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Sunday reflections (21)

In thinking about what to write this Sunday, I want to be transparent as always.  As I discuss this journey to live your best self and life, I often shy away from discussing my children.  It is a piece of life I tend keep more private.  But in order to be my best self I have to (at times) share this part of me as well.  I have been in a new season in this motherhood journey I have enjoyed for the last 18years.  Having a young adult home from college for the first time, is a bringing new unexpected challenges.

Learning how to mother a young adult is new and hard!  It brings lots of joys and proud moments as I watch her reach goals and try new things.  To see her successful fills my heart.  But there are also lots of trying, difficult moments as we try to navigate this new environment.  Knowing how to parent a young adult child is just like the rest of parenthood; it comes without any guide book.

For some reason when these moments of struggle hit, I hear the words of this song below.  I thought I would share it with you today.  As I have shared before, modern Christian music will always be a genre that calms me, centers me and helps soothe some rough or thorny parts of my heart.  I can be demanding not only of myself but also of my children and partner.  It can be challenging for me to know what is the right advice to give or how to listen instead of speak.

I’m thankful for the scars.”   

In struggling how to move through these new changes I keep hearing that line.  I know my connection with these words may not be the meaning behind the song, but this is how these words speak to me.  For some reason this line in this song eases my pain and sadness that come when my daughter and I struggle.  When we have difficult conversations or can’t seem to understand each other.

I can physically see the scars on my body that bringing children into this world have left.  I can see the scar on my back where the weight of life struggles broke me down.  I can feel the scars on my heart from where I have loved, hurt and healed.  All these scars remind me that I am human.  That I am always learning.  Hopefully growing.  And we have these scars to share with others; they are our offerings to our children.  When I look at my scars as a way to help my children through life’s tough moments, they bring a sense of worthiness to all the pains of this life.  Through my scars I can show them; we may get down, we may feel broken, we may cry and writhe in pain, but we do not remain there.  Scars are pain healed over.  I get to share mine with my lover, children and friends.  Don’t hide your scars, they are part of your story.

I AM THEY -Scars
Waking up to a new sunrise
Looking back from the other side
I can see now with open eyes

Darkest water and deepest pain
I wouldn’t trade it for anything
‘Cause my brokenness brought me to you
And these wounds are a story you’ll use

So I’m thankful for the scars
‘Cause without them I wouldn’t know your heart
And I know they’ll always tell of who you are
So forever I am thankful for the scars

Now I’m sending in confidence
With the strength of your faithfulness
And I’m not who I was before
No, I don’t have to fear anymore

So I’m thankful for the scars
‘Cause without them I wouldn’t know your heart
And I know they’ll always tell of who you are
So forever I am thankful for the scars

I can see, I can see
How you delivered me
In your hands, in your feet
I found my victory

I can see, I can see
How you delivered me
In your hands, in your feet
I found my victory

I’m thankful for your scars
‘Cause without them I wouldn’t know your heart
And with my life, I’ll tell of who you are
So forever I am thankful

I’m thankful for the scars
‘Cause without them I wouldn’t know your heart
And I know they’ll always tell of who you are
So forever I am thankful for the scars
So forever I am thankful for the scars

I recommend listening to this song and finding your own interpretation.  I encourage you to find songs that you relate to, music is a great balm.  I hope you see the scars in your life as your gifts to others.  You do not have to show someone physical scars but you can use them to tell your story.  Each of us have a great story.  Each one of us are worthy to be loved.  Sharing yourself, your true authentic self, is our greatest way to give to our loved ones and others.

I hope you are able to be thankful for the road you have traveled.  For the scars you have acquired; you are living!

Do you have a song or lyrics that speak to you in difficult moments?  Do you have tips for parenting in the young adult stage of motherhood?  I would love to hear your thoughts; drop a comment or send me a message.  I love to hear your feedback.

 

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Connected Shelters

The sun is shining here in the northwest today.  The air is crisp but not too cold.  A perfect day for a run.  A mellow day at home,  working on chores,  writing,  relaxing.  A good kind of day.

But as the world often does,  it smacks us with pain and sorrow when we least expect it.  I received news this afternoon from a friend of a tragedy in their world.  And my heart breaks.

I am struck with the way we are connected when we love and care for others.  That once someone truly has a piece of our hearts,  we can’t fully ever get it back and there’s a bond that even time and distance doesn’t fully sever.

Now we don’t have to act upon this bond.  Sometimes we let that piece go,  forgetting we ever gave it away.  When the universe shows us the link,  we don’t have to answer the call.

But sometimes I think the universe reminds us were all connected.  I had sent a message to this friend earlier today,  asking if something was up.  Having no way to know,  that yes,  indeed, something was going on.   These are the moments when I’m shown that when you decide folks are a part of your tribe,  it’s possibly binding.  That perhaps there was a reason I felt the need to contact this friend; today.

As I grieve for my friend and wish to send positive thoughts, I heard this song:
Brother by Need to Breathe.  This song resonated with me as I think of the ties that bind us.  The ways we remain connected.   And I thought I would share the chorus:

Brother let me be your shelter
Never leave you all alone
I can be the one you call
When you’re low
Brother let me be your fortress
When the night winds are driving on
Be the one to light the way
Bring you home

I have heard this song many times before, but today it hit me a little differently as I was thinking about how we are to be shelters for one another.  We are to carry each other’s burdens and share the load.  We are not designed to live this life in a bubble alone, we need others. We need brothers. Sisters.  Sometimes we need to lean on one another.

May you hug your loved ones a little tighter this evening.  May you be a fortress in a storm for those that need you to be.  And may we show love to each other, every day.

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Music

Often times music speaks to many of us, today I’m replaying lyrics…

“It takes time to make your courage strong”

“You can’t change without a fallout”

I’m not all that religious,  maybe more spiritual,  but this song,  Hard Love, by Need to Breathe just speaks to me.

Sometimes the storms come to make us into who we were meant to be.  Today I’m thinking about all the things that have come into my life that could’ve broken me,  instead they are changing me,  into a better me.

This is today’s song for me.  What music speaks to you?

Link to this song:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tE3Fp8C_ufg