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Wordy Girl Wednesday (4) — Tips for staying positive during this time

The new season of juggling work, school, and sports is upon me!  I imagine it is for you too!  I find at times trying to keep all the balls in the air is more of a struggle than I care to admit.  Lately that has been the case.  I long for time to relax and rest more, but I also want to accomplish my goals and create memories with my partner and all our kids.  So in this season, one thing that helps is to find ways to stay positive when often I am exhausted.

Here are the ways I try to practice positivity in this season:

  1. I stay focused on the end goal.  This season of raising children will end and I want them to have some good memories of their childhood as well as become healthy, successful adults.  When I am overwhelmed with all the running around we must do and the endless tasks, I try to keep that in mind.  We are raising adults, not children. We are teaching the habits they will carry into adulthood.  It is important to teach all these kids how to juggle life with a good attitude as much as possible.
  2. We take a date night; every single week. Even if it is just a couple hours together.  My partner and I made a commitment to each other from the start that we would prioritize our partnership.  We would make sure the children understood we are committed to each other and creating a solid foundation.  It can tough between work, school functions and soccer games for us to find the time and energy but we are always better for it and it keeps us connected. And it shows our children how to have a healthy relationship.
  3. I make time for exercise.  Sometimes that 30 minutes alone going for a walk or riding my bike or doing an exercise video is the only alone time I can get.  Take advantage of doing something for your physical health as well as your mental health.  Working out is vital to staying healthy and calm throughout the chaos of life in my opinion.  And it releases all the feel good, happy endorphins so it’s a win in trying to staying positive.
  4. I use the calendar.  We have a large calendar on the wall in the kitchen near the garage door.  It is seen daily by every one of us.  With all the activities we could have going on at one time, keeping track with colors and names is important for helping us to not forget things.  And it allows me to know what we can say yes to based on prior commitments.
  5. We communicate. With a family of 6, you have lots of opportunities for misses.  And many more opportunities for connections.  When I get home from work (as I work the latest) everyone is usually coming around to share their day with me.  Asking about school, homework, activities, life in general, is my way of staying in touch with what is going on with each of them.  They all have lots to say and keeping that end goal in mind; I want to hear from them.  I want them to share with me.  Because we have built an environment where the kids feel they can share, we have a home with lots of conversation.

Staying connected and positive can be tough when you are juggling all the demands of partnership, parenthood and employment.  Finding ways to keep your sanity is vital. Learning to communicate what you feel and think is necessary in all relationships but especially in the seasons of change where there can be so much noise from the chaos you forget to keep focused on what truly matters.

I am not always positive and happy.  I struggle with overwhelm and unhappy days just like anyone else.  But I desire to have a healthy life and home more than almost anything.  Giving my partner and our children the best me is often at the forefront of my mind.  I fail I am sure as much as I succeed, but each day I tackle anew.

I hope you find encouragement in these posts. These are just my thoughts; please share ways that you stay calm and focused during seasons of change and chaos.  As always I hope you are living your best life as much as possible.

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Happy Wednesday

Today is another day to begin in contentment and joy.  It’s a beautiful sunshine filled morning.  I love starting my day focused on all the positive in life.   The other day I realized that while I liked my life before, after healing from all the abuse and chaos, I didn’t really love love it.  I enjoyed my children, family and friends. I laughed often and had fun with my kids.  But there was a piece missing.  Not a piece of me, I am whole and healthy all by myself.  But that piece that a partner brings.  That part of having a best friend you can count on every single day, the one who keeps you warm when you are cold, who helps you with all the daily tasks, makes you laugh and who answers the same question about the locks a million times.

When you wake up each day loving your life, it’s easy to stay positive and wear a smile.  I am a big believer that the way to change your life is all about mindset.  What you choose to focus on.  I once read a quote that talked about seeing life through a magnifying glass. That when you hold it up to the negative things, they will appear even larger and become a greater obstacle.  But when you hold it over and highlight the positive, you become more positive, things seem brighter and you feel like you can do anything.  That what you choose to magnify will become your life.  I committed a while ago to magnifying the good, the positive, the beautiful.

As you go about your day today, think about what you hold the magnifying glass over?  Do you hold it over the things you dislike?  Over the coworkers that are negative and annoying?  The issues or bad attitude your kids or partner bring home some days?  All the ways you think you can’t do something?  Or do you magnify the good?  The beautiful sunrise you see on the way to work?  The way your kids want to share their stories?  The wonderful laugh your partner has?

I am sending you all positive thoughts today. Hoping you focus on the good.  Hoping you can find just one wonderful thing in your day; your relationship, work or home that brings you joy.  Search for it, even if you are living or working in not so great conditions.  Magnify the One thing that may be good.  Watch it become larger as you focus in. When you search for beauty, you will most assuredly find it.

Have a great Wednesday.

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Sunday reflections (6)

This thought is on my mind this morning:

Not exactly sure why as I’m pretty positive most of the time. But think I’m needing to remind myself of this this morning. Sometimes we get down a negative thinking pattern and we have to stop and redirect. Not feeling that great is often a trigger for me to start on that path. But today I’m going to focus on this, even when not feeling 100% I get to choose my thoughts. I hope whatever your trigger for negative thoughts is, you can identify and choose a different course. For me today, I’m going to keep this quote in mind.

Have a great Sunday!