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What a beautiful pause

I went out for a drive last night. Sometimes I just need a minute away. Away from the noise and busyness that comes with a full life. A life I love but at times can be overwhelming. And this week has been so full already. Seeing the new changes on the house we are building. Starting a new position at work. Hitting my workout goals each day. Life can keep us so busy and hectic that we forget to stop and be grateful.

So I love the moments I’m reminded to slow down. Breathe. Take in the beauty of this world. And last night this amazingly beautiful sunset stopped me. It stopped my endless thoughts. Quieted my mood and activity. As I pulled my car over to just sit in awe for a moment I was reminded to be grateful for another day. To be thankful I get to see beautiful things.

The pictures do not show the awesome pink this actually was. It can’t show how the entire western sky was painted. I love the moments that take my breathe away.

Sometimes you just need a reminder. To Pause. Breathe. Enjoy. And how I love when the reminder is so pretty.

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In thinking about what to write this Sunday, I want to be transparent as always.  As I discuss this journey to live your best self and life, I often shy away from discussing my children.  It is a piece of life I tend keep more private.  But in order to be my best self I have to (at times) share this part of me as well.  I have been in a new season in this motherhood journey I have enjoyed for the last 18years.  Having a young adult home from college for the first time, is a bringing new unexpected challenges.

Learning how to mother a young adult is new and hard!  It brings lots of joys and proud moments as I watch her reach goals and try new things.  To see her successful fills my heart.  But there are also lots of trying, difficult moments as we try to navigate this new environment.  Knowing how to parent a young adult child is just like the rest of parenthood; it comes without any guide book.

For some reason when these moments of struggle hit, I hear the words of this song below.  I thought I would share it with you today.  As I have shared before, modern Christian music will always be a genre that calms me, centers me and helps soothe some rough or thorny parts of my heart.  I can be demanding not only of myself but also of my children and partner.  It can be challenging for me to know what is the right advice to give or how to listen instead of speak.

I’m thankful for the scars.”   

In struggling how to move through these new changes I keep hearing that line.  I know my connection with these words may not be the meaning behind the song, but this is how these words speak to me.  For some reason this line in this song eases my pain and sadness that come when my daughter and I struggle.  When we have difficult conversations or can’t seem to understand each other.

I can physically see the scars on my body that bringing children into this world have left.  I can see the scar on my back where the weight of life struggles broke me down.  I can feel the scars on my heart from where I have loved, hurt and healed.  All these scars remind me that I am human.  That I am always learning.  Hopefully growing.  And we have these scars to share with others; they are our offerings to our children.  When I look at my scars as a way to help my children through life’s tough moments, they bring a sense of worthiness to all the pains of this life.  Through my scars I can show them; we may get down, we may feel broken, we may cry and writhe in pain, but we do not remain there.  Scars are pain healed over.  I get to share mine with my lover, children and friends.  Don’t hide your scars, they are part of your story.

I AM THEY -Scars
Waking up to a new sunrise
Looking back from the other side
I can see now with open eyes

Darkest water and deepest pain
I wouldn’t trade it for anything
‘Cause my brokenness brought me to you
And these wounds are a story you’ll use

So I’m thankful for the scars
‘Cause without them I wouldn’t know your heart
And I know they’ll always tell of who you are
So forever I am thankful for the scars

Now I’m sending in confidence
With the strength of your faithfulness
And I’m not who I was before
No, I don’t have to fear anymore

So I’m thankful for the scars
‘Cause without them I wouldn’t know your heart
And I know they’ll always tell of who you are
So forever I am thankful for the scars

I can see, I can see
How you delivered me
In your hands, in your feet
I found my victory

I can see, I can see
How you delivered me
In your hands, in your feet
I found my victory

I’m thankful for your scars
‘Cause without them I wouldn’t know your heart
And with my life, I’ll tell of who you are
So forever I am thankful

I’m thankful for the scars
‘Cause without them I wouldn’t know your heart
And I know they’ll always tell of who you are
So forever I am thankful for the scars
So forever I am thankful for the scars

I recommend listening to this song and finding your own interpretation.  I encourage you to find songs that you relate to, music is a great balm.  I hope you see the scars in your life as your gifts to others.  You do not have to show someone physical scars but you can use them to tell your story.  Each of us have a great story.  Each one of us are worthy to be loved.  Sharing yourself, your true authentic self, is our greatest way to give to our loved ones and others.

I hope you are able to be thankful for the road you have traveled.  For the scars you have acquired; you are living!

Do you have a song or lyrics that speak to you in difficult moments?  Do you have tips for parenting in the young adult stage of motherhood?  I would love to hear your thoughts; drop a comment or send me a message.  I love to hear your feedback.

 

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I was reading an article the other day about the power of gratitude. How the simple act of being thankful on the daily can rewire nuerons in your brain. How cool is that?!

One simple thing has that much power as to change my brain function?! And it’s such a simple choice to say thank you. To focus on the things you’re grateful for in your partner, kids, parents, job, etc. It’s too easy not to do.

Reflecting on how I can be thankful for more things more often. Perhaps a challenge will be on it’s way soon.

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My cup runneth over.

I know I’ve written often about gratitude but I have to again. This is a reoccurring theme these days. Today I’m overwhelmed with thankfulness for my life! I’m feeling sappy and smiling. Beautifully exhausted as we stayed up too late enjoying time without kids, which is a rare event.

The past (almost) year has been life changing. So many changes and more to come. But tackling life with a partner that loves and respects you is amazing, makes me believe anything is possible.

Not every moment of every day is wonderful. We get tired. We get short with the ones we love. But even those moments, once mended, bring us closer and create so much growth and connection that I can’t help but be thankful for them.

Just wanted to share the joy. And this message of gratitude. Hope you are having just as wonderful of a day.

There is something amazing that happens to your soul when you stay in a state of thanksgiving. It pours out of you. Smiles and laughter are hard to contain.

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Sunday reflections (2)

The beginning of a new year seems to always lend itself to new resolutions, new commitments, new strategies for tackling life. One area I’ve been focused on is my morning routine.

How do you wake up? Do you wake up to an alarm every day? Children calling for you? Do you bounce out of bed or crankily climb out, longing to stay wrapped in the covers?

I’m fortunate (in my opinion) to be a morning person. I tend to wake up slightly before the alarm. To be wide awake once my feet hit the floor. This doesn’t mean I always want to get up. I often long to keep sleeping, even though I know it’s my best time of the day. So this year I begin with a new commitment to begin each day without compliant. Without a negative thought that I’m having to get out of bed. Waking up before everyone, before even the sun can be challenging so this is a deliberate commitment.

Sundays are an easy day to tackle this as there’s no alarm for me today and I can sleep as long as I want. Having older children means I’m at a stage of life where they all sleep in usually.

This morning as I’m enjoying my coffee, reading and journaling I’m reminded to be grateful that getting up is easy. My body is no longer in the pain it was a year ago. My heart is full of love for a partner that respects me and truly treats me like a queen. My house is full of love and family.

Today, think about how you get out of bed each day. Are you grateful to be starting a fresh day or do you long to stay sleeping? Finding things to be thankful for helps keep the motivation to get up going. Being grateful keeps joy at the forefront.

Sending you positive vibes this Sunday morning. Here’s to starting a new week without compliant.