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Wordy girl Wednesday–inspired quotes

Good morning all!

Visualization; seeing what you desire to have in your life, believing it to be possible and then creating it. This is what I’m working on these days. Learning how to visualize takes just a few moments but the changes it brings can be life changing.

This quote below is my focus today. May you start this practice as well. Our dreams are first a thought away!

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Sunday reflections (28)

I’ve been on vacation this past week. Celebrating my son and my birthday’s. Just relaxing and taking time to be creative and recharge.

These words below I wanted to re-share today as I’m about to head back to work and the usual grind. I find for me my long work days can hinder my creativity. Can leave me too exhausted to do much of anything at the end of the day.

But I’ve big dreams and goals of creating a life of time freedom. Living where I desire, traveling when we want. To create this kind of life, I will have to make changes in this current stage to prepare for the next one.

These just stand out to me today. Enjoy. I hope you are living your best life or at least heading towards it.

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Happy birthday!

To everyone out there who turn another year older today; here’s a few quotes to share in celebrating you!

Love Dr. Seuss! I hope you celebrate YOU today!

And I hope the next 365 for you and me are all about creating the life we love.

Happy day to me and you! Now gotta go get some cake! 🎂

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Healthy relationships; a few items that are required in my view

I’m all about relationships these days. Perhaps it’s finally finding my perfect for me partner. Perhaps it’s getting engaged and focusing on creating our future. Or it’s that I’m very content and happy in this life, having learned what it takes to create a life I love.

I’ve been pondering on whether or not to make this post; because in some ways this topic is subjective. We each may see good but not necessarily healthy.

So I preface this with stating these are my views of what healthy is. What are must haves. What is required. How healthy looks to me.

After leaving a mentally abusive environment and taking the time to heal and figure out my part in the drama, I was open to finding real love. I committed to doing the work on myself so I could be capable of a healthy relationship.

And in doing that work the past few years, I’ve learned some things. Here are 5 Signs of a healthy relationship:

1. You know yourself. You love yourself. By this I mean, you are confident in what you want, what your needs are and know you’re worth having those met. You continue to grow and learn so that you’re becoming a better partner all the time.

2. You respect your partner and they respect you. This in an action word. Healthy partners speak to each other respectfully. Behave respectfully. Actions and words of respect are vital.

  • 3. You can be alone. Your partner can be alone. Choosing to have some independence in the midst of a partnership is important. You may come together as a couple but you are still an individual. Having your own goals and dreams are just as important as the ones you have together.
  • 4. You can compromise. Having a long term relationship requires the ability to put another’s needs as equally important as your own. Accepting that your partner is not you, bring their own point of view of how things are to be done and background story is vital to learning how to meet in the middle.

    5. You trust each other. Not just in the way of commitment, but in sharing of yourself. Trusting that my partner genuinely desires the best for me. For us. Showing the same. Believing being together makes us better people than apart.

    These all seem so simple and obvious when reading this list. And they really are. I could add many more items as well. But the tough part is in the action. Loving and sharing a life with someone requires work. Requires commitment to that work. A healthy relationship isn’t free from stress, tough moments, or angry moments. But it is one of committed actions to show you love and care for each other. It’s building a partnership.

    I was taught love is a verb. Having had more unhealthy than not, it’s an amazing experience to be in a healthy relationship.

    In creating the best life for yourself, learning what you need to be healthy personally, is the first step. Once you can be healthy independently, you have the ability to learn how to be healthy and loving in a partnership.

    My best life includes a partner. After many years alone it’s an amazing feeling to have a partner who shows love in action. Who helps create a life I love everyday. Who helps me be my best self.

    What do you see as your best life? Wether or not it includes a partner doesn’t matter. We are always capable of learning and growing so we have good relationships with whomever we encounter.

    May you keep working at being healthy. At building a life you love.

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    View from the other side

    Sitting up at our family lake house. All but one of my children huddled around. Sunshine reflecting off the water. The puppy laying in the sun. A quiet day. A beautiful place.

    Sometimes these moments are enough. Sometimes these moments are longed for but not what is given. Sometimes one has to move away from the noise to find a quiet moment inside themself. And sometimes we’re given a blessing of a person to help us through.

    As we are celebrating our engagement this weekend, I’m reflecting on the blessing of having that one. That one who understands when to hold your hand and listen. That one who knows when you need an extra push. That one who says “I’ve got this” and you can relax because you know all is handled. The one who makes you laugh instead of cry. The one who will cry with you too.

    I’ve had quite the journey to find that one. The battle wounds are healed. Seeing life from the other side these days. This big, beautiful, chaotic, messy life is beyond anything I could imagine before.

    Living in the grateful space with a partner who sees me. Who gets me. Who shares the fabulous along with the frustrating.

    This other side where love truly does cover all. Words aren’t enough. Time is all we have to enjoy. Each day, it’s enough.

    I wish this happiness for each of you. Be patient. Grow and learn. Love eventually finds you. And this view is pretty spectacular!

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    Do you have the courage?

    I have this quote below on my wall page as it’s a favorite of mine. We so often let fear dictate our choices; often without realizing that it is a driving force.

    I made a decision a few years ago that I would not let fear guide me. Sometimes it’s a daily commitment; depending on the topic or the decision I might be facing. Other times it’s just a quiet voice I don’t really hear but it’s still there.

    I am possibly a bit of a control freak. By that I mean I am usually the one in charge and have all my ducks in a row. But the downside to that is there is no risk. There is no courage.

    If I’m always in charge, avoiding conflict or making mistakes, I’m not actually moving forward. It’s like sitting in the boat anchored to the same spot again and again.

    Being afraid to never make a mistake. Or have your feelings hurt. Or admitting you’re wrong or need assistance; all keeps you stuck.

    This quote has a new meaning for me today as I’m looking at it through eyes of relationship conflicts. Whether it be with your partner or children or coworkers. If you’re afraid to have difficult conversations; fearful to speak your mind, don’t want to rock the boat; you might not get to see the beauty that you could be heading towards. You could miss out on whatever is right behind the next bend.

    I’ve often only thought of this quote in terms of adventures. Travels. New job ventures. But re-framing this to apply to the context of relationships; it’s also very true. We have to be willing to risk, to push fear aside with those we love. We must get vulnerable and honest. When we do, when we let go of control, lose sight of the shore; we open ourselves up to an ocean of beauty. To Joy.

    I hope you find your courage today to take risks. Push past fear. Have a difficult conversation. Try something new. Let this quote speak to you. Whatever your “shore” is; may you be willing to go beyond it.

     

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    Wordy Girl Wednesday (2); Sometimes you just got to be spontaneous!

    How many times do you think about what you would do “if only”?   Fill in that blank.  If only I had enough money.  Enough time.  If only I had someone to do that with.  To travel with.  To go see that movie with.  Or if you didn’t have to work or have kids.   I could go on and on with lists of what if’s and if only’s.

    There are so many moments in life when we think things hold us back rather than give us life and opportunities.  I am not afraid to do things alone and have many times. I am independent and love that I am capable of tackling this life alone if need be.  But today I am doing one of those “if onlys” in my life.

    I have always wanted to randomly hop a flight and take off without any prior planning! This has been an if I only had the money.  If I only had the time.  Without planning the how, where, what, details that I become consumed with.  As a single mom for many years this has been my standard operating procedure.  I have had to plan and plan and save and save.  And it’s not that I don’t have to do those things anymore now that my life is very different, but it’s that I see my priorities differently.  I do not have to tackle this tough life alone anymore; my opportunities are more abundant.

    So today I am hoping that flight to meet up with my partner in life to go to one of my favorite places.   I am choosing to not say what if or maybe I shouldn’t or we can’t afford it and just go.  To head out to a place that brings joy to my soul the moment my feet land and share that with him and some of our kids.  The idea that we were not going to be there together is more painful than the costs of just taking the leap.

    So I ask you, what moments of spontaneity do you wish for?  What would you do if you could just push aside all the doubts, all the if onlys and just went for it?  Would you start a business? Would you reach out to that long lost friend?  Would you move?  Try a new job?   This applies to so many areas of life. We are so often bogged down by the thoughts that stop us rather than push us.

    Sometimes to live your best life, you have to go for it.  You have to be spontaneous and try something new.  Or do the things that test you, that encourage you, that lift you up.

    Living my best life sometimes means just doing it. It may be something simple to one but makes a huge impact to another. So go live your best life. Take risks. Be spontaneous! I can’t wait to see what this trip brings, my soul is about to be light up. And when we fill ourselves with joy, it can’t help but spill out to others. When we live our best life, we help others do the same.

    I hope you have a place that is this for you; I’m off to one of mine. Happy Wednesday.