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Sunday reflections (21)

In thinking about what to write this Sunday, I want to be transparent as always.  As I discuss this journey to live your best self and life, I often shy away from discussing my children.  It is a piece of life I tend keep more private.  But in order to be my best self I have to (at times) share this part of me as well.  I have been in a new season in this motherhood journey I have enjoyed for the last 18years.  Having a young adult home from college for the first time, is a bringing new unexpected challenges.

Learning how to mother a young adult is new and hard!  It brings lots of joys and proud moments as I watch her reach goals and try new things.  To see her successful fills my heart.  But there are also lots of trying, difficult moments as we try to navigate this new environment.  Knowing how to parent a young adult child is just like the rest of parenthood; it comes without any guide book.

For some reason when these moments of struggle hit, I hear the words of this song below.  I thought I would share it with you today.  As I have shared before, modern Christian music will always be a genre that calms me, centers me and helps soothe some rough or thorny parts of my heart.  I can be demanding not only of myself but also of my children and partner.  It can be challenging for me to know what is the right advice to give or how to listen instead of speak.

I’m thankful for the scars.”   

In struggling how to move through these new changes I keep hearing that line.  I know my connection with these words may not be the meaning behind the song, but this is how these words speak to me.  For some reason this line in this song eases my pain and sadness that come when my daughter and I struggle.  When we have difficult conversations or can’t seem to understand each other.

I can physically see the scars on my body that bringing children into this world have left.  I can see the scar on my back where the weight of life struggles broke me down.  I can feel the scars on my heart from where I have loved, hurt and healed.  All these scars remind me that I am human.  That I am always learning.  Hopefully growing.  And we have these scars to share with others; they are our offerings to our children.  When I look at my scars as a way to help my children through life’s tough moments, they bring a sense of worthiness to all the pains of this life.  Through my scars I can show them; we may get down, we may feel broken, we may cry and writhe in pain, but we do not remain there.  Scars are pain healed over.  I get to share mine with my lover, children and friends.  Don’t hide your scars, they are part of your story.

I AM THEY -Scars
Waking up to a new sunrise
Looking back from the other side
I can see now with open eyes

Darkest water and deepest pain
I wouldn’t trade it for anything
‘Cause my brokenness brought me to you
And these wounds are a story you’ll use

So I’m thankful for the scars
‘Cause without them I wouldn’t know your heart
And I know they’ll always tell of who you are
So forever I am thankful for the scars

Now I’m sending in confidence
With the strength of your faithfulness
And I’m not who I was before
No, I don’t have to fear anymore

So I’m thankful for the scars
‘Cause without them I wouldn’t know your heart
And I know they’ll always tell of who you are
So forever I am thankful for the scars

I can see, I can see
How you delivered me
In your hands, in your feet
I found my victory

I can see, I can see
How you delivered me
In your hands, in your feet
I found my victory

I’m thankful for your scars
‘Cause without them I wouldn’t know your heart
And with my life, I’ll tell of who you are
So forever I am thankful

I’m thankful for the scars
‘Cause without them I wouldn’t know your heart
And I know they’ll always tell of who you are
So forever I am thankful for the scars
So forever I am thankful for the scars

I recommend listening to this song and finding your own interpretation.  I encourage you to find songs that you relate to, music is a great balm.  I hope you see the scars in your life as your gifts to others.  You do not have to show someone physical scars but you can use them to tell your story.  Each of us have a great story.  Each one of us are worthy to be loved.  Sharing yourself, your true authentic self, is our greatest way to give to our loved ones and others.

I hope you are able to be thankful for the road you have traveled.  For the scars you have acquired; you are living!

Do you have a song or lyrics that speak to you in difficult moments?  Do you have tips for parenting in the young adult stage of motherhood?  I would love to hear your thoughts; drop a comment or send me a message.  I love to hear your feedback.

 

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Sunday reflections (13)

It’s another day to celebrate. Mother’s Day! What a fabulous day it’s been to be celebrated by so many that I love and show me love.

Sending a thank you to all the moms that sacrifice to bring children up. May you be honored today by all whom you love.

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Graduation

T-minus 36hours!  That is all that is left till my first baby, my oldest, my only daughter graduates high school.  An entire year early!  The tears fill my eyes so easily these days as I watch her work hard to complete this goal she has set.  Seeing all that she has accomplished the past 9months to graduate and head off to college, makes me so proud.  Sometimes the emotions are overwhelming.  Pride and excitement along with some sadness as we enter into a new phase of this parenting journey.

As others are entering this stage, know that you are not alone on the path of letting go while still desiring to hold on.  That we enter this new arena of almost-adulthood and yet can still recall all those moments of childhood that have passed by so incredibly fast.

To those with little ones, hold on extra tight.  And breathe through the moments that seem endless and exhausting.  Soon enough they will be letting go of your hand to run out into this great big world!  And to those in the middle when these beautiful beings that we love beyond rational reason, are driving us into possible madness with their anger and frustration as they navigate the middle teen years. Know that this will pass and they have actually listened to the wisdom you have been trying as patiently as possible to instill.

For those of you that are about to celebrate graduation along with me–Great Job!  You Did It!  We made it!  We raised up the next generation!  Pat yourself on the back!  Be proud that you have helped guide and mold another human that is going to impact the world!

Time has flown, faster than I could possibly imagine!  I wouldn’t trade any of these moments, for they have helped us arrive here, to this beautiful place!

So proud of you baby girl!   Congratulations!  Can’t wait to watch what goals you will crush next!  Thank you for the amazing ride called motherhood that you have brought me on, love you beyond the moon and back!  🙂

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Mothers

Happy Mothers day to all the mamas out there. Enjoying my pretty surprise flowers, cards and gifts from my kiddos and a lunch outing. Beautiful day.

Hope your day is as well.

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8 (and 1/2) ways to bring beauty into your home on a budget

Tonight I thought I would revisit an older post and add a few updates.

For a very long time, money was extremely tight in my single mama household.  The idea of spending $4.99 for a bouquet of 5 tulips I could not spare.  And I love tulips!  I love flowers!  This is one of the only things I ever request for my birthday or as a special gift.  But this was a luxury that I could not afford very often.

I have found throughout the lean years that we could still create beauty even on a shoestring budget.  That it does not take much to brighten our homes and we gain an opportunity to be creative.

Here are a few things you can do to create beauty in your home and life, on less or for even no money at all.

  1. Find a single flower that you like.  If you can, buy just one.  Place the single flower in a small vase, set it by your bedside so you see it when you go to bed and when you wake up.  This will be something that makes you smile, which is an extra bonus for your family.
  2. Plant your favorite flower in a pot or in your yard if you can.  When this blooms, pick a flower each week and do the same as before, either place near the bed or in the bathroom, where you get to see as you start and end each day.
  3. Look through old cards and if they have a photograph or picture that you like, frame them.  Often times we keep cards from birthdays or anniversaries, but we put them in a box and do not really think about them again.  Bring them out.  See if any have sentiments that would bring you joy to read on a regular basis.  Or perhaps the card itself was beautiful, frame it. Set it on your desk or counter where you can look at every day.  Let it fill you with joy.   3b.  If you have many of these cards, you could create a collage of them or frame a set of them, as a collection, up on a wall.  
  4. Go for a walk in a park that you love, take your cell phone and take pictures of the scenery.  Take a few of them and have them printed out. You can now print from your cell at numerous places.  Put these on the fridge.  Frame them.  Stick them on the bathroom mirror.  Seeing your own photography of items you love, adds to the joy.
  5. If you can draw or paint, go to Pinterest or online and find a picture or image and recreate it.  You can find paints, small canvases or a drawing pad for under $5 at many different craft places.  Being creative is a great way to bring your own brand of beauty into your home.
  6. When looking online, if you cannot draw or paint (as I can’t) print out the images you like.  There are lots of options to finding free pictures, as long as you are not looking to sell other peoples art, you should be able to print these out.  If you can not afford to frame them, make a wall collage of 6 or 9 small pictures. Make them bright and colorful or black and white.  Just something cohesive that pleases your eye.   I have an old collection of postcards that are all in pink, framing 3 of them creates a nice wall hanging for one of my bathrooms.  Simple, pleasing and easy to do.
  7. Ask a friend that is creative to re-make the item you find pretty.   If you can not re-create it and you have friends that can ask them.  To keep it less expensive or free, offer an exchange for what you are good at.  I can not draw to save my life, but I can sew.  If I wanted a beautiful picture recreated, I could ask my sis-in-law who paints beautifully and in exchange, I could make her a quilt.  Utilize your friend’s strengths, offer your own as well.  Folks like to be helpful and useful; this could be a great opportunity for someone to showcase their own talents.  Which creates a whole other level of self-care and helps others.
  8. Or even (possibly) better, have your children create your art.  Let them draw, paint, or color you a picture.  It could be anything they wish or you could give them direction.  I am thinking perhaps I should ask my bigger kids to do this.  They could draw me some flowers, I could frame them, then I would have them always.  Or you could make this a tradition and keep a scrapbook of their drawings, that you leave out, like a coffee table book, but with your families’ art.  What a great conversation piece and a way to bring a mama some special joy.

Creating beauty in our homes does not have to be hard, expensive or take a lot of time. We are often short on time and energy, so thinking about making our spaces more beautiful instead of just functional can be something we rarely get around to.  But when you put just a tiny bit of time into creating spaces that you truly love, you are able to relax more.  Able to rest more and recharge.  Looking at things you enjoy can’t help but bring positive thoughts more to the forefront of your mind.  This is just one way you can take care of yourself.  Create spaces you love.  Bring beauty in however you can.

Let me know if you have any ideas to add to the list.  Tell me how you create beauty on a budget in your own home.  I love hearing new ideas.