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I am still here! 200 posts later, what’s new to say?

Hello there!  How are you all doing?  I know it has been a few months since I last posted btu after seeing that I hit 200 posts, I was not sure I had more to say.   But really we all have something to say and more to share so here I am again.  Thank you to all that have remained reading.

How are you all doing these days?  Hoe are your fairing during this pandemic?  We are still in “phase 1” here where we live.  We are venturing out more and seeing more friends and family but things are definitely not “normal.”   We all spent months wondering when we could return to the way of life that we knew, but it seems that will not occur.  So we have to pivot and learn a new way to live, function and interact within this world.

What are you doing to deal with the changes in your world? Is your city still in lockdown or were you barely affected?   Are you working from home now or have children at home instead of school or daycare?  Are you facing job loss or a new position?

So many of us have had our worlds and homes rocked by the pandemic that we have had no choice but to change how we operate.  We have had to make daily modifications and learn how to handle changes that we neither wanted nor were prepared for.  Cause who can really prepare for a worldwide pandemic?!

Change is something so constant that I feel I have learned to embrace it.  I love variety and trying new things.  I am committed to not letting fear in any way dictate my life, so change is often exciting to me.  BUT I have found that I embrace the changes I am in control of.  Like most, I am still not a fan of the things out of my control.  Does it cause you stress to think you will have to permanently change your way of life? Or is that somewhat exciting and full of possibility?

I have learned these past few months how important mindset truly is.  Not only for our own mental state but for how we handle change. Especially unwelcome or unwanted change. Our human nature resists change that we do not control, face it we barely handle the changes we do want.  Like when we think we want a new job but then are stressed that we have to learn something new.  Or we are excited to move to a new town but find it painful and lonely when we get there.

So how do we handle the changes we do not desire to deal with?  Here are some ways we have handled the pandemic and all the changes that has meant for our household.

  1. We extend grace more easily.  I think this may be the number one key to dealing with others in the midst of unexpected challenges; extend grace. Let your people feel what they feel without trying to stop it and just let the moment be. 
  2. Allow alone time when needed.   With everyone at home much more than we used to be; we have had to find ways to get time alone and away from each other sometimes.  This may be taking a walk or being in our rooms with the door shut for a bit.   Even just taking a drive to get out of the house has helped.
  3.  Finding new activities for us all to participate in.  We put together puzzles.  We watch a show or a movie together.  We have played games.  Taking the time to better enjoy each other has helped us have a more positive experience. 
  4. Looking at this moment in time as an opportunity rather than a disappointment.  The first couple of months were tough.  It was tough to adjust to not really seeing anyone other than the folks you live with.  But we have tried to embrace the time this has brought with our children.  As we have had another one leave the nest (there are 4 total and time is moving too fast) in many ways this has been an added bonus. 
  5.  Trying to keep life as normal as possible.  Keeping a routine.  Having dinner together.  Chores. All the things we usually do each day or week we have continued.  We still get dressed and showered before working from home.  We still make the beds and cook meals.  

Life may not look the same anymore but we have a choice in how we view that.  To live our best life we sometimes have to face moments where we need to pivot.  To learn new ways and do things differently.  If your mindset is to see moments of stress and change as an opportunity then you can’t help but be successful.  In the past few months of this pandemic we are more successful as a couple and family than before.    Life is still full of abundance.  

How do you see your life today?  What are you doing to create an abundance mindset in the midst of the chaos?   I hope you find joy in the midst.   

Till next time. 

Posted in General, Sunday quotes

Happy Mother’s Day 2020

It’s another different celebration in this strange year. Many of us are social distancing and can’t hug on or even see face to face our loved ones. It’s a tough time to rejoice and enjoy celebrating.

I’m finding today bittersweet. Feeling loved and spoiled but a little sad too. Some things technology can’t give us. And I know I’m not alone in this.

For all you mamas out there, no matter if alone or with those that make you a mom know you are recognized for the value you have as the gardener of this life.

May you find joy today no matter what for even just a moment.

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Monday motivations

March is definitely roaring in like a lion with cold wintry temperatures and sunshine today!  But even in the cold, we can see the signs of Spring coming.  Flowers beginning to pop up all around the neighborhood and the days becoming longer (at least here in the NW).

This has me struggling to be indoors without any light from any windows this morning.  Work is challenging to concentrate on and I am itching to enjoy the sunshine.  To kick off this week, I am posting motivations; for you and for me.

May we each have a fabulous Monday!

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Posted in Sunday quotes

Roaring like a lion

It’s a new month today!  It is said that this month comes in “roaring like a lion and goes out like a lamb”, have you ever heard this phrase before?  I have but had not thought of it in awhile so I looked it up. It means that March comes in with Winter still going strong but when the month ends Spring is upon us.  As I am waking up to a spectacular sunrise over a whole bunch of mountain peaks in very cold temperatures, I am reminded of this.

And it has me thinking about how we approach life sometimes.  How there are seasons where we are going all out, chasing our dreams and goals, making strides in our relationships or businesses, pursuing the hard things.  I see this as roaring like a lion. And then there are the times when we are more laid back, going with the flow, enjoying the fruits of our labor, I see this as the lamb season.

These thoughts do not have to apply to literal seasons such as Winter and Spring but also as the seasons of our lives.  Where are you right now?  Are you in pursuit of your desires?  Are you hustling; chasing those dreams?  Making changes?  Or are you enjoying the work you have done and are more relaxed?  Playing more than working?  Taking more time to rest?

Just like the seasons change and each brings something new to wonder and marvel at, we too have seasons in our relationships, bodies, employment, parenting, etc.  We are never standing still.  We are not the same next year as we are today.

Waking up to this incredible view this morning, I am in awe.  I wish the above picture could do the majesty justice.  But is hard to capture something that is meant for the eye to see standing in front of it.  It reminds me of how small and tiny I am in this big huge world.  How I am just one person. But also how each of us have something unique and special to bring to this life.  We may be tiny but we are not insignificant.

No matter what season you may be in your life journey, appreciate where you are.  Look around you and find some beauty.  Sometimes you will be given the gift to wake up and see the wonder that is this life; enjoy it!  Marvel at it.  Take it in and let the seasons of this life grow you into who you were meant to be.

Whether you are roaring or relaxing, see the beauty. Find the joy. The best you is the one who knows how valuable you are and who shares that with others. The one that stands in moments of awe and majesty and is grateful to be alive. Who sees all the hard, tough, brutal seasons as the winter of this journey; believing and knowing that spring is on it’s way.

Are you standing in front of something so spectacular that you are in awe? Please share!

Posted in Wordy Wednesday

Wordy Girl Wednesday–The house that builds us

I’ve been thinking about houses the past few days. Why we choose the ones we do. How we decide the”right”one for our family or possible future family.  How we determine what spaces are the most important and what we must have; like the best kitchen or bathroom, etc.

Having owned a few homes, lived in apartments and now rent a house, I have a lot of experience in this area. Since I’ve been divorced I’ve lived in at least 9 different places. All in the same area. Almost all different sizes.

I have often voiced the thought of how having a smaller home helps love grow. In a home that’s large with lots of options to escape each other perhaps you don’t work things out as readily as a small home requires. So I find I like living in a space that is smaller but open, that requires us to work through issues quickly. It’s challenging to hide your feelings when you have no where to escape to. Even when the space becomes crowded I would still choose our smaller home to the big homes I’ve had in the past.

It’s cozy and warm. It’s open and bright. And our family and friends feel welcome. The size of the home isn’t what matters but what you fill it up with. Who more importantly. I’m hopeful the houses I’ve resided in raise up children who feel loved and ready to explore the world. That my partner feels encouraged and supported in his endeavors and that we thrive as a team.

The house you prefer will look different than mine. And my needs for what my home provides will change. For now these rooms are filled with what we need in this season. I believe love and harmony grow best when relationships are watered and fed. When we communicate and listen with each other.  And I find that no matter what your house looks like, it is the folks that you live with that create the home.

May you feel blessed today.  May you love the home you are building.

I would love to hear from you; what is your favorite space in your house? Do you prefer tiny or large?