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Sunday reflections (2)

The beginning of a new year seems to always lend itself to new resolutions, new commitments, new strategies for tackling life. One area I’ve been focused on is my morning routine.

How do you wake up? Do you wake up to an alarm every day? Children calling for you? Do you bounce out of bed or crankily climb out, longing to stay wrapped in the covers?

I’m fortunate (in my opinion) to be a morning person. I tend to wake up slightly before the alarm. To be wide awake once my feet hit the floor. This doesn’t mean I always want to get up. I often long to keep sleeping, even though I know it’s my best time of the day. So this year I begin with a new commitment to begin each day without compliant. Without a negative thought that I’m having to get out of bed. Waking up before everyone, before even the sun can be challenging so this is a deliberate commitment.

Sundays are an easy day to tackle this as there’s no alarm for me today and I can sleep as long as I want. Having older children means I’m at a stage of life where they all sleep in usually.

This morning as I’m enjoying my coffee, reading and journaling I’m reminded to be grateful that getting up is easy. My body is no longer in the pain it was a year ago. My heart is full of love for a partner that respects me and truly treats me like a queen. My house is full of love and family.

Today, think about how you get out of bed each day. Are you grateful to be starting a fresh day or do you long to stay sleeping? Finding things to be thankful for helps keep the motivation to get up going. Being grateful keeps joy at the forefront.

Sending you positive vibes this Sunday morning. Here’s to starting a new week without compliant.

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New Year’s Resolutions—or not!

Happy New Year!  Welcome, 2018!  It’s the 2nd day of the new year, did you get up early today?  Hit the gym?  Start a new program?  Write? Read?  Start a new diet?   If you are like the majority, you are working hard today to start something new, to change your life.

I am not mocking this. I love the beginning of a new year, what feels new and fresh and a great opportunity for change.  For years I have done the same thing.  Every New Years Day it was all about setting family and personal goals.  Some years I achieved many of them, more often than not I haven’t.   I might hit a few, make it further than the average of January 15th before giving up, plain forgetting or losing focus.  Letting the distractions of raising a family and having a job get in the way of what I tell myself I want to accomplish.

This year, I decided was going to be different.  Back in November I started to research and listen and seek new ways of reaching goals.  Ways of making lasting changes rather than just words and never following through.  I also decided that I would not wait until January 1 to start some of these things.  That when I really want to change, I need to act NOW!  Some things I gave myself a deadline of December 31, that January 1 would be a jumping off point, but not a resolution!

I like new.  I like to move, to change my environment.  I was once told I would make a good military wife because I enjoy new places, learning a new area, meeting new people, that I am very adaptable.  I have never minded moving.  There is excitement in change.  But I have also realized that I like the changes that I control.  Surprises, unexpected changes that I am not the one driving, these are not so much to my liking.  I imagine this may be the truth for many of us.

But setting goals and accomplishing them, these are in my control.  Changing my own ways of thinking, my daily actions, my personal beliefs that I tell myself about myself, my body, my finances, etc; all of these are within my control.  We often set resolutions that we allow others; our children, spouses, families, friends, time, etc to distract and pull us away from.  I think it is possible to accomplish anything we wish!  But to do that we have to change our mindset.

So while researching new ways to set “resolutions” and accomplish goals, I found some things that I am doing this year to change the way I tackle the New Year!  To create the life I desire.  And I didn’t wait till Jan 1, sometimes we might want to follow the definition of resolution:  1. the act of resolving or determining upon an action, a course of action, method,  procedure, etc   2. the mental state or quality of being resolved or resolute, firmness of purpose. 

With the definition of resolution in mind,  here are a few of  things I have been doing and how I am approaching 2018:

  • I found a book called The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod, read it and immediately started the daily practice.  I was already doing the Exercise piece, but I implemented the remaining activities.
  • I started working out 5-6 days a week.  Nothing major, mostly walking at least 30 minutes a day,  adding in weights, biking, new activities every few weeks.  Again I started this the day I decided to, back around Thanksgiving.
  • I began reading every day.  Mostly these are personal development books, but there is some mind candy in there as well.  Sometimes we just want some fluff.
  • I chose to pick a word for the year instead of a list of goals or resolutions.   My word for this year is DELIBERATE.  I choose to make deliberate choices with my time, my money, my children, my friends, etc.  I want that what I do lines up with the vision of the life I want to create.  And in becoming deliberate, I don’t allow others or life circumstances to dictate for me, to get me off course.  If I am deliberate then even when the tough moments hit or I don’t “feel” like moving towards the goal, I will already be in the habit of making choices that align with my goals.  I won’t say no to working out just because I am out of town, or on vacation or only have a few minutes.
  • I am back to creating lists.  I grew up in a home where my mom was always making a list.  For EVERYTHING it seemed!  I too used to make lists!  I would create a chore list, often after I had already done a couple of chores, so I would add those to the list, just so I could cross them out and feel a little bit accomplished.  Lol.   I am not sure when or why I stopped the practice of making a list, but I am back to this practice.  For me, I am finding that creating a weekly list of things I want to get done that week is working better for me.  I am able to decide what days and times work best for me to get these items done and can check them off and then evaluate at the end of the week if I completed these and if not and they are important, move them to the next week.  Creating a weekly list has improved my productivity and sense of calm and peace in my home and self.
  • I listen to podcasts, YouTube videos, anything that is in alignment with helping propel me forward rather than keeping me stuck.  This may be a specific area or multiple;  I choose to listen to a topic for a week or however long it takes to change my mindset, my focus and assist in making a change.

How do you start the New Year?  Do you set goals, resolutions, things you hope to accomplish?  Do you have these grand notions of all the changes you can make in one year?  How are you going about doing that?  Do you have a plan or just an idea?  Have you had past success and how did you make the changes you wanted?  I would love to hear what you are doing to make 2018 your best year!

Look for changes as I continue to focus in on my vision for this blog; living out our best selves, our best life. Finding ways to create lives we love as women, mothers, daughters, wives, friends, etc.  I wish you a fabulous first week of 2018!  May this be the year you accomplish those resolutions, or not.  Perhaps you will find a new way to tackle the goals you have!  Find a way to live your BEST LIFE!