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Excuses

How often do you find yourself making excuses for why you are not where you want to be? Are you trying to lose weight but you just can’t? Are you tired of feeling broke but you just can’t get ahead for whatever reason? Are you not happy with your relationships and they always seem to be the same but you don’t know why?

There are so many ways in which we make excuses for the things that are not going “right” in our lives. Often we find other people are the target for these reasons; “My spouse doesn’t support me.” “I have kids” “My boss is too demanding.” We have all heard or even used these at one time or another. Or we blame that we are too busy. We do not have enough money. Or the classic; I am just too tired!

Thinking about the last quarter of this year and wanting to meet my personal goals that I set out for myself back in January has me taking a look at the excuses I allow myself. I have used the I am too tired more times than I can count. That I have too many other things on my agenda to make room for a workout. I am learning new things at work I do not have time to take that class I have been interested in.

Excuses do not make us feel better when we do not accomplish a goal. Excuses do not excuse bad behavior. Bottom line for me they are not a good enough reason to not accomplish my goals.

We ALL have the same amount of hours in each day. We are ALL busy in some fashion. We ALL have things that distract us. But what sets those who finish and meet their goals apart from those who don’t? I am convinced that one of the key differences between goal setters and goal achievers is excuses.

Those who complete their goals know that they can come up with (at times legitimate) excuses BUT they DO NOT sit down in their excuse! Goal achievers press on DESPITE them. They want the accomplishment MORE. They are willing to move their mind and body to take the actions needed to work around the excuses and get it done!

They are up early. They are up late. They work on their lunch break. Eat off the lighter menu. Plan meals ahead of time. Set up automatic reminders. Have accountability partners. Goal achievers have found ways to work around and with their excuses rather than allow them to derail their progress.

As I am planning these last few months of 2020 and wanting to see some specific goals achieved I am planning for how to work with my excuses and not let them stop me anymore! I have set up walking time everyday to meet my goal of a healthier lifestyle. I have an automatic payment set up so I can meet my goal of saving more. I wake and read a few minutes everyday so I can meet my goal of reading a set amount of books this year. And this list still needs more updating and planning.

What are you doing to combat your excuses? Have you checked in on your goals and dreams in awhile? There is still time in this crazy year to get things completed! You can do this!

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Another anniversary

Yesterday marked 3 years of blog writing! So much has changed since that first post.

I started blogging as a way to release all the thoughts and feelings I was dealing with in a season of turmoil. Writing was cathartic. By connecting with others through this open forum, some of the pain in that season was lessened. It was helpful to connect and share with others who may have been going through similar times. During that first year of blogging I learned a lot about myself and how to heal.

The last couple of years have been so far removed from that season that my writing has changed. It is fun and rewarding to see all that has happened in my life throughout that time. To be able to go back and read old posts and see the growth is a special kind of gift.

If you have ever thought about writing a blog; I am here to tell you to go for it! Just start writing. Do not over think and over plan; just write what comes naturally to you.

My hope in sharing this blog has been that I can offer hope and encouragement to others. I have been through some tough seasons (who hasn’t) and I believe we all have something to share from those times. I found that this was a great place to release and share those learnings.

Thank you to all that take the time to read the musings of a gal with too many words in her head. I appreciate everything the past 3 years have brought. This life is truly hard but filled with amazing abundance!

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What a beautiful pause

I went out for a drive last night. Sometimes I just need a minute away. Away from the noise and busyness that comes with a full life. A life I love but at times can be overwhelming. And this week has been so full already. Seeing the new changes on the house we are building. Starting a new position at work. Hitting my workout goals each day. Life can keep us so busy and hectic that we forget to stop and be grateful.

So I love the moments I’m reminded to slow down. Breathe. Take in the beauty of this world. And last night this amazingly beautiful sunset stopped me. It stopped my endless thoughts. Quieted my mood and activity. As I pulled my car over to just sit in awe for a moment I was reminded to be grateful for another day. To be thankful I get to see beautiful things.

The pictures do not show the awesome pink this actually was. It can’t show how the entire western sky was painted. I love the moments that take my breathe away.

Sometimes you just need a reminder. To Pause. Breathe. Enjoy. And how I love when the reminder is so pretty.

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I am still here! 200 posts later, what’s new to say?

Hello there!  How are you all doing?  I know it has been a few months since I last posted btu after seeing that I hit 200 posts, I was not sure I had more to say.   But really we all have something to say and more to share so here I am again.  Thank you to all that have remained reading.

How are you all doing these days?  Hoe are your fairing during this pandemic?  We are still in “phase 1” here where we live.  We are venturing out more and seeing more friends and family but things are definitely not “normal.”   We all spent months wondering when we could return to the way of life that we knew, but it seems that will not occur.  So we have to pivot and learn a new way to live, function and interact within this world.

What are you doing to deal with the changes in your world? Is your city still in lockdown or were you barely affected?   Are you working from home now or have children at home instead of school or daycare?  Are you facing job loss or a new position?

So many of us have had our worlds and homes rocked by the pandemic that we have had no choice but to change how we operate.  We have had to make daily modifications and learn how to handle changes that we neither wanted nor were prepared for.  Cause who can really prepare for a worldwide pandemic?!

Change is something so constant that I feel I have learned to embrace it.  I love variety and trying new things.  I am committed to not letting fear in any way dictate my life, so change is often exciting to me.  BUT I have found that I embrace the changes I am in control of.  Like most, I am still not a fan of the things out of my control.  Does it cause you stress to think you will have to permanently change your way of life? Or is that somewhat exciting and full of possibility?

I have learned these past few months how important mindset truly is.  Not only for our own mental state but for how we handle change. Especially unwelcome or unwanted change. Our human nature resists change that we do not control, face it we barely handle the changes we do want.  Like when we think we want a new job but then are stressed that we have to learn something new.  Or we are excited to move to a new town but find it painful and lonely when we get there.

So how do we handle the changes we do not desire to deal with?  Here are some ways we have handled the pandemic and all the changes that has meant for our household.

  1. We extend grace more easily.  I think this may be the number one key to dealing with others in the midst of unexpected challenges; extend grace. Let your people feel what they feel without trying to stop it and just let the moment be. 
  2. Allow alone time when needed.   With everyone at home much more than we used to be; we have had to find ways to get time alone and away from each other sometimes.  This may be taking a walk or being in our rooms with the door shut for a bit.   Even just taking a drive to get out of the house has helped.
  3.  Finding new activities for us all to participate in.  We put together puzzles.  We watch a show or a movie together.  We have played games.  Taking the time to better enjoy each other has helped us have a more positive experience. 
  4. Looking at this moment in time as an opportunity rather than a disappointment.  The first couple of months were tough.  It was tough to adjust to not really seeing anyone other than the folks you live with.  But we have tried to embrace the time this has brought with our children.  As we have had another one leave the nest (there are 4 total and time is moving too fast) in many ways this has been an added bonus. 
  5.  Trying to keep life as normal as possible.  Keeping a routine.  Having dinner together.  Chores. All the things we usually do each day or week we have continued.  We still get dressed and showered before working from home.  We still make the beds and cook meals.  

Life may not look the same anymore but we have a choice in how we view that.  To live our best life we sometimes have to face moments where we need to pivot.  To learn new ways and do things differently.  If your mindset is to see moments of stress and change as an opportunity then you can’t help but be successful.  In the past few months of this pandemic we are more successful as a couple and family than before.    Life is still full of abundance.  

How do you see your life today?  What are you doing to create an abundance mindset in the midst of the chaos?   I hope you find joy in the midst.   

Till next time.