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Stuck at home? Quarantined? 6 things you can still do to practice self care.

It’s a strange time we’re living in right now. Most everyone I know would agree we’ve not lived through moments like this before. We don’t have experience in lock downs and stay at home orders. We aren’t used to seeing folks in masks at the grocery store. Or viewing empty shelves and lines just to buy the essentials. This moment in time is new and unprecedented for most of us.

While my morning looks the same today; quiet, sun shining, coffee in hand and my family still sleeping; the world we live in isn’t the same. We sat glued to the television last night watching the expected”stay at home” order announcement. As we went about our evening after I couldn’t help but think what that means for tomorrow when I’m to go to work. It’s hard to know how this order effects my day to day life. I’m not in an essential job (in my opinion) but I’m sure my employer sees this differently. So I’m waking up in a new reality trying to make some decisions.

One thing I’m thinking on though is how to get some self care in when everyone is home and there’s very little chance to get alone time. As a mother how do I still take care of myself while all the children are around every moment? I’m sure many of you parents are stressed and worried and are busy caring for so many others that your own needs are lost in the fray.   Besides the new worries about health we still have the same stressors as before with jobs, bills and now how to make sure these kids’ education stays on track. It is a different world already and here in the US; only under 2 weeks into this crisis. 

So how do we cope?  How do we function in a world gone mad in some ways?  What do you do to stay focused on goals? To stay healthy mentally and physically?   We all know to keep distances from others outside our homes.  We know not to shake hands or hug on others.   But what do we do for our own individual sanity each day?  

Here are a few things I am doing to keep myself from becoming too overwhelmed by this moment in time: 

  1. Believe this too shall pass!  Having Faith in times of trials has always helped me.  No matter what that faith is in, call it God, Universe, etc…believing there is a purpose to life and our own individual place in it, helps me get through moments that do not make much sense.  Faith is like a house foundation for me.  It holds everything else up.
  2. Continue to keep similar routines, even with everyone home.  I have been the first one up (most days) for the last few years.  I am still continuing that.   Still starting my day with quiet meditation, reading and journaling.  Still setting my alarm to get up and start the day; not hiding under the covers.  
  3. Keep active!  Exercise is always important for physical and mental health.  Keep going for a walk; even if in your house.  Do sit ups.  Squats. Push ups.  Do things that will get your heart rate up (if you are healthy to do so) and help those positive endorphins release.  
  4. Set a time for how much you read or watch the news.  Just like crisis’s in the past, the news coverage is on 24/7.  We have access to news from all over the globe.  We have to learn to turn it off now and again.  Creating a boundary for the amount of time we devote to being hammered with information is important. Boundaries are for our protection, set limits. 
  5. Learn a new skill.   Now is the time to try something new at home that you may have always been interested in.  There have been numerous websites that are listing classes, videos, webcasts or podcasts for free.  You can probably at least get an introduction to something you have been waiting to learn.  
  6.  Get enough rest.  Do not stay up late watching another news cast.  You will be able to see it all the next day.  Do not stay up late eating cause you are stressed about how to pay everything and what will you do next.  Sleep is vital to your brain function.  You need your mind and body to function at optimal health and sleep is necessary to achieve this.  If you suffer insomnia (especially in times of stress) try to take rests often; at least close your eyes and try to turn the mind noise down.  

In times of stress it is very hard to make time for yourself and your needs.  I know we are all experiencing different reactions to this crisis, but remember each life is valuable.  YOU MATTER!  Your family needs you to be at your best.  No matter what crisis comes our way we will get to the other side.  Taking care of yourself makes you better prepared to care for others.  Keep fighting to stay healthy and sane. 

Wishing each of you good health. 

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Wordy Girl Wednesday– mood changers

It’s a cold dreary day here in the Northwest.  I am definitely thankful I work inside. Days like today are tough to be working all day outside; I commend those that can.  Just like the grey sky; my mood has been a bit grey the past few days.  Some of my mood is due to life stresses that we all experience from time to time.  But some of it is that I am just cranky.  Sometimes we are all that way; when we wished we had just stayed in bed and not had to do anything.  But like many of you, I have a family and a job so I have to pull myself out of bed and get on with it.  This week has been a challenge in wanting to do that.

In recognizing that I need to change my attitude I thought I would share with you what I have been doing this week to work on that.

Here are a few tips I try:

  1. I tend to chat by text with my partner.  He is a great listener and just lets me be.  If I am spun up over something kind of silly and inconsequential, he just reads it and says he is there for me.   This kind of support is often enough to make me feel heard and calmer.
  2. I take a walk. Sometimes this can be hard to do during a busy day but I think it is vital especially when trying to not vent all your frustrations to your coworkers.  Just take 10 min and walk around the building.  Go get some water. Sometimes the quick walk just clears my head enough for me to feel I can go back to my desk more focused.
  3. Listen to music.  Or a podcast.  Or an audio book.  Sometimes when I am having a not so good day, I will just put on my headset, find some music I like and allow the music to soothe me some.  Or I will listen to podcasts from different blogs I follow.  Having to concentrate a bit on what they are speaking about can be enough to change my thoughts. Gives me something else to focus on.

These are things I’ve been trying this week as my attitude has been a bit gloomy and grumpy like our weather. Changing your thoughts is work. Staying positive sometimes requires some extra effort. But it’s always worth it. No one really wants to be around someone who is crabbing at them, especially when our bad mood isn’t anyone else’s fault. We are responsible for our own thoughts and actions.

It is not always easy to pull yourself out of a bad mood.  What do you try?

 

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Sunday Reflections (29) – Mindset

I’ve been thinking the past few days about the reoccurring themes in life. There have been many times when my ideas, types of people I attracted and activities I participated in were within the same general theme. Meaning I wasn’t healthy so my actions weren’t. The people I chose to spend time with weren’t. How I thought about myself and life wasn’t very positive.

But as I’ve talked about, the past few years I’ve been committed to personal growth. To changing how I think and live. The books I read are all about this. The people I spend time with are positive and healthy. My reoccurring patterns are now about growth and mindset.

When you desire to become your best self and live your best life, you have to work on your thinking first and foremost. This thought isn’t new but it can be very tough to do.

These quotes are reminders of that theme.

What are the reoccurring themes in your life? Are they positive? Do you focus on the good in life or the bad? You can always find both.

Being committed to change and growth all starts in your mind. I encourage you to do the mind work. Find books. Podcasts. Blogs. Anything that will feed your mind in a positive way. That will help you change your patterns of thinking so you can change your patterns of living.

I’m off to read my latest book about mindset. I hope you have a fabulous Sunday.

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Sunday reflections (28)

I’ve been on vacation this past week. Celebrating my son and my birthday’s. Just relaxing and taking time to be creative and recharge.

These words below I wanted to re-share today as I’m about to head back to work and the usual grind. I find for me my long work days can hinder my creativity. Can leave me too exhausted to do much of anything at the end of the day.

But I’ve big dreams and goals of creating a life of time freedom. Living where I desire, traveling when we want. To create this kind of life, I will have to make changes in this current stage to prepare for the next one.

These just stand out to me today. Enjoy. I hope you are living your best life or at least heading towards it.

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Facing fear

I’m in over-drive today. Lack of sleep. Lots of mind whirling today as we have new opportunities to decide about.  Thoughts a bit overwhelmed by all the ideas floating about.

And as I’m working through the pros and cons of new possibilities, I’m reminded of these thoughts/quotes. I’m reflecting on these as I desire to live my best life.

I am pretty content each day.  I am living so many parts of my definition of a great life.  And I am committed to being the best me I can be. Sometimes that means I have to tackle fear of the unknown. Fear of making a bad decision. Fear of failing.

And because I’ve seen the rewards that come from pushing past fear. Overcoming failure, I am reflecting on what decisions I need to make to continue on this path.

May you relate to these quotes if tackling important decisions. Facing new ideas or possibilities. Don’t let fear hold you back.