churchill quote.

Because this commitment to my health is my number one priority this year; I made a plan to execute.  Here is what I do daily:

  1. Get up between 430-500 am.  This took some gradual adjustment.  I was already getting up consistently at 5, so each work day in January I moved the alarm back by 5-10 minutes.  Now waking up at 430 is not that challenging.  But I do head to sleep between 9-10 pm.  Sleep is vital to health and knowing your optimum amount of rest needed will help you if waking up early is a goal.
  2. Be active every day.  I started the first week with a set amount of squats each day for a week.  Then I added in walking a specific amount of steps.  Then push-ups.  Now at 6 weeks into the new year, I am up to about 20-25 minutes each day, lots of weight training activities and 8-10K steps per day.  This was a change from setting a weight loss goal, this was about being intentional with activity every day.
  3. Read and journal every day.  I have done both of these for the past couple of years.  Reading has always been something I love so this is pretty easy of a commitment.  Writing everyday is a bit tougher to follow through on.  But I want to see the progress.  I want to see the string of dates without a break.  So after my daily workout, I read and write.
  4. I write my goals (5 of them) everyday.  The main one I am focusing on, I write multiple times a day.  I am thinking about that one thing all day, everyday.  I am  jotting down what I want to do each week to work toward that goal.

Keeping our commitments to ourselves seems really easy to give up on.  Making changes is tough! For some reason, it seems easier to keep when we make a commitment to someone else.  But you are just as important!  In fact if you don’t make yourself a priority you do not have as much to give to anyone else.

So this month, renew (or keep going) your focus to keeping those promises you make to yourself.  Make a plan.  Write it down.  And mark it off when you complete those tasks.  You are not alone! Keep going. Even on those Monday mornings when you want to sleep in, just keep at it!

Posted in Monday Musings

Monday musings–Welcome to 2020

It is the first Monday of a new year! Seems this first week has just brought so much joy already.  We enjoyed a kid free week; a rare event in our home with four kids between us.  Spending a week relaxing, rejuvenating and envisioning our plans for the future has been a rewarding experience.  It is always nice when you are given things and moments you didn’t even know you needed.

Having a mellow start to the new year has set us up well I think.  Sometimes one needs to take some down time to regroup and reset.  The planning and thinking about the year ahead has always been my favorite part of the new years holiday.  In years past I have created a big list of lots of goals to accomplish through out the year.  And it has been hit and miss as to what I accomplish each year.  So with this new year and new decade I thought I would try a new approach.  I want to focus more on intention versus resolution.

In making the switch from one way of thinking, let me first define these words.

Resolution: (n): a firm decision to do or not to do something.

Intention: (n): a thing intended; an aim or plan.

In the past few years I have been learning about mindset and how the words we speak out loud and in our minds affect our outcomes.  Anyone of us can find statistics on how many people fail at their new years resolutions.  I think I read this morning something like 46% of folks succeed.  Not too promising or inspiring to think about the other 54% failing or falling short.

Having just completed a rather difficult (for me) ending to this past decade and looking back over this past year, I decided I did not want to repeat the same mistakes and fall short of my goals.  So I have decided to be part of some different workshops, groups and forums that will help me succeed in changing how I set goals.  Moving from a resolution mindset to an intentional way of thinking and behaving.

Resolutions are not bad and can be very motivating.  I have had success with setting them before and may again someday.  But this year, I want to focus more on how I think and how that impacts the decisions I make and the actions I follow through with.  Setting my intention each day to take an action toward some goal is more my style this year.

For example; one of my goals this year is to be more active.  Instead of saying or writing on the never ending list on my fridge that I want to run everyday, (which I know I ahead of time I most likely will not do as I have not ran much in the last year) I have set the goal that every week I will add in a new physical activity that will help me become more fit.

My plan for this looks like this so far: 
Work week 1–do 50 squats everyday (completed!) I started last week since this lined up with my current work schedule.
Work week 2 (this started today) – 60 squats everyday and walk 10,000 steps each day.

Each week I plan to add another activity to the mix till I am seeing the results I desire to see.   I am already finding this fun and creative and a way to keep me from feeling overwhelmed with changing too many things all at once.  So far this is easy to do and I am excited to add a new activity each week.  And to see how this shift in my thinking will affect my results.  I can tell you so far, I am having no stress about being more active because I know I can add one thing each week.

How do you approach the new year?  Do you set goals each January?  And do you successfully meet them? Or are you like me this year and try to set more intentions; believing this kindness to oneself may serve you better?  I am hopeful that trying a new style of goal setting and planning will be successful, it’s worth a shot right?!

Let me know what you intend to do this year; I would love to hear from you.

 

 

 

 

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Monday Musings–let the sun rise

Each sunrise brings a new day with new hopes for a new beginning”  — Anonymous

I am an early riser as you can probably tell by most of my posts.  I enjoy the quiet each day before the world I orbit in with my partner, kids and dog are all awake.  I love to start each day with reading, meditating and my cup of coffee.  Starting the day from a place of calmness almost always sets me up to stay calmer and more centered through out the day.

When I started into work this morning, even though it was still dark out, I could not help but think about the sunrise.  There is something about experiencing the wonderful, beautiful masterpiece that the sky awakening brings that brightens my morning and reminds that each day is new and to be grateful.  Each day we have the opportunity to be better than the one before.

As this is the first week of the new year at my job, I am overjoyed to start anew and see what this coming year brings.  I love beginnings; there is an excitement that comes with starting fresh!  Thinking and dreaming about all the possibilities of the next 365 days makes me almost giddy with anticipation for Wednesday!

I am hopeful as I launch into this year with many new ideas and plans. I am anticipating seeing more sunrises.  Of being more present to appreciate each one as a reminder of the beauty in this world and that no matter how dark the night, the sun will rise.

What does the sunrise bring to mind for you? I hope it will help you focus and remember we have another new day to be thankful for.  That we are ALL connected through this one action in the sky each morning and evening; as there is always a sunrise and sunset somewhere.  I can’t help but think how wonderful that is to know; that we each get a new beginning every single day and with glorious colors!

Happy New Year!

Posted in Wordy Wednesday

Wordy girl Wednesday

Do you practice gratitude moments? Not for the month of November. But in general, do you think about anything or everything you are thankful for?

I’m learning to get back into this practice with my morning routine. Writing down at least three things I’m grateful for each day. Sometimes these are simple things I easily take for granted. Other things are bigger than myself and my little world.

I’m finding this practice keeps me calmer and staying in a positive place. Recognizing all the parts of life that I’m blessed by.

As we head into a holiday weekend here in the US I encourage you to take the time to try this practice out. Stay in a state of thanksgiving and see what changes occur in your own personal world. See how your view becomes more positive, even if in the midst of any challenges.

I’m off to enjoy this holiday. Happy Thanksgiving all.

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Wordy girl Wednesday

Good morning world. It’s Wednesday here in the Northwest part of the US.  I am headed out to work,  it’s been over a month now in this new position and I am enjoying the challenges and new schedule.  I have found when you love the schedule that you create you can enjoy your life on a whole new level.  A balanced life allows me to serve my family, partner, children and all those around me so much better.

Summer is so great having all the kids home.  The first summer of 4 kids in the house (at times; with the one home from college bouncing around).  Having multiple days off now allows for so much more rest and family fun.

Life can be exciting ride; if you focus on the joy and love rather than the struggles. My thoughts today as I tackle my last work day for the week are all about how to enjoy all the chaos life can bring.  I am someone who prefers quiet to noise; with 4 kids that can be a challenge.  I prefer neat and order; again that can be a hard to come by with numerous feet about; you should see the shoe pile!  I like my alone time; you can imagine how much of that I am getting with summer vacation in full swing.  But what I am choosing to focus on instead of the things I might “prefer” are the things I love.

I love having a partner who understands me and my idiosyncrasies.  Who is home every night, there every morning; who shares all the joys and hardships with me.  Having the right partner in life makes a world of difference in how you tackle family life. Being part of a fabulous team is one of my greatest joys these days.  I am reminded of a bible phrase I learned as a kid;
“Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up!”  Ecclesiastes 4:9-10   

I love hearing the kids laugh and play and work together.  The noise can get to me as I must have some of the most sensitive ears around which can be a source of frustration.  But when I focus on how they all get along (sometimes a challenge with blended families) how they all work together and how much we laugh, the noise doesn’t seem as overwhelming.

I love having fun as a couple and a family.  There is a shift inside when you sit back and examine the good.  I have been known to say; quite often “like a magnifying glass, what you choose to focus on will become larger and more magnified.  The more I hold that looking glass over the joys of this life, the more they show up.

This wordy girl loves her life everyday.  No matter the struggles, tears, or frustrations.  The love, laughter and joys are in more abundance than ever before.  Life is good.

I know that I talk about joy often these days.  This blog began as an outlet for a very sad and difficult season of my life. As a way to help others that may also be recovering from an abusive relationship.  To help those who struggle with finding the good amidst the hard and to help us all feel less alone.  As my life has shifted to a new season, my focus has also changed.  I want to share more of the joys of life. To focus on encouragement and hope. To continue to offer ways of finding contentment and peace throughout this busy life of family, career and relationships.

I hope to bring you more updates.  To write more often.  To encourage you in this journey of life.  NEVER GIVE UP!  The road always bends and twists and can take you some amazing places if you stay the course.  Keep working towards the best you.  When you lift your head each day, choose to focus on just one thing that can bring you joy today.

I hope that you find something beautiful to focus on today.
Till next time.

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