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Wordy Girl Wednesday (2); Sometimes you just got to be spontaneous!

How many times do you think about what you would do “if only”?   Fill in that blank.  If only I had enough money.  Enough time.  If only I had someone to do that with.  To travel with.  To go see that movie with.  Or if you didn’t have to work or have kids.   I could go on and on with lists of what if’s and if only’s.

There are so many moments in life when we think things hold us back rather than give us life and opportunities.  I am not afraid to do things alone and have many times. I am independent and love that I am capable of tackling this life alone if need be.  But today I am doing one of those “if onlys” in my life.

I have always wanted to randomly hop a flight and take off without any prior planning! This has been an if I only had the money.  If I only had the time.  Without planning the how, where, what, details that I become consumed with.  As a single mom for many years this has been my standard operating procedure.  I have had to plan and plan and save and save.  And it’s not that I don’t have to do those things anymore now that my life is very different, but it’s that I see my priorities differently.  I do not have to tackle this tough life alone anymore; my opportunities are more abundant.

So today I am hoping that flight to meet up with my partner in life to go to one of my favorite places.   I am choosing to not say what if or maybe I shouldn’t or we can’t afford it and just go.  To head out to a place that brings joy to my soul the moment my feet land and share that with him and some of our kids.  The idea that we were not going to be there together is more painful than the costs of just taking the leap.

So I ask you, what moments of spontaneity do you wish for?  What would you do if you could just push aside all the doubts, all the if onlys and just went for it?  Would you start a business? Would you reach out to that long lost friend?  Would you move?  Try a new job?   This applies to so many areas of life. We are so often bogged down by the thoughts that stop us rather than push us.

Sometimes to live your best life, you have to go for it.  You have to be spontaneous and try something new.  Or do the things that test you, that encourage you, that lift you up.

Living my best life sometimes means just doing it. It may be something simple to one but makes a huge impact to another. So go live your best life. Take risks. Be spontaneous! I can’t wait to see what this trip brings, my soul is about to be light up. And when we fill ourselves with joy, it can’t help but spill out to others. When we live our best life, we help others do the same.

I hope you have a place that is this for you; I’m off to one of mine. Happy Wednesday.

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Escape…

Sometimes you just need a little break from the day to day. For the next week we are doing just that; escaping. Finding ways to relax. Spending time with family. Playing in the water. Exploring. Vacation time!

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Sunday reflections (21)

In thinking about what to write this Sunday, I want to be transparent as always.  As I discuss this journey to live your best self and life, I often shy away from discussing my children.  It is a piece of life I tend keep more private.  But in order to be my best self I have to (at times) share this part of me as well.  I have been in a new season in this motherhood journey I have enjoyed for the last 18years.  Having a young adult home from college for the first time, is a bringing new unexpected challenges.

Learning how to mother a young adult is new and hard!  It brings lots of joys and proud moments as I watch her reach goals and try new things.  To see her successful fills my heart.  But there are also lots of trying, difficult moments as we try to navigate this new environment.  Knowing how to parent a young adult child is just like the rest of parenthood; it comes without any guide book.

For some reason when these moments of struggle hit, I hear the words of this song below.  I thought I would share it with you today.  As I have shared before, modern Christian music will always be a genre that calms me, centers me and helps soothe some rough or thorny parts of my heart.  I can be demanding not only of myself but also of my children and partner.  It can be challenging for me to know what is the right advice to give or how to listen instead of speak.

I’m thankful for the scars.”   

In struggling how to move through these new changes I keep hearing that line.  I know my connection with these words may not be the meaning behind the song, but this is how these words speak to me.  For some reason this line in this song eases my pain and sadness that come when my daughter and I struggle.  When we have difficult conversations or can’t seem to understand each other.

I can physically see the scars on my body that bringing children into this world have left.  I can see the scar on my back where the weight of life struggles broke me down.  I can feel the scars on my heart from where I have loved, hurt and healed.  All these scars remind me that I am human.  That I am always learning.  Hopefully growing.  And we have these scars to share with others; they are our offerings to our children.  When I look at my scars as a way to help my children through life’s tough moments, they bring a sense of worthiness to all the pains of this life.  Through my scars I can show them; we may get down, we may feel broken, we may cry and writhe in pain, but we do not remain there.  Scars are pain healed over.  I get to share mine with my lover, children and friends.  Don’t hide your scars, they are part of your story.

I AM THEY -Scars
Waking up to a new sunrise
Looking back from the other side
I can see now with open eyes

Darkest water and deepest pain
I wouldn’t trade it for anything
‘Cause my brokenness brought me to you
And these wounds are a story you’ll use

So I’m thankful for the scars
‘Cause without them I wouldn’t know your heart
And I know they’ll always tell of who you are
So forever I am thankful for the scars

Now I’m sending in confidence
With the strength of your faithfulness
And I’m not who I was before
No, I don’t have to fear anymore

So I’m thankful for the scars
‘Cause without them I wouldn’t know your heart
And I know they’ll always tell of who you are
So forever I am thankful for the scars

I can see, I can see
How you delivered me
In your hands, in your feet
I found my victory

I can see, I can see
How you delivered me
In your hands, in your feet
I found my victory

I’m thankful for your scars
‘Cause without them I wouldn’t know your heart
And with my life, I’ll tell of who you are
So forever I am thankful

I’m thankful for the scars
‘Cause without them I wouldn’t know your heart
And I know they’ll always tell of who you are
So forever I am thankful for the scars
So forever I am thankful for the scars

I recommend listening to this song and finding your own interpretation.  I encourage you to find songs that you relate to, music is a great balm.  I hope you see the scars in your life as your gifts to others.  You do not have to show someone physical scars but you can use them to tell your story.  Each of us have a great story.  Each one of us are worthy to be loved.  Sharing yourself, your true authentic self, is our greatest way to give to our loved ones and others.

I hope you are able to be thankful for the road you have traveled.  For the scars you have acquired; you are living!

Do you have a song or lyrics that speak to you in difficult moments?  Do you have tips for parenting in the young adult stage of motherhood?  I would love to hear your thoughts; drop a comment or send me a message.  I love to hear your feedback.

 

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Wordy Girl Wednesday

It’s a holiday week here in the US. One of my favorite days to celebrate is almost upon us; Independence Day! Celebrating our countries freedom is a wonderful blessing I am fortunate to have the opportunity to experience.

Part of the reason I love to celebrate this day is the fireworks. Ever since I was a little kid I have loved to lay beneath the sky and watch all the color explode high above me. It’s my favorite part of the day. Everyone always stops and huddles together for thirty minutes of oohs and aahs as we watch explosion after explosion rise higher with all sorts of sparkle.

As I write I can recall so many places and displays I’ve enjoyed throughout my years. Whether it was being 12 and getting as close to the cannons as the fire department would allow. Or my early 20’s wrapped in blankets while camping. Or all the years smushed up together with kids on each side of me watching from the park at home. To celebrations with family and friends, each year the memories of this day hold a wonderful place in my thoughts.

Everyone has special days in their lives. Days that just the memory of can provide joy again. If the 4th isn’t yours that’s ok. I hope you have a day or two that just thinking about them make you smile. And create excitement for what’s to come each year.

As we gather with friends who we’ve not seen in awhile, this Independence day will bring a new collection of moments to reflect on in years to come.

I hope it includes fireworks. 😊

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Sunday reflections (18)

Waking up to a beautiful lake view this morning! Quiet and peaceful as we start another weekend of celebration. Birthdays and Father’s day! Enjoy your loved ones today!

Thank you babe for being there for all the kids, for being all this!

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Wordy girl Wednesday

Good morning world. It’s Wednesday here in the Northwest part of the US.  I am headed out to work,  it’s been over a month now in this new position and I am enjoying the challenges and new schedule.  I have found when you love the schedule that you create you can enjoy your life on a whole new level.  A balanced life allows me to serve my family, partner, children and all those around me so much better.

Summer is so great having all the kids home.  The first summer of 4 kids in the house (at times; with the one home from college bouncing around).  Having multiple days off now allows for so much more rest and family fun.

Life can be exciting ride; if you focus on the joy and love rather than the struggles. My thoughts today as I tackle my last work day for the week are all about how to enjoy all the chaos life can bring.  I am someone who prefers quiet to noise; with 4 kids that can be a challenge.  I prefer neat and order; again that can be a hard to come by with numerous feet about; you should see the shoe pile!  I like my alone time; you can imagine how much of that I am getting with summer vacation in full swing.  But what I am choosing to focus on instead of the things I might “prefer” are the things I love.

I love having a partner who understands me and my idiosyncrasies.  Who is home every night, there every morning; who shares all the joys and hardships with me.  Having the right partner in life makes a world of difference in how you tackle family life. Being part of a fabulous team is one of my greatest joys these days.  I am reminded of a bible phrase I learned as a kid;
“Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up!”  Ecclesiastes 4:9-10   

I love hearing the kids laugh and play and work together.  The noise can get to me as I must have some of the most sensitive ears around which can be a source of frustration.  But when I focus on how they all get along (sometimes a challenge with blended families) how they all work together and how much we laugh, the noise doesn’t seem as overwhelming.

I love having fun as a couple and a family.  There is a shift inside when you sit back and examine the good.  I have been known to say; quite often “like a magnifying glass, what you choose to focus on will become larger and more magnified.  The more I hold that looking glass over the joys of this life, the more they show up.

This wordy girl loves her life everyday.  No matter the struggles, tears, or frustrations.  The love, laughter and joys are in more abundance than ever before.  Life is good.

I know that I talk about joy often these days.  This blog began as an outlet for a very sad and difficult season of my life. As a way to help others that may also be recovering from an abusive relationship.  To help those who struggle with finding the good amidst the hard and to help us all feel less alone.  As my life has shifted to a new season, my focus has also changed.  I want to share more of the joys of life. To focus on encouragement and hope. To continue to offer ways of finding contentment and peace throughout this busy life of family, career and relationships.

I hope to bring you more updates.  To write more often.  To encourage you in this journey of life.  NEVER GIVE UP!  The road always bends and twists and can take you some amazing places if you stay the course.  Keep working towards the best you.  When you lift your head each day, choose to focus on just one thing that can bring you joy today.

I hope that you find something beautiful to focus on today.
Till next time.

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