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Sunday reflections (27)

Waking up to a foggy fall morning with my house all decorated and smelling like fall. I love this time of year. This is when I want to be home more, bake, create and just enjoy the coziness and warmth of family time.

In the quiet this morning I’m thinking about how beautiful fall is and what it represents. These quotes below sum it up well.

There is a purpose, I believe to everything we experience in this life. Sometimes we have to look harder to find the reasons but each season of our life brings new or different things to teach us, cleanse us, create a new path for us.

I love the thought above about fall, learning to let things go seems to be a struggle for many, definitely for me. My mind wants to hold on to things that I’m sometimes not even aware of, but they come out in my dreams at night.

So I’m taking this morning to look at the areas in my life that still need cleansing, still need me to let go more and creating a plan to be like the trees in autumn. Letting my old ways fall away to create room for new. Just like the trees changing colors, watching people grow and create new, better habits for themselves, is beautiful to watch.

I hope you are embracing this change of season. I encourage you to see what things you may need to let fall away and allow new to come in.

Happy Sunday everyone.

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Do you have the courage?

I have this quote below on my wall page as it’s a favorite of mine. We so often let fear dictate our choices; often without realizing that it is a driving force.

I made a decision a few years ago that I would not let fear guide me. Sometimes it’s a daily commitment; depending on the topic or the decision I might be facing. Other times it’s just a quiet voice I don’t really hear but it’s still there.

I am possibly a bit of a control freak. By that I mean I am usually the one in charge and have all my ducks in a row. But the downside to that is there is no risk. There is no courage.

If I’m always in charge, avoiding conflict or making mistakes, I’m not actually moving forward. It’s like sitting in the boat anchored to the same spot again and again.

Being afraid to never make a mistake. Or have your feelings hurt. Or admitting you’re wrong or need assistance; all keeps you stuck.

This quote has a new meaning for me today as I’m looking at it through eyes of relationship conflicts. Whether it be with your partner or children or coworkers. If you’re afraid to have difficult conversations; fearful to speak your mind, don’t want to rock the boat; you might not get to see the beauty that you could be heading towards. You could miss out on whatever is right behind the next bend.

I’ve often only thought of this quote in terms of adventures. Travels. New job ventures. But re-framing this to apply to the context of relationships; it’s also very true. We have to be willing to risk, to push fear aside with those we love. We must get vulnerable and honest. When we do, when we let go of control, lose sight of the shore; we open ourselves up to an ocean of beauty. To Joy.

I hope you find your courage today to take risks. Push past fear. Have a difficult conversation. Try something new. Let this quote speak to you. Whatever your “shore” is; may you be willing to go beyond it.

 

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Wordy Girl Wednesday (4) — Tips for staying positive during this time

The new season of juggling work, school, and sports is upon me!  I imagine it is for you too!  I find at times trying to keep all the balls in the air is more of a struggle than I care to admit.  Lately that has been the case.  I long for time to relax and rest more, but I also want to accomplish my goals and create memories with my partner and all our kids.  So in this season, one thing that helps is to find ways to stay positive when often I am exhausted.

Here are the ways I try to practice positivity in this season:

  1. I stay focused on the end goal.  This season of raising children will end and I want them to have some good memories of their childhood as well as become healthy, successful adults.  When I am overwhelmed with all the running around we must do and the endless tasks, I try to keep that in mind.  We are raising adults, not children. We are teaching the habits they will carry into adulthood.  It is important to teach all these kids how to juggle life with a good attitude as much as possible.
  2. We take a date night; every single week. Even if it is just a couple hours together.  My partner and I made a commitment to each other from the start that we would prioritize our partnership.  We would make sure the children understood we are committed to each other and creating a solid foundation.  It can tough between work, school functions and soccer games for us to find the time and energy but we are always better for it and it keeps us connected. And it shows our children how to have a healthy relationship.
  3. I make time for exercise.  Sometimes that 30 minutes alone going for a walk or riding my bike or doing an exercise video is the only alone time I can get.  Take advantage of doing something for your physical health as well as your mental health.  Working out is vital to staying healthy and calm throughout the chaos of life in my opinion.  And it releases all the feel good, happy endorphins so it’s a win in trying to staying positive.
  4. I use the calendar.  We have a large calendar on the wall in the kitchen near the garage door.  It is seen daily by every one of us.  With all the activities we could have going on at one time, keeping track with colors and names is important for helping us to not forget things.  And it allows me to know what we can say yes to based on prior commitments.
  5. We communicate. With a family of 6, you have lots of opportunities for misses.  And many more opportunities for connections.  When I get home from work (as I work the latest) everyone is usually coming around to share their day with me.  Asking about school, homework, activities, life in general, is my way of staying in touch with what is going on with each of them.  They all have lots to say and keeping that end goal in mind; I want to hear from them.  I want them to share with me.  Because we have built an environment where the kids feel they can share, we have a home with lots of conversation.

Staying connected and positive can be tough when you are juggling all the demands of partnership, parenthood and employment.  Finding ways to keep your sanity is vital. Learning to communicate what you feel and think is necessary in all relationships but especially in the seasons of change where there can be so much noise from the chaos you forget to keep focused on what truly matters.

I am not always positive and happy.  I struggle with overwhelm and unhappy days just like anyone else.  But I desire to have a healthy life and home more than almost anything.  Giving my partner and our children the best me is often at the forefront of my mind.  I fail I am sure as much as I succeed, but each day I tackle anew.

I hope you find encouragement in these posts. These are just my thoughts; please share ways that you stay calm and focused during seasons of change and chaos.  As always I hope you are living your best life as much as possible.

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Sunday reflections (25)

Love the long summer days. With the sun hiding here in the northwest the past couple days, today was a great day for being creative. Pulled out the sewing machine to teach a new quilter. Had a busy day of cutting and piecing together the top of a quilt. Fun times. Will post pics when they are complete.

Sometimes “lazy” Sundays are not so lazy after all. Finding ways to learn or create is so relaxing for me. Think I’ll finish my day with reading as well.

What do you do to enjoy your days off? Do you have hobbies or crafts that can keep you occupied for hours? Do you play sports or games that just melt time away? I hope you find time to do those things. These are good for the soul.

Hope you’ve enjoyed your Sunday. Till next time…

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Sunday reflections (24): lake time

Since I’m on vacation today’s post is quite late.

With family birthdays, strange puppy behavior, sunburns and lake time, it’s been a busy Sunday. I’m tired but feel rested too. Isn’t that how vacations go? Exhausted but just feel good to have different experiences and be away from the daily grind.

So here’s to rest and relaxation. Tomorrow I see more of the same.

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Sunday reflections (23): Finding Rest

It’s another Sunday here. I’m back online this weekend; woohoo. I’ve been battling a bad cold all week, still not fully myself. Being overly tired and drained keeps me from being my best self. I’m easily annoyed and short tempered. And not very productive which frustrates me. I’m not very good at resting. My mind nor my body.

Thinking about what to write today, I decided that perhaps I need to focus on Rest. How an important part of living your best life is learning how to relax, rest and recharge. How vital learning to quiet your mind is to your overall health. It’s all right to take a nap occasionally. It’s ok to read for pleasure. Yoga and meditation are great practices to implement in your daily life.

I have not been doing the activities that I know keep me feeling my best. That help me feel mentally recharged. Whenever I get sick I’m reminded how much I needed that downtime. Think it’s nature’s way of forcing us to rest.

So today I’m taking that time. I’m going to read a bit. Maybe take a nap. Definitely take a walk in the sunshine. Sit outside and breathe the fresh air.

It’s ok to take moments; daily I recommend, for just yourself to learn to rest. It’s important to claim alone time for rejuvenating. When we get these moments, when we lean into rest, we learn how to work through our emotions quicker I believe. We have more patience, become less annoyed when things go sideways. Because we know how to practice quieting our minds. Learning how to rest isn’t only for moments of exhaustion, rest is important for becoming our best selves.

Have a great restful day!